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Sex when pg, sorry if tmi!

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Christelle2207 · 18/02/2013 19:10

Hi
Am 16 weeks, had sex with dp twice since BFP, twice more we have tried but I had to stop because just too sore down below. I mentioned to mw and she said it was normal??! The twice we did manage I was also sore- it was bearable but I didn't enjoy it.
Any others got the same issue and how should I go about fixing? Try more often try warm bath before sex? Will ask mw again when I see her next week but any ideas in the meantime, my dp is understanding but understandably worried!

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Mrsambition · 18/02/2013 19:18

I was the same up until about 18/20 weeks...... I know far to long!! It is normal and will eventually go away but until then you could try "alternatives". Hope it eases up soon :)

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Christelle2207 · 18/02/2013 19:43

Thanks- at least it's no just me!

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bogbean · 18/02/2013 19:47

I have the same problem along with a general lack of desire. I struggle to get properly aroused even when I am enjoying foreplay which doesn't help. Lots of lube seems to be the key (plus patient hubby).

I'm assuming my libido and bits will recover sometime after birth and this thought helps me relax a bit more about the situation.

cogitosum · 18/02/2013 19:53

I was the same. Even ahem 'lubricated' I was sore afterwards... Not much to suggest though sorry. It's got slightly better now (am 20 weeks) I put it down to slight anxiety (abstained for 12 weeks due to previous mmc)

fathergoose · 18/02/2013 22:00

It could be to do with hormonal changes, as well as (self-perpetuating) anxiety.

Lots of lube, lots of foreplay, maybe don't have penetrative sex (takes the pressure off you and the more relaxed you are, the better). Just do what feels good without feeling you have to end up having intercourse.

And I find that 20-34ishwks are generally the best for me, sex-wise: before and after aren't great. So hopefully in a few weeks everything will be better.

HavingALittleFaithBaby · 18/02/2013 22:08

I've had similar. I find a bath dries me out if anything!

Plenty of lube, I agree. I've also found I get a rush of blood down there afterwards! Confused so I've found using Durex cool (minty) lube helps. Consider alternative positions too, missionary seems least favourable to me these days!

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Christelle2207 · 19/02/2013 19:26

thanks all for useful responses!

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