Pregnant (IVF) Worriers

[Dildals]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

A few of us graduated from the IVF thread (link below) and are having a go at our own thread to get out of the other IVF-ers hair! So get your roomy jogging bottoms on for some virtual hand holding, mutual symptom spotting and staying sane until the next scan date.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1691674-Excellent-Egg-Buddies-continued-Anyone-having-IVF-ICSI-in-Jan-Feb-and-March-2013-please-join-us

Hi dachs and expatal - welcome to the thread! Expat- I think you popped up on the ivf thread in jan to say some encouraging things about not being too old to conceive, thanks for that. Glad to see everything is going so well. I am so sorry to hear of both your losses and mariana's. I have been so lucky in comparison. You all ate very brave.

I told my boss yesterday about the pregnancy since it is getting so obvious (keep I had a bump at 18 weeks with my first and 8 (!!!) with this one. It was enormous by full term with DS, I looked like I had swallowed a basketball). He was surprisingly relaxed about it so I must have caught him on a good day. We area very small team so anyone taking time off is hard to cover. I am v relieved to get that conversation over with.

My parents are visiting at the moment and my mum wants to talk a lot about the baby. It's funny, in a way I do but I feel very detached from it all. It is odd to have got what I wanted after wanting it for so long. I am really looking forward to feeling him or her move because that might warm me up a bit.

dildals you could sign up fur the aquathlon but give yourself advance permission to drop out if you don't feel up to it. Everyone is so different when pg. with DS I was still cycling on my mountain bike up til 2 days before I went into labour but I know a lot of people who found that impossible after the second trimester. I think a lot depends on your build and how the baby is lying.

Ps shazza good luck with the scan! I will have my fingers crossed.

Good luck shazza !!! So exciting!

Good luck Shazza!

keepitgoing I guess you could say I had early labour - he was 1 day early in all seriousness, that was one of the things I fretted about the most - esp once I got to like 20 weeks. it was like I was on countdown and with each week passing, baby had a better chance...

One day Early's about perfect, I'd say :)

shaz lovely I look forward to your news later and am keeping everything crossed for you. It will be amazing.

Thanks girls. I'm so nervous and keep trying to remind myself that the majority of pregnancies are perfectly fine. I just hope that it's not empty in there. I'm dreading that. I've been unbelievably lucky so far. I hope it lasts. I'll let you know how it goes.

Have a good morning. Xx

What time is your appt shazza?

When I walked out the scan room with the happy news and a picture I was completely dazed, like walking on a bouncey castle, and part of me wanted to wave the pictures around in the waiting room, punching the air, shouting 'IT'S TWINS!' 'THIS IVF MALARKEY CAN WORK GIRLS, KEEP THE FAITH!' But decided against it, Brits don't talk to strangers after all, trying to fit in ;-).

shazza I dare you, I think you need to do it, for all the 40+s out there! ;-)

(I am totally optimistic about your scan :-))

Lol, I was the same Dildals. I wanted to say 'this woman got me pregnant and i'm really really old. Don't despair!'
But we walked out sedately with poker (I think) faces.

Good luch Shazza. Enjoy!

Thanks expat and dildals. The appt is at 1pm. Im soooo nervous! Im sitting at my desk trying to get all my work done cause if its bad news im not coming in tomorrow and then im off for 2 weeks. But I've got butterflies.

If all goes well I could walk out saying 'definitely keep the faith I got pg at the 11th hour even with these old eggs and they told me I couldn't do it!!!!'

I'm not particularly religious but oh please God let it be ok.

Xx

Ps did anyone see one born every minute last night? I don't usually allow myself to watch these progs but I did last night. There was a young couple and the lad went out for a cup of tea and a fag and when he came back he had missed the main event! Bless him he was gutted. Mr S is a big tea drinker and I can imagine him popping out for a quick earl grey only to come back and it has all happened. I've told him that if we get that far he is NOT allowed, under any circumstances, to leave me alone!

shaz I think you got pregnant at the 13th hour :)
Argh I thought you'd be done by now, 5pm here.

I wish it was 5pm here. Work is suffering but I can't make myself care.

Thanks Keep.

dildals and expat double LOLS! I kept quiet in the waiting room after the scan but I did announce to the receptionist that 'it worked!' I was afraid the other couples there may have had bad news but perhaps we are all too buttoned up here ( then again I'm not British either...)

shazza good luck again. I like your story re tea breaks and labour. When I was in hospital trying to give birth to DS at one point in the 48 hr ordeal DH went out and got a bag of crisps, came back in and sat there crunching whilst I lay on the bed immobilised and in agony from an epidural that only partly worked. I wasn't allowed to eat either in case if a caesarean. I got really annoyed and told him, "this is not a spectator sport!" Which the midwives found hilarious. I have since forgiven him.

Oh poor you fairy. I think that insulting DPs is part of it all isn't it?

Talking of which....so I text DP to say that I'm leaving work now and he calls me to ask why am I leaving so early, what time are we meeting? HE FORGOT TO CHANGE THE CLOCK IN HIS OFFICE!!!!!!! I left him running to try to leave the flat to get the train to London bridge meanwhile I'm on the bus wondering if he will make it and I could be doing this exciting/difficult experience on my own.

