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Dildals · 31/03/2013 16:46

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

A few of us graduated from the IVF thread (link below) and are having a go at our own thread to get out of the other IVF-ers hair! So get your roomy jogging bottoms on for some virtual hand holding, mutual symptom spotting and staying sane until the next scan date.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1691674-Excellent-Egg-Buddies-continued-Anyone-having-IVF-ICSI-in-Jan-Feb-and-March-2013-please-join-us

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keepitgoing · 29/04/2013 03:28

Hi crisps and congratulations again! I think there's nothing you can do about the waiting but keep busy, book an early scan, and count each day as a step closer.

MarianaTrench · 29/04/2013 04:25

Congratulations crisps, the waiting is just awful, the 20 week scan was the massive hurdle for us so that felt like years away. I found I was ok in the day as I was busy at work or with DD but evenings were hard. I found trying to improve my knitting took my mind off things. Don't go to bed too early or you'll wake at 4am and worry worry worry!

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Dildals · 29/04/2013 06:31

welcome crisps - the waiting period you are in is definitely the hardest. For me it felt like time was standing still. There is no magic bullet I am afraid, but keeping busy definitely helps. I started cleaning the windows, baking, exercise, walks, just anything to keep me vaguely occupied. The cruel thing is you can't go to the pub for distraction either!

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Shazzamattazzerly · 29/04/2013 10:59

Hello everyone

Congratulations Crisps. Amazing news. I saw on the IVF thread that you had a BFP. The wait is hard but try to take it day by day and we are here to help. I was mentalling like a maniac from about 5 weeks until my scan at 7.6 weeks. I found that relaxation tapes and meditation also.

Hello to everyone else. I hope you all had a nice weekend. It dawned on my yesterday that So much trust is involved with this. I have to trust that shazlett is ok in there. I don't see her again til next week.

Oh and I got rumbled this morning. A colleague saw me in the bus with my badge on! She has promised not to tell. I've got nearly another 2 weeks until I tell everyone.

Have a lovely day.

Shaz xx

MarianaTrench · 29/04/2013 11:33

I found it very hard keeping it hidden at work. I was 14 weeks before I told my boss as I had to wait for full chromosomal results. Then when I tod her I cried and was then really embarrassed. Luckily my boss is lovely and let me be mental about it all.

Massive fail today as the baby was up all night constantly feeding so I had no sleep. DH has stayed off this morning so I could get a couple of hours. Thank god he had no appointments but I feel really guilty.

Shazzamattazzerly · 29/04/2013 13:53

Sorry you had a difficult night Mariana. Don't feel guilty. It's great that DH is there to support and help.

I'll be 13 weeks when I get the harmony results and can tell. It feels funny knowing that someone in the team knows. But I think that she is discrete.

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Dildals · 29/04/2013 13:55

just in case someone else wants to get their head around the financial outlay of childcare costs : Southwark council has a complete list of all nurseries and childminders that are registered with them, AND THEIR FEES, on their website. Even if you don't live in Southwark, other councils may have the same.

Turns out there are cheaper nurseries where I live (PFEW!) and, surprisingly, childminders seem to be a cheaper option! So I have some bedtime reading for the, oh, next 16 months! (until I get back to work)

Defintely not going to private school these two!

mariana yes I would be planning to go back fulltime. I really enjoy my job, it is not a job I could do in 2.5 days, unless I get someone to jobshare with me, which is something they are happy to help with at work (theoretically), but TBH I think we would need the cash!

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SweetieTime · 29/04/2013 16:32

Afternoon ladies, please can I join?

My OTD was Saturday so I have rung the clinic today to let them know my BFP. They have booked my scan for 2 weeks and 1 day not that I am counting We had DE IVF, 2 x grade 1 embryos returned day 3. So I am not sure if we have one or 2 on board, only time will tell.
Just taking things a step at a time at the moment, but still frantically knicker checking as I still can not quite believe it.

MarianaTrench · 29/04/2013 16:42

Congratulations sweetie! Sorry for laughing at 'knicker checking', going to the loo will not be the same again. I'm afraid I was still knicker checking the day I gave birth.

Dildals, good that you enjoy your job, I like mine these days but not enough to be FT. I resigned from my last job rather than go back - pt wasn't really an option and I hated it. One good thing about living up here is that everything is cheaper so it feels like there is more choice over that kind of thing.

Shazzamattazzerly · 29/04/2013 17:20

Congratulations Sweetie and welcome. How exciting for you. I can also fess up to knicker checking and im 11.3 weeks.

