IMO The worst thing about being pregnant is.....

[LadyTophamHatt]

in the early stages, when you're tired and feel (and look IME)like shite no-one offers you any help because without a bump they just don't know you're PG.
Even people who do know don't offer.

But in the late stages when you feel good, aren't tired (well not as much), look lovely and blooming and are enjoying the pregnancy everyone treats you like you're ill.

I can remember saying to various people "Errrr I'm pregnant...not ill" or "I can actually do that myslef you know....!!??"


I want people to do all my jobs now, I can do them when I big and fat but right now the last thing I want to do it cook, clean and supervise the kids.


Rant over.

[eggyolk]

Makes me shudder at the reminder of all these stories, have had two coudn't believe what hard work pregnancy was - mother-in-law comments first time round about me being lazy and it not getting difficult until 36 weeks were not welcome!

[clairemow]

MIL from hell!!

Worst things - feeling sick constantly for first 18 weeks. Now much better at 25, but now it's turning over in bed (means waking up, going for a wee, moaning and groaning, waking up DH, more moaning and groaning from him...). Backache. and the need to go to the toilet 5 mins after I've just been... oh and trying to get socks on in the gym (only gentle swim) while standing up and having to bend down to the floor because other women have their stuff all over the benches... Can't they see I'm having difficulty??!! Not being able to eat pate or brie.

Other than that, isn't it great! Have told DH this is the last (second) time...

[Lysettes]

am a first timer at 25 weeks, so have all these lovely things to look forward to

people saying how big i am and am i sure it's not twins makes me so mad

and not being able to eat soft poached eggs!

[TheHun]

SPD
piles, varicose veins and thread veins all over my legs.
heartburn
feeling nauseaous 24 hrs a day up to 16 weeks
missing rare steak, soft cooked eggs, cheese etc
no 2 due on 3rd june, already thinking about how to talk dh into no 3 so must be worth it!

[clairemow]

I have decided I am never getting pregnant again!! No hope for a no. 3 here I'm afraid...

[lucykate]

i think the worst part is if you have suffered from miscarriage, stillbirth etc previously and face 9 months of stress, worry, and anguish. good job its worth it in the end.

[Normsnockers]

The months of vomitting and exhaustion and a miserable git of a husband whinging about me not coping with looking after ds and then his bloody mother agreeing and saying "You're not sick just pregnant !" - I was put on a drip and had painful bum injections in hospital less than 24 hours after she said it and remained there for 4 days. No incentive to come home whatsoever !

[Normsnockers]

I agree clairemow, there will be no more pregnancies after this (second). The HG is worse for me second time around.

[mirashark]

the worst bit of pregnancy?

Only the bit between week 1 and 42 was unbearable!

[clairemow]

Normsnockers, your mother in law should be shot.

And as for men who have no idea what it's like being totally shattered, being sick several times a day/hour, not being able to get to sleep, having to wear seasickness bands 24/7 etc.etc., just don't get me started...!! they don't even get to have the pain of birth.. Heard today about a husband in my distant family who was heard to be "angry" that his wife, who had had 2 emergency c-sections and was offered a 3rd elective one - apparently there was no reason for this, and no reason why she shouldn't have the baby "naturally". Just my view, but seems rather outrageous from someone who never has to do pregnancy/birth/breastfeeding etc.

Rant over. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 and relax...

Are you feeling better now? When is no 2 due?

[Normsnockers]

clairemow,

I think I felt more miserable this time as I asumed that after suffering hg with my first pg and spending a few days in hospital but being discharged with drugs that stopped the worst of the vomitting, this time would be a breeze as I'd just ask for those drugs by name as soon as things got bad.

This time the same drugs had no effect and I still ended up in hospital but it took longer to find a drug that worked and even then I was exhausted from being in the first trimester and having lost over a stone very suddenly.

I cannot put my body through another bout of dehydration/starvation as I'm over 40 now and the thought of having 2 kids to look after whilst sliding down the slope towards hospital admission (as no-one in primary care seems to take HG seriously until you are dropping in their surgery and by then it's too late) is too awful to contemplate.

DS2 is due mid-September and ds1 will be 3 and a half then but had I not had HG when pregnant with him I would not have put off getting pg again for so long.

