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Pregnant (IVF) Worriers

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Dildals · 31/03/2013 16:46

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

A few of us graduated from the IVF thread (link below) and are having a go at our own thread to get out of the other IVF-ers hair! So get your roomy jogging bottoms on for some virtual hand holding, mutual symptom spotting and staying sane until the next scan date.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1691674-Excellent-Egg-Buddies-continued-Anyone-having-IVF-ICSI-in-Jan-Feb-and-March-2013-please-join-us

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keepitgoing · 15/04/2013 11:57

I've not had any implantation bleeding though, and am 7+3... Scan tomorrow...

ExpatAl · 15/04/2013 12:21

You don't have to have it at a particular time, or at all. Anyway, I'm sure you're climbing the walls as I would be, so excellent that you've got a scan tomorrow. Try to keep calm, drink lots of water and take it easy. Sending you huge positive vibes. Please keep us updated - I'll be stalking this thread for news.

keepitgoing · 15/04/2013 12:25

Thanks...

fairypangolin · 15/04/2013 12:59

Lots of women have brown spotting and it is fine. Fresh red blood is more problematic. As expat says, try to keep calm although we all understand the anxiety!

MrsHY1 · 15/04/2013 14:32

Keep, don't panic yet, brown discharge seems to be quite a common feature of pregnancy, both early and throughout! Good luck for tomorrow xx

Tanlee · 15/04/2013 16:24

just discovered this thread, so thought I'd say hello. What a great idea! I do think if you've had a hard time getting pregnant and had to go through the IVF rollercoaster, that you worry more. I'm finally pregnant fro my 4th round of IVF. I thought the worry would go once I became pregnant, but now instead of worrying about getting pregnant, I'm worrying about the baby.

I think when you have IVF you are monitored so regularly that I've felt a bit abandoned now that I am pregnant. I had a scan at 8, 12 and 20 weeks, and have been worrying throughout. Was worried before 8 week scan that there wouldn't be a heartbeat (there was), was worried I'd be high risk (due to age) at 12 week nuchal/blood tests (I wasn't - 1/3200) and worried about anomolies at 20 week scan (none seen). Have been so anxious that went for harmony test (still waiting for results) and consultant did us an extra scan today (which again was fine - nothing sinister to worry about). Am hoping that when I get the harmony test we will be clear of downs and that I can then relax - but I'm sure something else will come up. Husband thinks I'm a bit nuts, so it's great to find this thread! :)

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Dildals · 15/04/2013 16:45

Hi tanlee yes I think you have definitely come to the right place!

Keep I had loads of brown blood (and red actually) spotting, even till after my 12 week scan, so, although it's hard to not worry about it ... try not to worry about it! ;-) Also, I read somewhere that all the IVF drugs plump up your endometrium duvet so nicely that you are more prone to spotting.

I am currently worrying about the nuchal chances I got 1/2268 which I was happy with, but now fairy has come in with her super score (and tanlee) I am starting to worry again ... how to drive oneself nuts ...

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ExpatAl · 15/04/2013 18:08

yep, indeedy.. there's always something to drive yourself nuts about.

Welcome tanlee! You've found the right place to worry about what you should be worrying about.

I have a big definite give the lady a seat bump now. I'm liking it and can't stop admiring my silhouette in anything reflective. Is anyone else as tragic as this?

fairypangolin · 15/04/2013 18:29

tanlee good to meet you and your worries! How many weeks are you? Congrats!

dildals please don't worry! Only if you get a likelihood like 1 in 250 do you become high risk so really your results are fine.

expat yay for the bump! I think you admire yourself nonstop, I'm sure you are beautiful.

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Dildals · 15/04/2013 18:43

expat YES I am. And I just have a 'bump' that looks like I am just a bit overweight with an unfortunate genetic fat distribution. We have mirrors in the lifts at work and always have to check out the silhouette. I just find it fascinating to actually SEE something is happening in there. Every couple of days I am taken aback again how FAST it is growing (I am going to be massive). I was showing people my belly over the weekend as well :-). DH loves touching it too, I think it has become more real for him now that he can see something happening.

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MarianaTrench · 15/04/2013 20:51

Keep, brown is good, 1/4 women bleed in pregnancy at some point and there are loads of innocent causes.

Hello tanlee, we're all worriers here.

Expat, hope you are actually getting the seats!

As for me, well my long long awaited little girl is asleep on my lap and I can't take my eyes off her. All seems to be ok with her (but I am obviously worrying anyway!!!) Thanks for all your kind words, it's meant a lot.

