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Pregnant (IVF) Worriers

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Dildals · 31/03/2013 16:46

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

A few of us graduated from the IVF thread (link below) and are having a go at our own thread to get out of the other IVF-ers hair! So get your roomy jogging bottoms on for some virtual hand holding, mutual symptom spotting and staying sane until the next scan date.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1691674-Excellent-Egg-Buddies-continued-Anyone-having-IVF-ICSI-in-Jan-Feb-and-March-2013-please-join-us

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ExpatAl · 22/04/2013 20:24

Oh Fairy it's probably nothing but just so worrying. I would definitely contact the antenatal clinic so you can put it out of your mind.

ExpatAl · 22/04/2013 20:25

I didn't mean to say probably. What I meant was it's almost certainly nothing. I spotted at 16 weeks and it scared me to death.

MrsHY1 · 22/04/2013 21:17

Hi ladies
Fairy- I totally agree with Expat, I don't think you have to worry but do call your midwife as she'll probably say the same but unlike me, has the qualifications to back it up Smile
Dildals, same goes for you, I would imagine they've just had a wiggle round? Perhaps it was all the excitement from Barcelona?
Keep- I assume your spotting stopped?
Nothing to report here- 7+5 today. Have had (sorry for the tmi) a couple of tiny dollops of yellowish egg white stylie fluid, plus the boobs are still hurting (the bottom half- under the nipple!) but no real nausea as yet, only a churny feeling when I'm hungry (but that's not dissimilar to normal!). Just wish I could go for weekly scans to put my mind at rest, but a) I can't afford it and b) I think it could actually make my mentalling worse.
Am hoping there will be one point in this pregnancy when I can stop fretting and start relaxing, gah...

fairypangolin · 22/04/2013 21:34

Thanks, expat. I just had a couple of prunes in an attempt to speed up 'intestinal transit time' (that was for youdildals :-))

fairypangolin · 22/04/2013 21:38

And thanks, Mrs HY. My nausea started as just an unsettled feeling when I was hungry so maybe that is what is lurking for you. It came on full about a week after that.

MrsHY1 · 22/04/2013 22:06

Oh goodie, something to look forward to, thanks Fairy Grin
Enjoy those prunes!

MarianaTrench · 22/04/2013 23:18

Fairy, if you're constipated it could be bleeding from cervical erosion. This is where the cervix becomes slightly grazed and hypersensitive due to preg hormones and become prone to slight bleeding that will have gone brown by the time it reaches the exit. Constipation can cause a bit of cervical bleeding. You can get your GP to have a look at your cervix and tell you if it's eroded. I had this once and knowing it was that helped with the anxiety. Anyway, google it, it's dead common.

That's how I felt about my pregnancy, absolutely no sense of enjoying it, just wanted it to go ok and for the baby to be out and healthy. I do feel huge relief at her being out but you do just transfer worries onto the baby. I was talking to my mum last night who was saying she still worries about us the same as she ever did when we were little. I guess that's just parenthood.

Dildals, bumps do change size and shape for all sorts of innocent reasons, and your own physiology will affect how you look. Any bloating will make your bump look bigger when it's got nothing to do with your actual uterus. I am having terrible post natal bowel trouble and yesterday looked about 7 months pregnant whereas today I'm far flatter.

Anyway, will be up all night as madam will only sleep on a person, not in her cot and DH has to work tomorrow am so he can't take over. Thank god for the iPhone for keeping me awake.

Sending you all calm vibes!

Shazzamattazzerly · 23/04/2013 07:30

Morning all

Sorry for missing a day. The first day back at work after 2 weeks off was abit traumatic!

Mariana I hope your nighttime marathon was ok.

Fairy I hope the spotting has stopped. What everyone else has said sounds entirely plausible but if you are worried then best to check. I'm tucking into my prunes as I type. They are my new best friends Smile

Dildals I hope your bump has settled. Again sounds normal. You'll have a big enough bump soon enough!

Expat is your scan this week?

Wow time is passing quickly MrsH 7.5! Keep you are a little ahead of that aren't you? How are you feeling?

And I hope everything is ok in all other camps.

All good here. Highlight this week is going for another scan and harmony bloods on Wednesday. I've got everything crossed that it's all clear. The next 2 weeks are going to be a tricky wait.

Have a good day.

Shaz xx

ExpatAl · 23/04/2013 14:04

Fairy how are you doing today?

Shazza, enjoy your scan tomorrow. Mine is on Thursday.

fairypangolin · 23/04/2013 16:14

Hi all- thanks for the supportive comments. The spotting has stopped apart fr microscopic traces that only a paranoid former IVFer would have noticed this morning. And the prunes worked. So I think it must have been a tiny bit of cervical erosion or inflammation (erosion is such a scary word!)

Shazza - hope your next scan is equally enjoyable.

Mariana- DS wouldn't sleep in his cot as a newborn until I put a pillowcase I had been using over the mattress. I guess it smelled like me and was therefore sufficiently reassured that he slept fine in there after that. Might be worth a try.

Shazzamattazzerly · 23/04/2013 16:17

Oh good luck Expat. Fingers crossed.

I'm enjoying having my little secret at work. I feel different about it all.

Quick question have you signed up for NCT (those in the UK)? I haven't done that yet but someone said that they have a waiting list.

Shaz x

keepitgoing · 23/04/2013 16:22

Hi all! fairy is all normal again?

