PG after MC - the Posifrickingtivity gathers pace, the Laura Ashley skirt has been returned

[Bakingtins]

New thread ladies, let's hope the good luck continues!
Shall we start with stats?

Sunday 19th May - today we are pregnant!

GaryBuseysTeeth: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 10th Aug
Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31st October, next scan 14th June
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 12 Nov, next scan 29th April
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov Next scan 28 June
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov. Next scan 25th April
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 17 Nov next scan 7th May
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov, scan 11th May
Janielovescake: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 25 Nov, next scan 11th May
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November. next scan (12 weeks) 20th May
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 30 Nov, next scan (12 weeks) 21 May
Aoifebelle: 1MC, EDD 1st Dec, next scan 20th May (NHS 12 weeks)
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec, scan 3rd May
Zeux 1DD 1MC EDD 14th December, first scan 24th May
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec, waiting for scan date
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec (Xmas baby!) next scan 25th April
pumpkinsweetie: EDD 26 Dec
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 30 Dec, 6 wk scan OK. Next scan ?w/c 17 June
Bakingtins: 2 DSs, 3 MC, EDD 6th Jan, scan 23rd April
Mummytothearkbuilder: 1DS, 1 MC, EDD tbc (Jan 2014), scan 24th May

Jmf - hope you managed to get some sleep. Thinking of you as you must be about to get your news! Do let us know how you get on x

thinking of you today aoife

has the bleeding settled down lucky?

jmf fingers crossed for your results today!

shell i daren't even look at the scales at the moment! I didn't do anything for the first 13 weeks due to fear of it causing mc (silly i know!) so i can tell i've put on just by the feel of my clothes

ibip feels weird telling work doesn't it but good as well (all these mixed emotions!)

not alot happening this end...deputy director driving me up the wall about when i'm handing my notice in. Nothing on the bup (our nickname for baby) front, got my 16 wk midwife appointment next Friday but that's it.

I put on so much with DS that I was made up I'd not put any on thinking of having to lose it later, but now that's panicked me! I wasnt sick a lot either, just feeling sick and I am eating well so it's a bit odd The bump is bigger again today tho so should be ok...and I'm doppling almost daily at the mo too

Good luck jmf

Good news from me- harmony results were all good.
They scanned me for almost 1 hour checking everything and all was fine. The attention to detail was amazing and she checked each structure and marker multiple times.
She thinks its a boy- 70-75% accurate at this stage.
I sobbed when she told me the harmony result- I think she thought I was bonkers, but I was so anxious I couldn't breathe properly!
Thanks for all the wishes.
Looking forward to a decent nights sleep as I was awake in the night for 2-3 hours worrying.
Now just got to tell people- wonder what my mother will say when she finds out I am 13 weeks.

Jmf - that's fab news!!! And a blue one too, how exciting! Almost wish I had gone for a harmony test now too :)
Oh I'm so pleased for you, and hope you have a wonderful night sleep tonight!!

Congratulations jmf - so happy for you!!! The 12-week scan at the FMC is so detailed, isn't it? And it's great that you got to find out the sex! I asked but they told me it'd be 60% accurate at this stage so I decided to leave it there (50% vs 60% - not much difference). Now you can relax and sleep!!!

Let us know if you hear from Aoife, I hope she's OK (well, as OK as she can be)

Congrats JMF!! So pleased for you...hurrah on the (likely) boy too!

IBIP, pancakes, pancakes pan? cakepan pan cake!
Guess what I'm making when DS goes to bed, I love him lots but I'm not sharing with him.

shell, step away from the Doppler! With DS I checked once a week & honestly I'm only checking with this one everyother week.

Hope everything is calmer now lucky

Thinking of you today Aoife

That's brilliant jmf I bet you are walking on air :) so pleased for you, please give our love to aoife xxx

That's fab jmf and a boy Boys rock!! Have a good rest now tonight phew!

I know, I know, it was once a week at most with DS but I'm so stressed with the PIL situation I'm convinced I'm gonna harm this one so keep having to check....I'm hoping to chill a bit after 20w scan (4w today)

Yay jmf!!! Super dooper news!!!