Oh poor you fairy. I think that insulting DPs is part of it all isn't it?

Talking of which....so I text DP to say that I'm leaving work now and he calls me to ask why am I leaving so early, what time are we meeting? HE FORGOT TO CHANGE THE CLOCK IN HIS OFFICE!!!!!!! I left him running to try to leave the flat to get the train to London bridge meanwhile I'm on the bus wondering if he will make it and I could be doing this exciting/difficult experience on my own.

OMG! Men!

You won't be doing it alone, we will all be thinking of you! And you can always ask them to wait for 20 mins or so with the scan because DP is running late? He better get a frikkin scoot on though!

Hello
Just wanted to say welcome to Dachs and Expat and good luck to Shaz - I'm thinking of you right now!
Ladies - what would Jesus do. I'm going to see the GP tomorrow to record my pregnancy and get some more metformin (which has been prescribed to me for yonks to sort my PCOS symptoms out - way before I was TTC) and I'm tempted to test again - I haven't tested since 4+3. My logic is that there's no point going if I've lost the pregnancy and I get a negative, but I think this is just an excuse to test again. My rational brain tells me that a) I could get a negative and it could totally f*ck up my weekend and no doubt, life, but at least I'll know, or b) I could get a nice juicy pos (am planning to use a CB digi) which would be reassuring, but c) not conclusive anyway as even if I've lost it I could have HCG in my system. GAH. Did those of you who have been scanned at 6/7 wks test before/between scans? x

PS I will be 5+2 tomorrow.

Oh no! Hope he makes it.

MrsH, I peed on a stick many many times just to see those beautiful two lines. Why do you think you've lost the pregnancy? I'm pretty good at negative thinking but this is doom gloom thinking even for me.

Lol expat
I don't know - a combination of reasons I guess. The fact I got a faintish line on a FRER on test day when I thought it would show up blazing pink if it was a healthy pregnancy (even though HCG the day after confirmed good levels), the total lack of symptoms and the fact that I'd totally given up on this cycle working given the embie was the bottom of the bunch and only thawed with 80% of its cells intact. I am being properly doom and gloom aren't I! x

I'm sure you know that the brightness of the line depends on the amount of ink. Any symptoms you have now would be due to the hormonal supplements and the trigger shot, not pregnancy so worry not. In fact I always thought that no symptoms was best because early symptoms meant pmt.
I was once told that that it didn't matter how raggedy the embryo looked - everything depended on the powerhouse inside. And isn't 80% after a thaw brilliant?

Hello everyone
Thanks for all the encouraging words and supportive thoughts.

All fine. Phew! we are having a celebratory bowl of chips!

Mr Muppet made it by the skin of his teeth and we got whisked in. I hadn't realised it was going to be internal so I was allowed to pee. Very relieved I was too!

And then we saw shazlett. Her little heart was beating so fast. Oh my goodness it was amazing. I was half laughing half crying. My laughing kept making her jump around. She is the right length and so far so good. Nurse reckoned I'm 2 days behind estimate so 7.4 not 7.6 but having said that she has put 7.6 on the printout for us to keep. (print out also says my ovaries are 'unremarkable' they are amazing remarkable if you ask me the right one came up trumps) And we've got pictures! Pictures of our baby. It's incredible. She pointed out the umbilicle cord and you could see the blood pumping through it.

The nurse said don't worry about symptoms. If I don't have too much sickness now then I'm probably going to be lucky. I felt sick today but not sure if that was nerves.

I'm so so relieved. I know that there is a long way to go but it feels like one milestone is reached at least.

And to add to the good news no more fanny candles! Yep I can go cold turkey apparently and not a moment too soon.

So I'm an official graduate of guys acu today. The nurse said to keep in touch and tell them how I'm getting on. Even though we didn't complete our treatment they have been great. So supportive and have always got time for questions.

MrsH I tested 7 times until 5 weeks then stopped after a hcg blood test. Then I had a panic at 6 weeks cause my 1 symptom went away and I convinced myself that it was all over. Sadly one of the ladies on the other thread did a CB digi conception indicator test and the dates went from 2-3 back to 1-2 (it should have been 3+ at that point) so she knew something was up. It was about the same time as my panic so I decided to do the same. I figured it was better to know and I still had 2 weeks to wait for this scan. Anyway I got 2 more CB tests and did one at about 6.3 and one this weekend just gone. Luckily for me both said 3+. I felt abit more reassured by that. I also felt like a fraud going to the GP cause i didnt feel anything and didnt believe i was pg. If you think that it is going to help do the tests. You've got nothing to lose but £10.99. Chances are everything will be fine and you will feel abit reassured. Good luck.

I'm going home after this. I'm going to call FMC to book the harmony now that I know shazlett is there. I can't believe that will be in about 2 weeks. It goes so fast.

Thanks again for today.

I hope you are all ok.

Love shaz xx

Hmmm, do you still have the trigger shot if it's a FET?

Shazza, hurrah! Brilliant news! So happy and relieved for you.