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Announcing....

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BumpAndGrind · 16/06/2013 15:49

I'm 13 weeks and I have had my scan, all seems well and I want to officially announce it, even though my closest friends and family already know.

I want to put my scan picture on facebook to let lesser seen friends and relatives know, but Mumsnet has scared me

You lot are always going on about how naff/chavvy or whatever it seems...or even insensitive.

Now I'm not sure....hmmmm.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 16/06/2013 15:53

I did it dont care if people think its naff or not was a good way to tell friends and extended family at same time

Shellywelly1973 · 16/06/2013 15:54

Do whatever you feel comfortable with!

Your pregnancy & your baby...Congratulations!!

TrudyW · 16/06/2013 15:59

Firstly congratulations!

I announced our pregnancy on fb on Friday after our 20 week scan, I only waited until then as have experienced mc and wanted to be sure this bean was sticking around.

I announced mine by taking photos of hubby's shoes and a sign saying daddy, then mine with mummy, then our son's with his name and finally a pic of some baby booties with a sign saying baby and then the due date!

Everyone really liked it, take a look on pinterest for really cute ideas, I've got loads of ideas for bump pics I want to try out myself.

It's completely your choice how and when u want to announce, its an exciting time for u, enjoy it! Xxx

notsoold · 16/06/2013 15:59

I told on facebook. We only have friends and extended family all over the place.
Everyone knew we were trying and our desire to have a lo. Some in my family that are ttcing at the moment I wrote a pm and sharing more about it and our desire for them to have the same joy.
Congratulations btw!!!

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BumpAndGrind · 16/06/2013 15:59

It's odd, I'm scared that if I announce it to everyone something will go wrong....seems so silly.

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pumpkinsweetie · 16/06/2013 16:00

That's what i'm doing after my next scan, was only 10.6weeks at my dating scan, thought i was 12. Once i have my proper 12wk+ scan, it's going on fb. I don't see a problem with it, if others don't like it they can delete me

pumpkinsweetie · 16/06/2013 16:01

Lovely way of announcing it Trudy, really sweet

Iwish · 16/06/2013 16:18

Ill be putting it on FB too after my scan. We have friends and family in other parts of the uk and also in Australia so it's nice that they all get to know too. Xx

cogitosum · 16/06/2013 16:22

I put it as my status but didn't put the picture up as ilafter I had a mmc I was devestated every time I saw a scan picture. Even when I had my scan which was fine this time round I feel funny about the pictures- it brought it all flooding back so I wouldn't risk my picture upsetting someone else.

Having said that I know it's my issue and you should do what works for you. (but I think comments about people should just delete you if they don't like it are a bit harsh. I wouldn't delete someone but it would've upset me at that point but wouldn't be their fault)

Lydia161290 · 16/06/2013 16:41

I only have family and friends on my Facebook anyway. But the likes of my parents, who live over in Ireland, were over the moon when I put my scan pictures on Facebook so they could see. It's just an easier way for me to communicate with them. It should be your decision. Yeah, people have opinions about it, but quite honestly, I don't see what the huge fuss is about. Especially if your Facebook is private like mine and you only have people you know on there!

jessw25 · 16/06/2013 16:41

Your pregnancy so you do what you feel is right.

DH announced it on his FB (tagging me in so my friends could see) after successful 12wk scan. I waited till 20 wk scan was also good until I mentioned it on my own status. Silly of me really as my friends could all see it from his but I didn't want to jinx things by mentioning it on mine till the other scan. Same with buying baby things, DH wanted to buy EVERYTHING after 12 wk scan, I had to really convince him to hold off till after 20!

If you have a good friend who is ttc at the mo just do like the other poster suggested, send a private message or like I did with a good friend, call them before anything appears in FB

Congratulations! x

Anothermrssmith · 16/06/2013 16:43

interesting thread, my scan is on Wednesday and as long as everything is ok I don't think I'll be able to hold in any longer, I was thinking text/phonecall to our close friends and facebook status a few hours later to catch everyone else. Some may think it's chavvy but there are a lot of people I talk to fairly often on facebook but that I don't have numbers for to let them know any other way. To hell with everyone else, just do what works for you.

Excited85 · 16/06/2013 16:48

I put our scan pic on Facebook after 20 week scan. Close friends and family knew but we both have moved around a lot and so it seemed the easiest way to let people know. I was going to try hold off until we'd had the baby however knew some extended family and uni friends etc would feel a bit miffed we hadn't said! Plus I didn't fancy making loads of different phone calls to them all!
If you want to put it on you do it. Don't worry about people thinking its naff - surely it better than explaining to people one by one which if you have plenty of friends an family is a far bigger job x

whiterose2011 · 16/06/2013 17:32

BumpAndGrind, I am exactly the same as you. We just told our families this weekend and I'm terrified that its going to jinx things. I had a mc last year so feeling v nervous about this pregnancy. I wish I didn't feel like this but I don't think it's unusual when you've had a loss.

