PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

ah that makes sense blackholes - thanks!

Thanks for the welcome everyone Have added myself to the list -

GaryBuseysTeeth: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 10th Aug
Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31st October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov next scan 28 June
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov. next scan 2nd July
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November, Next Scan 2nd July
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 22 Nov, next scan 8th July
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov, next scan 9th July
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November. next scan 15th July
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec, Next scan 26 July
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec (Xmas baby!)
pumpkinsweetie mc1, edd:03/01/14,
Stitchinline: 2MC, 1DD, EDD 30 Dec
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 30 Dec
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4th March
Rock:
Liesl:
Kitty:

Had my NT, got some lovely clear pics of bubba this time, measurments all fine and nt was 2.5, had my bloods done too. My dates are put back again though lol: now i'm due 05/01/14

Annoyed my Bmi is mentioned on my scan again though, considering measurments good and pictures clear can't see why the need to write about my maternal mass causing pictures to not be clear-lovely! Not

But anyway feeling positive today

Hi Rock and Guff :-)

Pumpkin glad scan measurements were good and you got a nice picture to take away:-)

Thanks for stats Pink. I find it really heartwarming to see a list of so many brave ladies who've been through a loss/losses and who are on the road again. Although i'm far along now, i still think you worry more about everything (compared to women who havent miscarried) even right till the end of the pregnancy because of your previous loss - hence I'm still massively on edge and won't be convinced its ok till I actually hold my first child in my arms, hopefully.

Cos only have phone here in my hospital 'cell', pls could someone add me as I can't copy/paste? Although I'm due soon to be fair so maybe no point! But if you want to, it's 1 MMC, due July 10.

Love and strength to you all x

Sorry, i got a bit deep then ooops! Stupid pregnancy hormones...

Hi ladies, not been round much this week but still here!!

Jess- keep going, not long until baby will be here and every long boring hour you have spent in hospital will be so worth it. Have you got a kindle to keep you company, can highly recommend The Hunger Games.

Stitch- sorry to hear your news, hope you have all the support you need around you.

Welcome to our new ladies, here to hold your hands as I remember only too clearly how bloody scary the early weeks are.

I had my 16 week midwife appointment today- it was in the same room and with the same midwife that I saw the day I started MC last time. Bit it was ok, and I heard the baby's heartbeat.
Laughing about the antenatal education- my poor baby just hears me ranting about work, and dealing with 2 tired children. I am also feeing it lots of crisps- oh well. I feel pretty hideous with all the weight gain, wish I could eat better as I know it will be hard to shift afterwards!!

Janie - the dog most definitely did not get any today! Just one pg lady allowed in this house seriously though we got her when DS was 8weeks old, she was 20weeks and unhouse trained (and I was sleep deprived and easily talked into things -DH is a bad bad man)

So not doing puppies with her, in fact she is getting the snip after this cycle as the mess is really annoying (have been thinking whether a dog tampon would work? "Dog-pon"?)

Great Scan news Pumpkin, my nt was 2.5 too, just got the low risk letter through today.

And I caved and bought a Doppler which arrived today too, so have managed to find bumps HB

Jess - totally get how you feel, I sailed through being pg with DS never appreciating the lack of worry. That started as soon as they let us out of the hospital with him! With this one it's constant since before I had the BFP

pumpkin" great news on the scan! And jmf* yay for listening to the heartbeat on your 16-week appointment!

jess you're almost there, how exciting! I second the Hunger Games suggestion if you get too bored. I read the trilogy during my first trimester and it was a great distraction (it helped me get through the difficult first few weeks)

shell all the best for you 20-week scan tomorrow! x

sorry, too much bold font in my previous post! I messed it up a bit, didn't I?

choc I want a doppler too - I could use one for the quiet days!

lucky I'm sure the baby is fine, do you know if you have an anterior placenta?

Ooh shell good luck tomorrow!! Xx

Thinking of you today Shell! xxx

Ooh shell - scan day! How exciting! Good luck, will be thinking of you!

Goodluck today shell xxx

chocolate - you can get a dog nappy apparently (to retain the mess when they're on heat). We were the same - got a puppy when DC1 was tiny and it was a PITA. I would do a baby again (have to say that, given my current upduffedness!!) but not a puppy!!

So, had a tiny bit of spotting yesterday. I've stayed quite calm about it though except the two hours I was lying awake last night convinced I was cramping as there was only one spot and nothing more.

Good luck today shell.

