PG after MC - the Posifrickingtivity gathers pace, the Laura Ashley skirt has been returned

[Bakingtins]

New thread ladies, let's hope the good luck continues!
Shall we start with stats?

Sunday 19th May - today we are pregnant!

GaryBuseysTeeth: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 10th Aug
Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31st October, next scan 14th June
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 12 Nov, next scan 29th April
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov Next scan 28 June
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov. Next scan 25th April
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 17 Nov next scan 7th May
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov, scan 11th May
Janielovescake: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 25 Nov, next scan 11th May
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November. next scan (12 weeks) 20th May
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 30 Nov, next scan (12 weeks) 21 May
Aoifebelle: 1MC, EDD 1st Dec, next scan 20th May (NHS 12 weeks)
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec, scan 3rd May
Zeux 1DD 1MC EDD 14th December, first scan 24th May
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec, waiting for scan date
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec (Xmas baby!) next scan 25th April
pumpkinsweetie: EDD 26 Dec
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 30 Dec, 6 wk scan OK. Next scan ?w/c 17 June
Bakingtins: 2 DSs, 3 MC, EDD 6th Jan, scan 23rd April
Mummytothearkbuilder: 1DS, 1 MC, EDD tbc (Jan 2014), scan 24th May

Evening all, I have managed to sneak away from MIL and Step FIL to have a sneaky catch up
Weather in France has been pants, we've had sun on Sunday and Monday, showers and sun on Tuesday! Rain since then. Blooming typical! It should be lovely and hot but what did I expect going away on a half term week

Great news Jmf, hope everything is calming down for you Lucky - hope you have a fab holiday.

Will have a proper catch up next week when I get home but just wanted to check in

Pancakes went out the window (not literally, what a waste that would be!), ended up spending the afternoon in fetal assessment unit because I had reduced movements, naturally kicks in every direction once they put me on monitor & everything is fine and dandy....he's just moved right back so I couldn't feel him!
Because he moved back it took a minute or two (felt like an hour) to locate his hb, DH looked like he was going to throw up.

At the time of mc I wasn't too upset, it was sad but expected (never getting past 1-2wks on CB digital I was 'prepared' for it going wrong) however now, coming up to mc EDD (next month) I've got What If's? going around my head that I can't shake.
I think giving birth to a healthy boy (fingers crossed) in August will help me get over most of it because I should appreciate that if I didn't mc I wouldn't have THIS baby. Hopefully.

((everyone)) So sorry for all the lost babies. xx

Oh my gosh Gary how scary! I'm so glad you found him safe and well!

Sorry didn't have energy to reply properly earlier (have just been asleep for 1.5 hours!!) re: lost babies. I feel quite positive about this baby (fingers crossed) which I didn't feel with the two I lost. First one I kind of had a feeling that it wasn't meant to be. Second I was still in shock. Hideous and really upsetting to think of it now, particularly when I look at colleague of mine who is due same time as my second loss would have been due, and one of my children's mums (teacher if you didn't know) who is due sane time as first lost one.

Like you say, if you hadn't list you wouldn't have current, and having seen the little heartbeat I'm feeling like this one is sticking around (soooo hope I'm not tempting fate.....)

Hugs and love to all still grieving. It's so shit. Really thinking of Aoife so much. Also was in floods earlier on about April jones killing think it hits harder when a) hormonal and b) a mum. But unthinkable, horrific and devastating news. Sorry for the digression there!

Xxx

I've been thinking of dear Aoife all day.

My MC in January was at 8 weeks. The week before I had an early scan which showed a heartbeat but the sac was too small and a quick google let me realised what was about to happen. I was sad but when it all started I felt so detached and surreal. My ERPC was very calm and peaceful and uneventful, I believed it was a gift the baby gave me as I had been so frightened about bleeding and being in pain at home when I was with the children and that didn't happen.
Afterwards I felt very sad and tearful for a few months. My mother showed me no empathy and her reaction hurt more than the MC in some ways. She made a few insensitive comments and then has ignored it since
Having my 2 children helped a lot to help me deal with it but I still think about my lost baby everyday.
Baby number 3 was not planned, I always wanted 3 and DH only wanted 2. When we found I was pregnancy in December it was a nice shock and when I lost it he agreed to try again. In many ways this baby now really feels like a gift from the last baby and a special gift from God.