We have our scan tmro, I'm getting nervous so I Doppled last night and got a wee heartbeat which calmed me down a bit.

I'm feeling like a hefalump, I think it's from not going to the gym and eating cheese, now I'm feeling more energetic I might start cooking healthily. Although I've gone off chicken. DH said 'how am I supposed to cook if you won't eat anything' err...there's food other than chicken

That's really exciting jmf. Hopefully you can now begin (in a tiny, measured way) to start getting excited about this pregnancy. Though the bit from 12 weeks to 20 weeks seems to take an age, because nothing much happens.

Just had to wait an hour for blood tests - stupid system here, with the GP/Midwife/Hospital combination. For some reason, despite the fact that the GP surgery is a monster one, and there is a local birthing centre where all the midwives are based, the hospital I want to book into won't accept bloods from them, so you have to go into the hospital itself. Yet if I'd booked into the other nearby hospital, they would accept bloods from my GP surgery. Bonkers, given that the lady who took my bloods just stuck them in the envelope and sent them internally.

Does anyone else still feel sad about their mcs? I was pondering today why I am feeling a bit this pg, and I was thinking that its still grief over the mcs. I (and this sounds daft) resent the fact that I'm bloody pregnant, when I should be on maternity leave with an actual baby by now.

Having said that, I am feeling quite positive which is a big improvement. That reassurance scan was the best £70 I've spent

gary - another pancake craver here, so thanks for that. Those synthetic fluffy ones you can buy in a shake, with squirty fake cream and raspberry jam.... hmmmmmmm

Ou pancakes. Can someone make me some! DS has been given a fit to fly letter :) although the temper he is currently displaying I don't think they will want to let us on! Hard is sooo much worse at 3 than 2! It's almost comical! I'm still having some cramps and brown discharge but I guess il take that over the red! Am still petrified. My friend is due her baby today and I should have been due the 2nd baby I lost a week or so after. It's really hard. I'm feeling so so sleepy right now. No chance of a rest with DS tantruming and packing to be done! Janie what is your scan for? I also was told at my private 12 week scan that it looks like we have a pink one this time! I think that's right too as was so much sicker this time. I felt I wanted to find out incase anything happened again and at least I would be able to name the baby etc. We havnt told anyone that bit of news yet!

Omg I can't believe you guys are finding out already! I so want to know! I have 20 week scan slightly early, 3 weeks on Friday and I'm dying to know!!!

Yes to feeling sad about miscarriages. It was my first due date yesterday. DH tried to make things better by saying don't worry, if we hadnt had tht we wouldnt have this baby, which is true. And I'm very grateful to be pregnant now. Its just I still think about the other babies we lost.

R.I.P all the angel babies . Sleep tight little ones xxx

santa i do still get sad. by now i should have little twin babies about a month old. 2 friends had their babies around the time i would have been due which makes it more sad for me, although i'm totally delighted for them obviously (one more than the other though as the other said she didn't want any more kids and then announced she was pg the day i had my erpc). i think i just wish i was naive and innocent in terms of the worry that has come with this pregnancy since mc, i really wish i could enjoy this pregnancy more and be more positive. x

lucky my first hospital scan was at 8 weeks - they thought i would be 10weeks but long cycles = they called me too early woop woop. so they told me to come back at 14wks (in their eyes for 12 week scan which they do at 10-14wks) but my dates changed at my private scan so i'll actually be 15wks. so hoping to see a wavy baby. i've booked the rest of the day off work and getting my hair done to go out to a formal tomorrow night (i'm my single best mate's date!). hoping it's good news.

my heart goes out to aoife today. life can be so cruel

My first MC was very hard (emotionally and physically) I didn't recover from it really till DS was born (the second MC was awful too but didn't devastate me as much) and I say to myself all the time now if I hadn't gone thru all that then I wouldn't have DS and he is so perfect...I'm filling up just typing this but you get the gist

great news jmf!! so pleased for you!

i still feel sad about both my mc's. I actually found out about this pg the weekend my first baby would have been due and it did help me get through it. Second mc due date is august but trying not to think about that one. i have had the thoughts of 'i'd have a 3 month old baby by now' but try not to have those thoughts too often!