I am eating well now and have come off the drugs but coughing and cleaning my teeth are still risky activities.
I have not spoken to MIL since she flounced off that weekend after accusing me of neglecting ds1 "due to me being pg not ill !"
Yes I got tough with ds 'cos I needed to lie down most of the time to avoid throwing up and ds kept climbing all over me and trying to sit on my tummy etc whilst I was laying on the sofa. Dh could have done more to ensure that ds knew it was not acceptable to do this to me as I was feeling sick but he whinged that I was pushing ds away too often and sticking him in front of the T.V. too much.

Dh and his mother are both people who very rarely say sorry, even when they are in the wrong so I know they will not look back at what happened and apologise for their behaviour.

Oooh, very cathartic to get this all off my chest.

Thanks for listening.

[clairemow]

Do feel for you Normsnockers, it sounds like you've had a terrible time. My experience was minor in comparison, although also have trouble cleaning teeth and coughing if it's too violent.

I hope you continue to feel better. Ought to get on with work now, not meant to be on here...!

[Stargazing]

The worst thing about being pregnant - in fact, the only thing I don't like about it - is the advice/ opinions/ in-yer-face-rudeness that you get from everyone else. Being told, in the space of one day, that you're huge for your dates/ small for your dates/ having an enormous baby/ having a teeny baby;/ definitely having a boy/ definitely having a girl/ definitely having twins/ mad to be contemplating home birth/ wise to be contemplating home birth/ deluding yourself to think that you can do it without drugs/ shaping up to be a bad mother to even be considering pain relief.... ad infinitum.

Oh, and being groped. The tummy-touching makes my skin crawl. Should I be copping a feel of my mother-in-laws boobs? Her husband's groin? No? THEN GET YOUR EFFING HANDS OFF MY BUMP!!!!

[Melanie2mum]

I loved being preggers with my first, but because i had my babys so close together, i hated the second time. I just felt like i wanted my body back. I could'nt wait for it to be over. I felt that even the birth was worse.!!! What a difference in a boy and a girl!!!

[trinityrhino]

lmao stargazing i totally agree

[NappiesGalore]

being pg 3 times in 3 years... 1st time 'bloomed' for 2nd 2 trimesters, had loads of laying about putting my feet up time... great till the last few weeks when head was engaged and couldnt move and needed to piss everey 2 minutes... 2nd time 'bloomed' mostly just in middle trimester but too tired/busy looking after no1 to appreciate it, and wondered how in hell i'd cope with 2 only 1 yearapart....3rd time OVER IT!! longest 9 eternal infernal bloody months ever! SPD topped it off nicely. would sooner buy a baby than grow another one in my body again
all worth it of course, but do it again? never!

[NappiesGalore]

actually quite enjoyed giving birth tho. wierdo. shame it was all over so quickly. 9 months discomfort (to say the least!) for an hour and a half of all-about-me time... hardly fair really.

[trinityrhino]

not being able to get through 2 straight hours without welling up grrrrrrrrrr

[hunkermunker]

Developing gestational diabetes and feeling really, really peculiar.

Worth it in spades though (and after I was diagnosed, I lost half a stone in a fortnight!)

[sniff]

my mother in law she is like the woman out of misery I am now due and if she rings me once more to find out where her grandchild is I will kill her honestly

they came to stay and she got drunk the whole time she was here and was an absolute cow and they want to come back !¬!!! I will move out!!!


well thats made me feel better x

[SusieR]

Not being able to take any medicine when you're ill. Am suffering from bad cold and I hve starined my bck from coughing so much.

Oh and the complete and utter exhaustion 24 hours a day.

[kbaby]

Not being able to sleep on your tummy or even comfortably on your side.
The rib ache
Heartburn
Constipation and v bad wind
the headbutting of your bladder.
Feeling sick at the start but looking normal so you get no sympathy
being preg with your 2nd, theres no concerned gp,dh's 2nd time around your just expected to get on with it and look after a toddler.

[bloomingnora]

Being really irritable and nobody making any allowance for the fact that I am pregnant and easily annoyed (particularly DH who is constantly offended by everything I say).

Puking into the kitchen sink so many times that I blocked the outside drains and the council had to come and unblock them (couldn't make it upstairs to the bathroom in time) . Didn't own up though!

People telling me that my bump is really big. FFS I was four stone overweight when I got pregnant - what do they expect?

Totally agree kbaby about 2nd time round. No-one cares at all, least of all the toddler...