MrsHY I just had about twelve hours of spotting, thank goodness. Sex is now banned and nothing else so far. 8+4 today, and feel queasy when I think of food, but OK once I start eating. I read today 10/11 weeks is the worst, but am hoping it won't get much worse. I have another scan a week today.

keepitgoing · 23/04/2013 16:23

X post. Great stuff fairy.

MarianaTrench · 23/04/2013 18:55

I think 10 weeks is the worst for sickness, keep telling yourself that anyway and hopefully it'll soon pass.

I was thinking of putting a worn tshirt in her cot but a pillowcase would be better in terms of lying something flat. She's spending most of the night sleeping on my chest, absolutely lovely but against all the rules. Strangely she'll sleep in her cot in the day with no problem. Babies are a continual mystery to me!

I've never joined NCT and have heard mixed reports about it. It's like buying a group of friends who are all at a similar stage to you, but also that the groups can be quite competitive as you're not really friends, just happen to be having a baby at the same time which is no guarantee you'll get on famously. I met people through local playgroups etc but it depends if there's much like that where you live and how sociable you are. I think there's quite a lot of groups about these days, I recently moved to a rural village and we have a baby group at each church and the library and children's centre in a nearby larger village have stuff going on. When I lived in the inner city there was lots going on, you just had to be brave enough to walk in and be friendly!

Erosion does sound scary but it isn't and is really common. It's often the cause of spotting after sex in pregnancy too - you've been warned!

Shazzamattazzerly · 24/04/2013 09:50

Hello ladies

I hope you are all ok.

Thanks Mariana. I emailed re the local NCT group and it is £360! The classes are the same time as our antenatal classes so I'm not sure it is worth it. We would have antenatal on Friday afternoons immediately followed by NCT on Saturday mornings for 6 weeks. Might be abit much?

Keep I was lucky re sickness and only felt mildly queasy occasionally after eating but my mum has just lent me her seasickness bands that you wear on your wrists. There is a little knobble on each one that presses on an acupressure point. Apparently they worked wonders at sea and work on morning sickness as well. I've been wearing them for 4 days now and feel fine. But like I said I didn't have much before. Worth a go though I reckon.
www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B000LNEB0Q

I'll see shazlett this afternoon again when I have the harmony bloods done. Can't wait!

Have a good day all.

Shaz xx

ExpatAl · 24/04/2013 10:23

Morning all. Beautiful day here. Have just arranged a lunch meeting so I can sit for a long time in the sun :-)

360 Shazza! That's outrageous. What do you get for all that dosh?
BCT membership (the brussels equivalent of NCT) charges 180 euros for full membership and I think I'll use it a lot as it has lots of meet ups, dinner nights, running groups etc.
Anyway, far more importantly have a lovely time gazing at your little bean this afternoon.

MarianaTrench · 24/04/2013 11:08

£360 is loads, hardly an equal opportunities service! Thinking about it, it was the wealthier people I knew who joined. (The ones with Bugaboos and Trust Funds.) They spent a lot of time complaining that the meet ups consisted of people showing off about how advanced their baby was. That happens at ordinary baby groups but at least you haven't paid £££ to be irritated by it. I still remember the girl who was insistent her 9 month old baby was talking.

Enjoy your scan Shazza.

keepitgoing · 25/04/2013 03:53

Shaz, how was it? When do you get the results?

Never realised nct was that much. Everyone I know just joined to meet people, which is silly if you think about it!

fairypangolin · 25/04/2013 07:09

When I had DS 5 years ago it was £180 for a weekend NCT course in Cambridge. £360 sounds a bit absurd. I did a hypnobirthing course instead, which was useful but I didn't get the social element that some of my friends had with NCT and enjoyed (although overwhelmingly middle class).

Dildals · 25/04/2013 08:30

I joined NCT, everyone kept saying I should, that they really enjoyed meeting people that were in a similar boat, so I did. We are of course overwhelmingly middle class, so we fit right in. Lots of my friends still have regular catchups with their NCT friends.

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Dildals · 25/04/2013 08:30

Shazza - how was the scan yesterday?

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MarianaTrench · 25/04/2013 10:27

I found that it was mostly overwhelmingly middle class types (including myself here!) who used the children centres and church playgroups. The indigenous local working class population seemed to stick to family and school friend groups, probably because they were significantly younger.

By charging £360 they are ensuring their groups remain middle class, although we wouldn't be able to afford that having just moved house and me being on mat leave.

keepitgoing · 25/04/2013 11:31

Dildals you joined already?!

ExpatAl · 25/04/2013 15:46

Hi all. Anomaly scan went well. Splodge wouldn't stop flipping about so it was a bit of a challenge. The scanner couldn't see the eyes so I need to go back in a few weeks. Cervix is also a good length so paranoia is at bay for a week or two.

How are you all doing?

MrsHY1 · 25/04/2013 16:27

Hurrah Expat that's great news.
Have been reading the NCT posts with interest. I've found that the best way of keeping my mind busy and away from constant mentalling that something has gone wrong since last Weds is to go into overdrive, booking myself onto NCT and a f*cking hypnobirthing course! Shock I've figured that nothing I do or not do is going to affect the outcome so I may as well get organised. I draw the line at purchasing any tangible 'things' yet though, not ready for that yet.
Had such good news last week, a close family member is also newly pregnant after her first round of IVF (I didn't know she was having it but she ended up in hospital with mild ohss and it all came out). I therefore shared my news. If it works out for both of us our due dates are three weeks apart Grin

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