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PG after MC - posifrickentivity, hand holding, and smelly gush.

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IBelieveInPink · 22/06/2013 07:32

Thread for ladies who are freaking out panicking slightly when preggy after miscarriage.
Plenty of oldies. Newbies always welcome.

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pumpkinsweetie · 01/07/2013 19:39

I hope you are okay Alice, thinking of you and hope your feelings were wrong xx

Welcome wombat, try not to worry, disapearance of symptoms doesn't always mean the worst xx

So, so sorry for your loss stars, what an awful thing to go through on your wedding daySad, i hope that you managed to enjoy some of your special day, even if it was a small part. You are in my thoughts, hope to see you back here in the future xxx

jess Sorry to hear yet more worries for you, hope baby is here soon and can't wait for the day we hear your bouncing baby has been bornSmile, not long now!

Such sad news on here today, thinking of all you ladies that are going through the heartbreak of mc for the 2nd or even 3rd timeSad

Goodluck to all those ladies awaiting scans tomorrowSmile xxx

jessw25 · 01/07/2013 19:44

Stars - congratulations on your wedding first of all. I'm so very sorry for your sad news, really wish I could make it better for you. Thoughts and prayers are with you and hope you can lean on your lovely new DH at the moment xx

shellsocks · 01/07/2013 19:49

stars I am so upset for you, life is such a bitch sometimes and that is an awful thing to have to go thru on your wedding day Hmm Glad to hear you have lots of support and I hope your recovery goes well and wish you luck for the future xxx

Bodicea · 01/07/2013 19:59

Oh stars I am really gutted for you. I just want to say that scans aren't that accurate especially when it is a mmc. They really cant pinpoint the exact day a babies heart stopped. Sometimes they stop growing before the heart stops for instance. You must be feeling truly awful but I hope you can take a little bit of comfort from that and don't let it taint the memories of your day xxxxx

GardenWorm · 01/07/2013 20:09

Stars; I am so sad to hear of your loss, words are not enough I know but we are all thinking of you and are here for you. I was going to say something similar to Bod about the accuracy of a scan being able to say when your baby died, listen to Bod on that she does scans for a living. I doubt it will make any difference right now but it may be of some comfort in the future. I wish you and your other half the very best with ttc again when the time is right. It is OK to be numb for now. Take good care of yourselves xxxx

BumpKitty · 01/07/2013 20:18

stars I'm so sorry. Life can be so unbelievably hard sometimes and it is so unfair that a day that is meant to be pure happiness has had to be touched by this awful news. Just take comfort in the fact that your wedding is just one day and your marriage will be much longer with much happier days to come. I wish you and your new husband a long and lovely marriage and a baby too when the time is right for you again xxxx

alice been thinking about you today. Hope you're doing ok xx

Good Luck for scans tomorrow

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 01/07/2013 20:26

oh stars you poor thing, i am so so sorry. i echo everything that has been said by the other girls. my thoughts will be with you tomorrow and over the upcoming months xx

alice, thinking of you today as well x

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IBelieveInPink · 01/07/2013 21:09

What a horrid run of badness we are going through at the moment. I'm so sorry for all the sad things.
stars, I'm just so sorry.

I'm having a little weep for all the sad things going on. I really hope a little more luck and happiness comes along very soon.

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alicebear · 01/07/2013 21:19

So sorry stars really rubbish news. Hope you're resting & being looked after.
As I thought I have had a miscarriage Sad so will be saying goodbye to all you lovely ladies for now.
I am feeling okay & hoping maybe we'll be lucky third time around.

Best of luck to you all. I will pop by now & again to hear about bumps becoming babies & hope to join you again one day.
Thanks for all your kind messages which made my wait in epu that bit more bearable.

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 01/07/2013 21:24

Oh Alice what bad bad luck :( I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Be sure to take the time to get through this very sad time. Big hugs to you too.

What a sad day x

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IBelieveInPink · 01/07/2013 21:29

So sorry Alice. I know you must be so sad at the moment. But for me, 3rd time lucky seems to be working so far, so don't lose heart. Hope to see you here again very very soon x

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ldt87 · 01/07/2013 21:30

Can I join you ladies please? I am 8 weeks 6 days pregnant today and had a miscarriage at 9 weeks 4 days at easter. I had a private scan yesterday and all looked good. I have managed to not count down the days too much up until now, but the closer I get to my last loss stage the more scared I get!

I thought after the scan it would be better, but I think I'm waiting for week 9 to pass before I can really relax. When do you start to enjoy your pregnancy following a loss?