However I still find it hard to believe I will have a baby at the end of this. I was the same with my 2 children. I was so so scared about late pregnancy loss and coming home from hospital to a beautiful nursery with no baby to put in the cot. It would make me cry and my husband would just think I was mad. It's so hard to be positive and being a medic I know a bit too much about all the horrid stuff that can happen- no blissful ignorance here!

Today I was so anxious that I could hardly breathe, my heart was racing and I had a headache and upset stomach.
It's hard to let go of that anxiety.

Thinking of all our lost babies.

I like to live in a bubble, jmf, hence why I barely actually watch the news much. Eg getting very upset about April jones. I don't like dwelling on horrible things that can happen/horrible world I've brought my children into!

I agree that having two already really helped me cope. I was devastated and sobbing for almost two weeks (two weeks off work) but then counted myself very lucky to have the two I've got. They really helped me through. We told ourselves that if number three wasn't meant to happen, we were still one of the lucky ones. Obviously it would have hit much harder if we didn't already have children.

Maybe I'm just more of an optimist than I thought! I've always been the kind of person who counts blessings continuously, as I know how terribly wrong life can go.

Ps- you're not doing yourself any favours by being so cripplingly anxious. I mean this kindly but please try and relax and be positive. I'm sure all that stress isn't good for you or your baby xxx

Janie good luck with your scan today and enjoy your day off work! (hairdresser's and evening out - sounds fab)

Gary I'm sorry you got such a fright yesterday but glad all is well!

oh I also well up whenever I read about the April Jones case (so glad that monster got life) and every horrible story that's in the news....like fathers murdering their children to get back at their ex-wives/partners. I mean, what's wrong with people? They're your children too mister!!

thanks for the well wishes pentagon and vix. all went well and the wee monkey is still there and growing nicely :) the lucky socks worked again phew.

strangely though, i feel really emotional now, and not in a good way. DH isn't the sort of person to show his emotions and when we got home he just started to get really narky because kids have jumped through our hedge and damaged it and a new tree we planted. i did't really care as i was on cloud nine (and it;s only a plant ffs) so i asked him could he just be happy about the good things that have happened this morning instead of the bad and ended up in a row :( now he's away off to work in a huff and i'm sitting here on my own, wanting to celebrate but can't because he's such a moody git. MEN

sorry for the me me me rant there...just had to vent.

hope everyone is feeling a little bit more positive today, TFI Friday xx

congratulations Janie, hurray! Shame the argument with DH has spoilt your mood.. I don't think men experience the same level of anxiety or joy as we do when it comes to pregnancy...I would be pissed off too, maybe call him at lunchtime and make up so that you can enjoy your day? xx

thanks pentagon, and thanks for the advice. i'm always the one doing the making up - even when it's him that's caused the row. it would be nice if he could maybe make the gesture instead.

I know, I know Janie I'm exactly the same - simply because I can't stand sulking. I hope he makes the first move soon then!! If not, don't let it spoil your day, you will make up one way or another

Congrats again Janie. So pleased all is going well, lovely to have the relief of a little check up. Was it lovely to see wriggles again? did you notice the growth at all?
Ignore silly DH. Maybe it was the stress that has built up just coming out, but either way, make it a day for you and baby if he is being a grump! :)

Oh god. It's started. People have started grabbing my belly!! What do I do about this?!

Great news janie! I'm exactly the same re: making up even if it's not my fault... Hope you enjoy your day still.

