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Ooh good luck shell!! Excited for you

Thanks for the Doppler advice, a friend is going to send me hers which is great!!!

And thanks also for the
Parmesan advice...nhs online seems to say even Unpasteurised Parmesan is ok as the risk is do low but still used it sparingly last night. My main worry was that I had a bite sized pepper stuffed with ricotta, I thought it was fine as it was similar to cream cheese but apparently only in pasteurised :( got into a panic at home afterwards and was sure I'd done some harm. Hoping its ok as was only a teaspoon size

Isn't it ok if it's been cooked though? The heat would kill off anything nasty. I'm sure you'll be fine :)
betty it hadn't occurred to me that I'm at my second trimester! How ace is that! Happy third trimester to you!

bump I had a second trimester celebration we went out for a nice meal and I had a glass of champagne (didn't have any alcohol at all in first trimester after Christmas and margaritas in Florida at NY after I knew I was pregnant). It was lovely.

I'm with bump on the heat thing - its how I get my camembert fix when I'm pregnant which seems to be a pretty permanent thing. I have always found it useful to look up why certain foods are banned and to understand the risk. So uncooked eggs= salmonella BUT eggs with a lion stamp on have been vaccinated, so they're ok. Blue and soft cheese = listeria which is killed by heating over 70deg (I think - do your own research please ladies before you rely on my cod science!!).

So, couple of questions if I may:

1. any difference between paying £80 for a private scan and £175? Looking at private clinics round here, and there is a big price difference, and I wondered why.

2. As my previous MCs have all been anembryonic, do you think 7 weeks is too early for a scan - all I want to know is that there is actually something there. Also, DH is going to be away with work in Wk 7 and 8, but I can't wait till Wk 9.

3. what would you do about telling a family member (sister-in-law) who has had ongoing fertility/miscarriage issues? We have become closer, in a funny sort of way, since my two MCs, and one thing I know she hates is the feeling of being lied to when people are pg. So do i tell her straight away or do I wait? I'm dreading telling her tbh, as I know we'll drift apart again . And we were planning a "we're not pg so lets go and get drunk" night out.

Lurching between some posifrickitivity and imagining myself 6 months pg (I've been reading the SPD thread, FFS, as i had it last time) and doom and gloom and imagining the sonographer going silent the way that they do when there's bad new. I can't decide which is worse - I don't want to get my hopes up but neither do I want to live in fear for the next month.

Sorry, monster post. Thinking of poor little shell who is probably bricking it in the waiting room right now. Fingers and toes crossed for you my lovely.

Hi ladies, it's been a while since I last posted, things have been totally manic with work and I have been here there and everywhere staying in hotels and not knowing if I was coming or going. Thankfully the worst of it is over and I can stop getting up at 6am (I am not a morning person). However I have managed to have a read of how how you're all doing every few days.

Congratulations to those with recent BFPs!!

Good luck for today Shell.

Yesterday I found out that it's ok to eat Boursin cheese, hooray! I went directly to their website and checked the FAQs and all is hunky dory .

19d20h approx. until my 12 weeks scan. So nervous already.

Right santa let's work through the list! I paid £79 for my early scan - it was excellent I'm not sure what more they could have done, £175 seems really high are you near London?
Only you can decide if 7 weeks is too early, are you really sure on your dates? All I wanted to see was a baby too as I had an empty sac last time so if that's enough for you then that's fine. I think my scan place would only do it from 8 weeks though.
Re sil, I'd tell her, all you will gain from not telling her is a few extra weeks of closeness but then she'll be really gutted when she does know. Also I'm crap at lying so that is clouding my judgement!

Oh and just to add I have the angel doppler which I got from Amazon, have already used it once (which is silly as I'm 9+3) but only because I know that not hearing anything is ok because it's still early. However, it would be good to know when I may hear something... I would love to have some re-assurance before the next scan. Any advice?!

I bought it for my last pregnancy and never heard anything :( but this time I know there was a hb at 7+3!

Santa - my scan (as just mentioned) helped put my mind at rest and that was fairly early. For me it was to see a hb and it is def. possible by 7 ish weeks...also it was scheduled by my hospital who had my EDD so they obviously think 7 ish weeks is ok for an early scann too...

Regarding SIL, I think tell her, anyone who is having a hard time of it will be pleased for you, whilst also being a bit sad that it's not them. I know thats how I felt when I was in a similar situation fairly recently, a family member who had recently had a MMC same as me told me and DH her news as we were going to stay (only 8 weeks after our MMC) because she had bad morning sickness. Unfortunately they didn't think that sharing every detail, sometimes multiple times about the pregnancy the whole time we were there might be a bit much. So tell her but perhaps only give any further information when she is ready to ask for it?