Anyway sorry for rambling, I have 7 and 8 year old daughters and this will be my first baby with my husband. What stage is everyone else at? Xx

pumpkinsweetie · 01/07/2013 21:47

Sad alice, so sorry your fears were confirmed. Take care of yourself & hope you resting, sorry for your loss and big hugs to you xxx

Welcome ltb xx

Such a sad day on here today, sending my love to stars & alice x

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 01/07/2013 22:00

Hi newbies, glad to see you here :)

lucky after suffering zero morning sickness, I've really felt the dizzies and nausea the last couple of days. Had to get back into bed this morning as I was getting the cold sweats and yesterday in town I had to bug a bottle if coke and hide in a shopping centre loo for about 30mins just to close my eyes. Hope yours passes soon too x

Good luck for the scans tomorrow ladies

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 01/07/2013 22:07

Alice & Stars - truly gutted for both of you. Life is so unfair at times. Hope you are both getting lots of TLC in RL Flowers

Thank you for the lovely words re my DF, feeling much better that it's one of the "best" cancers to get (IYKWIM)

Hi to LDT & Wombat - as you'll no doubt see, now we've had at least one MC don't think any of us will stop worrying until we have a baby safe in our arms (and then that is just the start). I had an early scan at 9 weeks but still panicked before 12 week scan, and got a doppler last week (I'm now 16 weeks) which I am using daily. I'll feel better (I think) when I can feel proper movements in a few weeks.

Good luck for tomorrows scans - hope you all have your lucky socks ready.

GuffSmuggler · 01/07/2013 22:08

I'm so sorry stars and alice, how awful. I am thinking of you both and praying that your sorrow turns to joy one day soon.

Welcome wombat and ldt.

Pentagon · 01/07/2013 22:10

stars, alice I'm so sorry to hear your news. Life is so unfair sometimes...Flowers stars you will have your beautiful baby, you can get pregnant, half the battle is won. alice you have a DD already so obviously this is due to bad luck, I've also had 2 losses just not in a row. Wishing you both all the best for next time!

wombat & ldt welcome! The worry never stops but for me things got slightly better after the 12-week scan and considerably better after the 20-week one. ldt I'm currently 22 weeks after MMC, DD, 2nd MMC.

jmf well done to your little boy! You have every right to be proud (and he certainly deserves his lego) but I'm sure you also deserve some praise (I know that after my DH was diagnosed he couldn't have done it without his mum and he was older than your DS)

bod, garden and jess good luck for tomorrow! x

shellsocks · 01/07/2013 22:13

Me too pink Hmm thinking abt stitch too who I knew from here when we had our first DC, hope everyone who has had sad news is being well looked after in RL x

BlackholesAndRevelations · 01/07/2013 22:38

God such terrible news on here tonight Sad words can't say how sorry I feel for you and how utterly crap this is.

Stars and Alice, I hope you make your way back here soon. Hugs to you and your dhs. Xxx

BlackholesAndRevelations · 01/07/2013 22:46

As for me... Even more worried about my 20 week scan now that I just watched panorama- it was all about medication and abnormalities in babies.

I was taking sertraline for PND. I was doing well and cutting down from 100 mg to 50 mg.... Now I'm wondering if that caused the mcs Sad.

I stopped cold turkey the weekend I knew I was ovulating and we conceived this one. Apparently it stays in your system for up to 10 days so now I'm worried about heart defects Sad they didn't mention sertraline, just citalopram (sp?) and something beginning with p that I can't remember but all are SRRIs.

jmf if you are a doctor do you know anything about this?! Sorry to ask but I've been in floods tonight.

GardenWorm · 02/07/2013 06:01

Alice so sad to hear of your loss too. I am also a third time luckier and although fingers are still a little bit crossed I have my 20 week scan today. Please don't think for a minute it will never happen, sadly some things in life just aren't meant to be easy. Big hugs xxx

GardenWorm · 02/07/2013 06:09

Blackholes I didn't see panorama but I would say drug ingredients are very specific to each one and precise, if the one you were taking wasn't mentioned I would take that as a good sign, also I don't think anything gets passed to egg so early were they talking about the drugs going from you to baby or them affecting the eggs?? If it's you to baby the drugs would have been out of your system before you got to that stage. Please try not to panic (easy to say i know) you will just make yourself ill xxx

GardenWorm · 02/07/2013 06:13

Oh and Happy Scan Day fellow scanneeeees..desperately trying to bring POSIFRICKINTIVITY back into the room xxx Grin

pumpkinsweetie · 02/07/2013 06:32

Goodluck GardenwormSmile, are you finding out pink or blue? x

And goodluck to all tuesday scannies todaySmile, can't wait to reach 20wks, i'm hoping i become more relaxed by then! Only 6.5weeks to go lol x

GardenWorm · 02/07/2013 06:39

Not unless they are hung like a donkey Pumpkin and it dominates the scan! Grin