Pink- grab theirs back!

thanks girlies. good god what would i do without you all?! i've treated myself to a subway and some turkish delight prior to my hair appointment. yum yum! actually the private scan we had 3 weeks ago was so much clearer than the nhs one today, i wonder if the nhs machines are shitter? wee bubba was looking downwards this time (as opposed to chilling out on on his/her back last time) so i started panicking at the start that there was only a head (seriously need to sort myself out!). the lady was trying to measure the legs but bubba was dancing riverdance so was a bit difficult! :)

pink that's horrible, i hate the the thought of people feeling me yuk! even a close friend in work made me wheel my chair out from under my desk the other day to look at my belly - its a fat wobbly belly, not a big bump yet. you didn't do that when my belly was the same size 6 months ago. i would feel theirs back too, good call blackholes

Excellent news janie sod DH and celebrate anyway :)

ibip good god I would slap them, seriously. I must radiate a 'do not touch me' vibe as no-one touched my bump last time, unless they were close friends and they asked first! You must work on your ice cool 'step away from the bump' glare

One of my pupils' parents asked me when preg with my son, if it was ok if they had a feel! To which I instinctively took a step back and said, er no I don't think so! Haha! Felt guilty afterwards but really?? Blurring boundaries much?! I wish I'd had the balls to say "only if I can feel yours!"

Pink make to grab their hooters/crotch generally makes them flinch....although where I work the blokes probably wouldn't batter an eyelid!

Congrats Janie lovely news.

Hope in your parts of the country the sun is shining? Happy weekends

Glad everything is ok gary, scary tho

Brill scan news janie Rubbish DH news tho give him a kick up the bum

I escaped this last time pink dunno what I would do?!

For those who already have children, what are your age gaps / gaps going to be? DS will be 20m and I had a little crisis of confidence last night abt the age gap...any reassurance?! DS has been a dream so I hadn't worried abt this at all (prob been focused on the PG too rather than the baby iyswim) before now

shell there is 20 months between me and my brother and it's lovely, we did fight growing up but we are very close now. There will be almost 3 years between my two (all being well) and I was concerned its a bit too much, there are advantages and disadvantages to all age gaps though as its nice that DD sort of understands that there's a baby in my tummy, she will be mad with jealousy though! And she was a very high need baby so I'm expecting the same, I will be keeping DD at the childminders for a few hours on a few days as she likes it and it will give me a bit of a break.

All being well, there will be a gap of 2yrs and 9m between DD and the new baby. Bigger than I had hoped for and planned (due to the MMC last summer) but I guess there are advantages and disadvantages to both small and big age gaps...

I've got 20 months between mine (actually more like 19.5). I won't lie, the first six months or so were hard, although there were highs and lows of course! I love it now and wouldn't change it for the world. They fight but adore eachother. There will be an age gap of 2 years 3 months between this one and my youngest (all going well). Crazy! But we have been so blessed as we wanted small age gaps.

My daughter was great when her baby brother was born but has had phases of jealousy, first when he became more interactive, then when he started crawling, then walking, though the latest one didn't last long as she realised she had a playmate now! Breastfeeding was tricky at times as she knew I was tied to the chair/him so woukd cause havoc then.

Looking back I barely remember the tough and tricky parts, just the lovely bits! Just lIke labour

Thats nice to hear bump

I actually wanted a smaller gap too pentagon (would've been 17m) but just have to be happy that I got PG so quick after MC.

Thanks blackholes I think feeding is my biggest concern...DS only fed every 4hrs or so but it was for an hour or more so I'm wondering what DS would do for an hour to amuse himself! And labour, good bits?!

shell, you might find that your breasts/baby are more efficient second time round. My daughter would feed for aaages but son was done in 5 minutes! Midwives told me he HAD to feed longer but he was thriving. Luckily one midwife said he was just a very efficient feeder and my boobs knew what they were doing second time round! I have heard that breast tissue matures as you feed so feeding one should hopefully make the second easier. Fingers crossed!