Santa - I also had previous mc (2) where bebby didn't grow. I held out until 8+5, partly because that's when DH could come, and partly because I wanted to see a little more than a blob. But it was HARD waiting! Mine was £70 and I'd everything I needed it to!
In terms of telling people, I really think you should do what is right for you. I wanted to hold off telling people as I was so scared, but that was right for me. Only one person who knows now couldn't understand why I did that (grrr) and if you have a close relationship now I'm sure she will understand whichever you do.

Thinking of you shell!!!!

Ooh Shell!

Santa could the expensive scan be with a consultant rather than sonographer? That was the reason for price differences in my area. I went for the cheap £60 in the end and got what I needed. I held out as long as I could as it makes the gap between private and 12/13 wk shorter!! Do you want to wait another 5 or 6 wks after the private for the next one????

Oh and on the foods thing I had Brie the other day, told the midwife and she joked about telling me off and then said the French eat all the stuff that we bang on about not eating and it's more about food hygiene and moderation!

Santa...

1. mine was £95. I didn't have much choice though, and that was how much it was.

2. I had my first scan at the EPU at 7+4. That was late enough to see heartbeats and that things were progressing as they should. It's a long time to a 12w scan though (that might end up being 13+w). I ended up having a private scan at 10+4 as I couldn't accept everything was okay.

3. I think when you know everything's okay, or if you see her and you don't want to lie to her. Think about whether you'd want to tell her face to face. I struggled with that after mc - I wanted to have my reaction in private, get over it, and then slap on a happy face in my own time - just something to think about...

I'm with you on the not telling people face to face. I "politely" told a few of my friends that text messages were the kindest (for me). Face to face or being confronted with a bump is not the greatest!!

I think I will tell her, perhaps at the end of this week.

Just been looking at the NHS website and it confirmed that heating does kill listeria, so baked camembert is fine. I've also heard the thing about women in France and being told that blue cheese is fine as the bacteria introduced into blue cheese is actually kills off listeria. How true this is, I don't know. But it does go to show that half of what you hear is bollocks (its just working out which half is the problem!)

Will get back properly later but all ok now 12 weeks exactly and am very happy!

great news shellshock

so happy for you

on the food thing the nhs website is pretty good about what is ok and what is not

There was a listeria scare in australia earlier this year (3 people died and 1 mc) so it can be pretty serious but the chances of getting it are quite slim

Listeria disease has an incubation period of 70 days, which means that from the time that someone is infected with listeria disease, it can take up to 70 days before they actually manifest with sickness.

Really hope I haven't panicked anyone with that - i just freaked myself out as I at lots of brie in the last 70 days - eek.

Must stop googling

Aw Shell!! That's fab! And you have just jumped up a few days, that's great news :) so pleased. Longer update later with stories of how wriggly and cute baby is later if you don't mind!!!

Amazeballs Shell, very happy for you

Great news shellshock

Way hey Shell lost of good news on this thread of late.
Santa I had a early scan after some severe cramping. By my LMP dates I should have been 7 weeks, however when I went for the scan they saw a sac but no embryo. They gave me three scenarios 1) ectopic 2) a miscarriage 3) a normal pregnancy, but dates a bit out. Guess which scenarios i played out in my mind in the week I had to wait to be re-scanned? I would really recommend waiting to nearer 8 weeks if you can bare it, if you go at seven and your dates are out, you will risk seeing nothing even if everything is OK. It totally did my nut in.
On the cost of a scan, if you are near london you might want to have a look at the harmony test offered by the foetal medicine centre. If you have it done in your 10th week, you get two scans and a blood test that gives a pretty precise indication of the risk of chromosomal abnormalities. It is £180.
I think I would tell my SIL as she has been clear about when she would want to be told. It is a really tough one, and you might have to prepare yourself for your relationaship to cool substantially. (I have a really close friend who has gone a bit mental on me since I told her - I am just going to wait it out).

Congratulations Shell- brilliant news, really pleased for you.
Hi Santa- I'd try to wait until 8 weeks for a scan.

I have my scan on Friday and I'm so scared, still not sure I'll make it to then. Any thought of future plans feels too much.
Plus I still feel sick all day - horrid.

shell that's wonderful! There is lots of happy news on here at the moment. santa I was very lucky to get an NHS scan (gp referred me due to bad cramping and the lovely nurse in the epu remembered me), it was at 7+1, adjusted to 6+6, and there was just a little blob with a heartbeat. If I'd had the choice I would have waited longer to see more but I was massively reassured by seeing the heartbeat, I too had an empty sac last time.

jmf sick is a good sign... And hopefully only last a few weeks more. I keep telling myself that, had another migraine today and yesterday, had loads with dd and it was awful but at the same time it's a symptom and I'll take any I can get

shell that's fab news!! delighted for you :)

the ricotta i had unfortunately wasn't cooked, but i honestly thought it was ok. there's not a lot i can do about it now although the worry is still there. fx i haven't done anything wrong. but i remember telling the midwife at my booking in appointment that we were going to sicily and she said she bets all the italian women eat all the tasty stuff we think we can't have

yey shell that's lovely , now come and update us properly!

janie i still think you'll be fine :)