I think you should do what is right for you. As others say, it's your baby and your body - who cares if people think its tacky (just for the record, I don't think that!!) - do what makes you feel comfortable. Enjoy being made a fuss of when you do finally announce it! Xx

Dackyduddles · 16/06/2013 17:35

Do it! Your friends and family will love it and its them that's VIP not bunch of nameless here.

Enjoy!!!!!

Applepiesky · 16/06/2013 17:43

I did it! My dp was sceptical about me doing it but then was so glad we did!! It reached out to our friends who live away or those that we aren't in regular contact with and it was so lovely to have everyone's support and congratulations! Made us feel very emotional. I would recommend it :-)

igirisu · 16/06/2013 18:04

Announce it however you want! Using Facebook isn't chavvy at all, Infact I think judging people on how they announce such lovely news says a lot about someone's character I couldn't bare to tell anyone as I'm so shy so I had to send a text to my family! Imagine that! They still all laugh about it now

Newmum0113 · 16/06/2013 18:23

igirisu I was shy at first too! I remember telling my mum dad and aunt at the same time and thinking "oh my gosh. Now my dad knows I've had sex!"

Of course he knows - I'm 25 and have been married for 2 years!

ch1134 · 16/06/2013 20:27

For what it's worth, I disagree with the majority. It is up to you, but I think a scan picture is a private thing - you are choosing to share something very intimate about someone you care about very much (your baby) without its consent, with the world wide web. I'd think carefully about that.

Kelly1814 · 17/06/2013 08:41

i don't think it's chavvy, however i can think of nothing worse (for me personally) than sharing a scan photo on facebook.

i'm very private (24 weeks and only close friends and family know) and really don't subscribe to these huge social media brodcasts that now seem t be the norm.

i've emailed the scan photo to a very select few.

Littleturkish · 17/06/2013 08:49

I announced at 38 weeks with my profile photo of me with a huge bump. I never put my scan photo up (though I did show it to people) and shared it on a private 'due in' group.

I felt superstitious about it and didn't have a great pregnancy health wise, so just didn't want to have to announce a miscarriage or cope with questions about 'when is the baby due' if I had miscarried.

I also have a lot of friends TTC or with fertility issues, or longing for a baby with no long term partner. Baby announcements aren't happy for everyone.

kelda · 17/06/2013 08:49

ch1134 I agree. There is something very private about a scan photo. It feels almost intrusive on the baby at their most vulnerable. I have just seen a scan photo on facebook clearly showing the little boy 'bits' with many comments following. I find that very tasteless and possibly embarrassing for that child in future years.

Also, although I'm sure most people will be very happy for you, not many of them will be interested in the scan photo. In fact, most scan photos are not clear enough to see anything much of interest anyway.

A few people who have had miscarriages and who are finding it difficult to concieve may be upset by a scan photo.

I have no objection to people annoucing their pregnancies on facebook; it's jsut the scan photos that I have a problem with.

weebarra · 17/06/2013 08:55

I didn't announce DC3 on facebook. I have friends who have fertility issues and a close friend who had a stillbirth last year so I thought it would be insensitive.
Also DS2 has a congenital heart defect which increases the chance of it happening to subsequent children, so I'm not making announcements until baby is here!

FobblyWoof · 17/06/2013 10:16

I announced it on Facebook but didn't put a scan picture up. It's only my view but it was the first ever picture of my DD and it felt very personal for me and wasn't something I wanted to put online, though I'd happily show anyone who wanted to see it.

But some people aren't so precious concerned about all that. Depends on you really. I had a friend announce her pregnancy a few days ago with a bun in the oven picture which was cute

BraveLilBear · 17/06/2013 11:26

Congrats on your pregnancy! I have never 'officially' announced on facebook, but some of my statuses reference it occasionally in a subtle way, which means that people are now only just finding out (am 35 weeks)!

I didn't want to share the photo for the same reason as above - I remember seeing dozens of annoucnements and photos after an early miscarriage and found it devastating, the pictures were definitely the worst to see.

I emailed family and PM'd a few close friends with the picture, but otherwise, I'm very happy to have kept this offline - there is an inherent privacy thing at play, too (read Blind Faith by Ben Elton and your opinion on Facebook etc may change!).

Something one of my friends did was create a closed special interest page on Facebook, which if people liked, they could see photos and updates etc. I loved the sensitivity of this, to the extent that it didn't upset me at all.

Another cute way of announcing was a picture of a Belgian bun... in an oven. Definitely better than a scan pic in my opinion.

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