Great news on the fit to fly letter lucky

fingers crossed for your scan tomorrow janie

Yay for jmf! All that worrying for nothing

I feel odd about my mc. Because I'm measuring 8w ahead I look 33 weeks pregnant, which is what I should have been. My ex friend has just sent invitations round for her 'welcome to the world' party (she was due at the same time as me) which I find bonkers - the baby isn't even safely here yet! I'm not sure I'm still sad, but mainly because I'm very aware that when if anything happens to this pregnancy it will massively eclipse that sadness, to a point that it seems quite trivial in comparison. I wish that I could enjoy this pregnancy, I really do, but as I pass every 'after xx weeks I'll start buying things' milestone I can't bring myself to buy anything because I can't bear the thought of having to get rid of it. I'm terrified, I really am, and it isn't getting better with time, it just feels like it'll hurt more when it goes wrong. I get cross with people when they try to talk about 'when the babies are here' - I just want everyone to forget about it. I wonder sometimes if I'd be better if it was a singleton pg, but I don't know really.

Wow. That feels like a bit of a confessional. Sorry. I think I'll go and have a bit of a cry now - clearly been storing some stuff up.

shell I could have written your post!! (only, I have a little girl). That's exactly how I felt about my 1st and 2nd miscarriages and like you I keep thinking that if I hadn't had the 1st miscarriage I wouldn't have my wonderful DD (also welling up here)

Oh anda I'm filling up for you too, I was very much like that with DS...like I just knew something bad was gonna happen so was just waiting for it really...defo didn't want any baby stuff in the house. BUT the minute I went overdue that worry went and honestly it's been amazing ever since with DS (except for the birth but I don't think abt labour again now!)

Its just something you have to deal with, it prob won't go away but also it's almost certain that everything will be alright now so just gotta cope with it for a few more weeks xxx

oh anda I've just seen your post....cyber hug! It's difficult to enjoy pregnancy after a loss and feel confident enough to buy stuff and get excited about the baby(or babies) arriving...but try to think that with every week that passes you are in safer territory; and in all likelihood things will go well.xx

Meant to say as well, I thought I was a lot more relaxed this time (I've let my DM knit already ) but when my DM said she nearly bought a big brother t-shirt for DS I filled up and asked her not to buy anything till at least the 20w scan....PG after MC is just so tough....hugs for us all today I think we all thinking back, prob in sympathy for aoife who I hope is being well looked after x

Great news JMF!! Good luck for the scan Janie.

I am still very sad about my miscarriage - I cried about it last night in fact :-( I am also struggling to even believe I am pregnant again and until the re-scan next Friday am almost trying to put it out of my mind - if something goes wrong I think I will completely meltdown - how will I get through it? Trying to keep busy and think positively xxx

I'm not really sad about my mc now, I don't know if it's because there was never a baby there (and I apologise to the others who had empty sacs who do not feel this way) or if it's because I was dealing with my mum being seriously ill and dying when it happened which just meant I could not think about anything else. Perhaps it will effect me more in the future but at the moment I don't think it will. If it happened this time I think it would be massively harder as I have seen the baby and felt it move and bonded with it (I had a dream it was a girl last night).
Also when my mc due date came I had my 12 week scan which was really positive but also I felt like I couldn't imagine having a newborn just then, like I wasn't ready - don't know if that makes any sense.
anda I'm so sorry you are so anxious pentagon is right all you can do is get through this time as best as you can because nothing anyone else says is going to change your way of thinking until you can see for yourself that your babies really are here and are ok. What's normal term for twins? Is it about 36 weeks? That's a whole month off your wait right there .

Jmf- so glad all went well

Lucky- snap! Hope you're feeling better and more positive now.

Hugs to Aoife xxxxx