So, who's due up next...

fairypangolin · 15/04/2013 20:58

Oh wonderful news, mariana, you must be so relieved! What does she weigh? Hope you are not feeling too rough. Flowers

MarianaTrench · 15/04/2013 21:05

Relieved yes, she came out bellowing!

She is 7lbs. I lost a lot of blood so am pretty ropey if I try and stand up, they will see if I need a transfusion tomorrow. I couldn't care less about me though!

ExpatAl · 15/04/2013 21:17

Mariana, terrific news! congratulations! A whole pile of new things to worry about now Smile. In the meantime enjoy your precious girl. I'm so happy for you.

Dildals, it must be amazing to have a twins belly. Have you tried the pilates class yet?

Fairy, aww I'm blushing.

MrsHY1 · 16/04/2013 07:44

Congrats Mariana! Amazing news Grin

keepitgoing · 16/04/2013 08:24

Congratulations Mariana!!!!

Welcome tanlee how many weeks are you?

I am delighted to say all was good at the scan, 7+4, we saw the heartbeat!! :) :) it was amazing and I wonder if now I'll start to think of myself as pregnant... He said he didn't know about the bleeding but said it might have been the sex on Friday, and told us sternly no sex or exercise until I tell you... Hmm, I'm not sure about that, will have to see...

Good luck for tomorrow mrsHY. How are you feeling?

keepitgoing · 16/04/2013 08:42

Oh, expat, I'm in Thailand.

dildals wtaf at your sil?! Also, nice one on not having any preggo stuff lying around, I have loads.

ExpatAl · 16/04/2013 10:03

Great news Keep! Yes, you should definitely think of yourself as pregnant.

MrsHY1 · 16/04/2013 10:30

Ace news Keep! You must feel as if you've passed one important milestone. Was your DH with you? Lol at sex ban instructions Wink

Wow, so you live in Thailand do you? And Expat, you're in Belgium? DH's parents were expats in Belgium for a number of years, just outside Antwerp. I loved visiting. The food was awesomeGrin

I'm not bad Keep, thanks for asking. Am alternating between moments of excitement (when I'm visualising lying there tomorrow and being told that everything's as it should be) and moments of panic and sheer fear, quite frankly.Hmm

keepitgoing · 16/04/2013 10:59

Mrs the good thing is you can basically see right away that there's something there, though you're a little behind me. But dh said immediately 'even I can tell its there', then the doc mutters and measures for a while... Is it in the morning at least?

Yes, Bangkok, till August, when we move home. We'll have been here a year. Moving back at 22 weeks, moving house. No problem, right...?

MrsHY1 · 16/04/2013 11:59

Cheers keep. It's at 1pm so not at the end of the day at least. Hopefully either way I'll be put out of my misery quickly. May even keep my eyes closed so not tempted to draw my own conclusions! And yes, am a bit behind you, 7 wks tomorrow. Not a scrap of nausea yet but boob pain when braless continues, as does stretchy/mild crampy/pokey type feelings in the uterus area.

Oh don't you worry, moving house at 22 wks will be a breeze Grin

Tanlee · 16/04/2013 17:46

Hi everyone,
I'm 21 + 3 weeks, and have finally got a bump (although not feeling much at the moment as my placenta is at the front, so it acts like a cushion). Just got in from work and going to have a sneaky nap for an hour...remids me of when I was a student!:)

ExpatAl · 16/04/2013 18:02

Are you moving house and country Keep? It'll be fine! Grin

Good luck MrsH. It's just lovely to see the hearbeat so clearly. I was pointed out the head etc too but have no idea how it was possible to tell. Come back and report.

carliepow · 16/04/2013 19:55

Hello all,

Can I join please?

Fairy just invited me to join after seeing my lonely little worrying thread about being anxious after our second attempt at ivf. Congratulations to you all on your pregnancies. I'm 16+2 and finally believing that I'm pregnant but still so afraid something could go wrong. Really really want to enjoy my pregnancy, hoping it will come in time.

fairypangolin · 16/04/2013 20:16

Good to see you carlie!

keep wonderful news on the scan. And moving when you are 22 weeks pregnant is better than moving when you have a 22 week old baby. Although I did that and survived (not between countries though).

dildals I meant to say I was v impressed at your swimming time trial! Maybe I will try swimming instead of jogging (well shuffling really) although I am a rubbish swimmer if I try to do real strokes. I only just started jogging again in the last couple of weeks not because I was afraid of harming the baby but because I was too nauseated or exhausted. And the weather didn't help. Went to an antenatal Pilates class today which actually was quite challenging and the teacher v knowledgeable. Quite a lot of wobbling around on large bouncy balls though.