I'm now really curious about what some of you do for a living. I'm now convinced that Garden is a member of the production staff on Jeremy Kyle. And shell must be a lawyer/architect/accountant in private practice. You have my full sympathy for year end pains (you and chocolate) - ours is 31/12 and I hate it, because it ruins Christmas party season with this frantic drive to get things finished to bump up the figures!! Hurrah for being due over Christmas again - I get to escape the pain!

Sorry abt your spot santa, one spot does not spotting make so I won't call it that I'm sure there is nothing to worry abt with that small amount

And we have a winner! I do work in tax for a private accountant practice Year end is actually a god send today as I'm so busy not got time to stress abt the scan much

Thanks for the good wishes will let you know tonight..still thinking we won't find out the sex but DH is wavering!

Welcome & congratulations Guff!

Shell, good luck, hope 4pm comes around quickly with you.
My 20wk scan with DS, the sonographer accidently showed us a bit too much & it was very obvious that he was boy!

Santa, hope that's the last of the spotting for you. Have you put a pad/bit of tissue in your pants to check?

Choc, great news on the hb find (and Doppler purchase)

Hurrah for hearing a hb JMF, sorry appointment was in the same room/same midwife.

Will just add you to the list now Jess. x

Jessw25: 1MMC, EDD 10th July
GaryBuseysTeeth: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 10th Aug
Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31st October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov next scan 28 June
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov. next scan 2nd July
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November, Next Scan 2nd July
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 22 Nov, next scan 8th July
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov, next scan 9th July
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November. next scan 15th July
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec, Next scan 26 July
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec (Xmas baby!)
pumpkinsweetie mc1, edd:03/01/14,
Stitchinline: 2MC, 1DD, EDD 30 Dec
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 30 Dec
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4th March
Rock:
Liesl:
Kitty:

So I went out with a friend last night and was expressing my newly upduffed worries about MCing again and she said:

'Well you might MC again, you might had loads more MCs or you might have a perfectly healthy PG, either way I know you'll cope with it and be just fine'.

Am I being oversensitive or was this a bit of an awful thing to say? I know in a weird way she was trying to be helpful but it felt a bit like a kick in the stomach when she was saying it, but perhaps I'm being post MC, newly upduffed oversensitive...

Good luck with the scan today shell

Guff- hugely insensitive, your friend has no idea!! Some people just don't get it, you can never totally understand unless you have had a MC but massive lack of basic empathy there. Every right to be very pissed off and hurt!!

Good luck today Shell- are you going to find out the colour?

Guff think you were restrained....I'd have probably said something along the lines of 'yes and one day you may get a really dodgy facial, oh look, here is a pebble dashed wall' (and then promptly exfoliated her face)....but then I am having evil thoughts possibly bought on by Santa outing me and bringing me down to Jeremy Kyle level!!!!

gary same with DS (tho we had already been told) so yeah I suppose I might find out anyway!

guff when I had my second MC my brother said it'll be ok 'lose one, win one' and people thought he was being very insensitive but I took it as he meant it and didn't think abt it badly, I'm sure your friend was trying to be positive for you, like my Bruv

Good luck today shell!

Guff I get she was trying to be helpful but it was insensitive.

Hello everyone else! I don't seem to retain a huge amount of info at the moment and to comment on various posts means I would have to take notes! Ha!

Jesus guff that's totally insensitive of your friend. People who haven't suffered the loss of a mc just don't get it. Although they usually are trying to be comforting but they don't realise how hurtful things sound.

When I had mine, a friend called round and said, well at least it wasn't a real baby, it was only cells. I felt like swiping her. I told her exactly what I thought, told her we had had a scan and in fact it was twin babies and we'd seen them in the scan. She is a mother of 2, blissfully unaware of anything but perfect pg and babies!

Women that have never had a miscarriage just don't understand and unfortunetly can be quite throwaway about your feelings before they think first. Tbh before my mc in feb i never understood but now i completely understand the upset, confusion, the shattering of your dreams, the feelings of emptyness and the dread of what's happening.

When people are insensitive it is hard to ignore them at first, and it can feel very hurtful to have someone you love say such things about your baby that was so important to you irrelevent of gestational age!
Believe me my mother has shocked me to the core & hurt me with her words and it took me a good while to forgive her, she never had a mc so didn't understand and unfortunetly at times she does bring it up and compare it to worser situations people suffer, but there isn't a comparision as mc is totally different though awfully traumatic & upsetting.

But i wanted to add:

TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT yaaaay!!!!