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Partner wants abortion

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kayenails · 19/05/2013 20:23

Hi
I'm 24 and 11 weeks pregnant with my second child. My first child's father is off the scene and I honestly thought my new partner (who I'm pregnant for) was the 'one'.
He wants me to have an abortion which I'm so against. Especially at as far gone as I am now. He's told me i need toabort the baby as its the sensible thing to do. I work hard and so does he. Only problem is that he lives and works in London and only comes home on weekends. i live in the midlands. We have been together 18 months. I see no reason why I should abort my baby but it looks like I'm going to be a single mother again with two children with different dads.

What do I do?!

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DizzyPurple · 19/05/2013 20:24

What do you want to do?

infamouspoo · 19/05/2013 20:25

what do you wanyt?

NorthernLurker · 19/05/2013 20:27

Partner wants an abortion - well he better have one then. Oh hang on, no he can't because it isn't him who's pregnant.

You need to do what's right for you. Maybe he'll get his act together maybe he won't but the person who lives with this choice for the rest of your life is you. Don't choose because he tells you what to do. Choose what you want.

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kayenails · 19/05/2013 20:28

I want the baby, an abortion would ruin me as a person. But il be sad to do it on my own. Am I being selfish to my partner by having the baby?
I'm sorry if I seem silly I'm just so upset.

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infamouspoo · 19/05/2013 20:32

'I want the baby, an abortion would ruin me as a person.'

You've said the most important thing there. Is he selfish enough to ruin you? If he is then he doesnt deserve you or this baby. This choice is yours, not his.

beckie90 · 19/05/2013 20:41

My partner did too, I told him were to go if that was the case cause it wasn't him having to deal with it and live with it, and weve been together 6yrs. Don't feel selfish, because I think he's the selfish one same as mine was, if there responsible enough to have sex then there responsible enough to deal with the outcome.

My partner stood by me although he's still abit 'off' sometimes he's generally coming round to it now.

Have a really good chat with him, good luck xx

NorthernLurker · 19/05/2013 20:59

A baby wanted by it's mother is a blessing to you. Your partner has said what he feels but it's your body, your choice, your life. So no you aren't being selfish.

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kayenails · 20/05/2013 21:55

Thanks guys. I feel about more positive now x

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Newtobecomingamum · 20/05/2013 22:10

Please don't do it as it will haunt you for the rest of your life..... Especially because you want to keep the baby! Even if you have to bring up the baby on your own, you will manage and cope with the love from your children. X x

BabyHMummy · 20/05/2013 22:38

Kate it took two of you to get pregnant so tell him to man up or bog off cos you are keeping the baby.

Bunnylion · 20/05/2013 22:39

You need to do what is right for you, not right for him.

Imagine if you aborted and then broke up in 2 or 3 or even 20 years time. How would you feel then?

After actively TTC I'm so sorry that he's not being supportive right now. But it sounds like you're strong enough to bring up the baby without him if need be. I hope he grows up and gives you the support you need and deserve. x

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