Thanks dildals for pointer to council website. Great idea. I'm hoping to be out of London by the end of mat leave but maybe that is just a dream!

ExpatAl · 29/04/2013 18:02

I hate to tell you but I'm still knicker checking at 21 weeks!

Welcome Sweetie and congratulations! What is OTD? Oooo, maybe 2!

Welcome to Crispy too! I have no good advice about how to survive the early days. 'tis torture.

MarianaTrench · 29/04/2013 18:06

Exciting Shazza! Where do you want to be instead? I would say to go for it, we dithered pointlessly about it for ages.

SweetieTime · 29/04/2013 19:58

Glad I am not brooking the trend for knicker checking!! I think it might continue for some time that and POAS just to be sure

ExpatAl OTD = official test day

Foodylicious · 29/04/2013 20:06

welcome sweetie and congrats!

fairypangolin · 29/04/2013 21:04

I wouldn't say I'm still knicker checking, I'm more "knicker aware".

Shazzamattazzerly · 29/04/2013 21:38

Mariana we (read I) would like to be in a place that is more manageable than London, has its own artist community and artistic culture, is nearer to my family in the Cotswolds if possible and we can still get to London easily. Bristol seems to fit this bill so far. I would like to be able to walk or cycle into town. We talked to someone about Cambridge the other day but I think it would be too expensive maybe. We could go home to where my parents are but it's abit small for our careers at this time. We still need to be around other artists although it is very arty there. I've had a brilliant time in London but its time for a different life and shazlett is the reason that we have been waiting for. But DP is very attached to his siblings so dragging him away will be hard. However we need to think about our family now. All early days yet. Did you move from a big city to the country?

MarianaTrench · 29/04/2013 22:23

We have lived in Manchester for the last 5 years. After we had DD1 we just didn't use the city in the same way and felt like we had all of the inconveniences (noise, crime, oversubscribed nurseries, poor schools, etc.) with none of the benefits of living in a city. We had talked about moving out to the countryside for a few years and eventually thought fuck it, let's try it. We thought the house would take ages to sell but it went immediately, so we moved faster than we expected but have had absolutely no regrets, except that we didn't do it sooner. As you say, your needs change and somewhere that has been good is no longer as suitable.

I don't know Bristol but it sounds like you've done your research. I assume property is cheaper there. That was a benefit of our move in that we have a far better house for not that much more money.

keepitgoing · 30/04/2013 04:41

Het sweetie you'll see dildals has twins on board, so if you do too, which I think you do, then she is v knowledgeable.

keepitgoing · 30/04/2013 09:14

9+4 scan today, and all was brilliant. Nuchal scan etc at 13+1, and I'm discharged from the if clinic now!

:)

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Dildals · 30/04/2013 09:45

keep that's great news! Congrats! Feels weird being discharged isn't it? Did you punch the air in the waiting room outside, clutching your scan photo, high fiving the people in the waiting room?

I am very knowledgeable on twins Hmm ! sweet

I think knickerwatch becomes a bit of a habit, I still do it on occasion.

I weigh myself every week and I lost weight compared to last week. Only half a kilo, which could just be a fluctuation. Something else to worry about. I am still in the normal ranges for twin weight gain though, so am not going to worry too much. The bump has regained its former shape again too. I did a Demi Moore in the bathroom the other day. I woke up last night for a wee, and I was HUNGRY. Haha, I may have to start doing nightly fridge raids!

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Shazzamattazzerly · 30/04/2013 10:05

Keep that is great news congratulations. The later scan is so different isn't it? You can see so much more. How do you feel leaving the clinic for the big wide world outside?

Midnight feasts eh dildals! We'll be having sleepovers next and going back to school days Smile. I need to get some scales. Relying on other peoples dodgy bathroom scales is not too accurate. Oh and what does Demi Moore do in the bathroom?

Shazzamattazzerly · 30/04/2013 10:05

Ps Mariana you have inspired me to do more move research. Xx

keepitgoing · 30/04/2013 10:07

Dildals my weight fluctuates by a kilo, day to day. Try again tomorrow and don't fret (ha ha)

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Dildals · 30/04/2013 10:08

shazza My in-laws live an hrs drive away from Bristol, it is pretty pleasant there! We use their place as a bolthole in the country! And it is close to an outlet shopping centre AND the Mulberry factory shop. I love my in-laws, but I also LOVE the fact that there's such good shopping nearby! ;-)

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SweetieTime · 30/04/2013 10:10

Dildals did you suspect twins before your scan?

keep great news on the scan. big wide world is out there waiting for you