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Found out today DC3 is DS3!!!

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lovemybabyboy · 04/02/2013 19:26

I am 16wks and found out that DC3 is DS3 today! The sonographer said the baby is still very small so I should confirm at the 20wk scan but he definitely looked like a HE to me!!
I am so happy, I would have liked a girl but still so very happy to know I am having another little boys as I think boys are brilliant anyway!

I am not looking forward to telling everyone who will think that I am disappointed to be having another boy and wondering whether they will ask will I try again for a girl! grr!
Why do people assume you will be disappointed if you have all the same sex children??
When I had DS2 people nearly seemed to be feeling sorry for me that I didn't have a girl!! I was delighted to have a DS2 as I will be to have a DS3!!

Anybody else have 3 boys or all of the same sex children, any advice?

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looneytune · 04/02/2013 19:35

I found out just over a week ago that unplanned DC3 is also DS3. It's what I expected and I was fine with it (although I'd have loved to have a girl - I'd already grieved for the girl I'd never have when we said our family was complete, then I thought you never know, our surprise might be that girl I thought I'd never have but clearly that wasn't meant to be.

Today my neighbour (who'd been praying for a girl for me) found out it's another boy and her response was 'oh no'. She's LOVELY so I know she didn't mean to sound like she did but she was gutted for me yet I'd said I was sure I was having another boy and that was fine as long as he was healthy :)

No advice though, my 12 year old niece cried when my sister told her (like she did 5 years ago with ds2). Too many people were convinced I was having a girl this time and so were disappointed - never got this with ds2 though.

looneytune · 04/02/2013 19:35

Congrats btw! :)

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lovemybabyboy · 04/02/2013 19:41

Thank you and congratulations to you too!

I also had convinced myself that this would be another boy, I just had this feeling that I would have all boys! This is also a surprise baby!
I had always wanted 3 or 4 but now thinking I will stop at 3, can't imagine how I would cope with any more as I am already wondering how I will cope with 3!

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ajandjjmum · 04/02/2013 19:51

Some people are good at girls and some are good at boys. Congratulations to you all!

beckie90 · 04/02/2013 19:58

I'm 13+2 with dc3, I have 2 ds's I did think this was a girl but deep down convinced its a boy, I don't mind at all. Would be nice for OH family to finally get a girl but its no big deal to me. I've booked a gender scan for 2wk on sat but changed our minds now and think we would like to just have a Suprise (well kind of lol)

When preg with ds2 I got Aww isn't it a shame its not a girl, ermm no not really he's a healthy little boy so who cares.

Congratulations on your 3rd ds :) xx

Minibinx · 04/02/2013 20:17

I have three DS's 5, 3 and 10 months. We didn't find out until birth what sex the boys were as to me it really wasn't an issue, boy or girl I would love them anyway. It's odd that it has been my experience that other people sometimes seem disappointed that they haven't got a grand daughter etc. or seem to assume that you want a girl. When anyone's ever asked me if I was trying for a girl I've always been honest in telling them no, I just want another baby.
Having three boys is great. There is never a quiet moment but seeing them playing and growing up with each other is priceless. A few people have said to me do I not want a girl so that when I get older I'll have the company of a daughter. Apparently, boys are loving when they are young but then find wives and don't bother with their mothers. I personally don't worry, what will be will be. I adore my boys everyday and as long as they grow up and have a happy life I will be pleased that I played my part in it.

abigboydidit · 04/02/2013 21:22

Ah, lovely. DH is one of 3 boys & describes the happiest childhood playing with his brothers! I think they terrorised his poor Mother but for them it was like living with your 2 best playmates.

Thinkingof4 · 04/02/2013 21:30

I've got 3 boys and expecting dc4. Don't know what we are having and hoping we won't find out till birth. I love having 3 boys and don't mind what we have this time, another boy would be fab.
I did get the odd person saying 'oh what a shame' etc when we had ds3 which is quite upsetting but you just have to ignore stuff like that.
Congratulations and enjoy your baby when he arrives

dietcokeandwine · 04/02/2013 21:48

Aww, congratulations! I have no idea why people assume that a 'mixed sex' family is the perfect ideal, but that's the way it seems to be, doesn't it - it's sad really.

I gave birth to DS3 exactly one week ago and I am over the moon. I had suspected all the way through that he was another boy, despite having a very different pregnancy (much sicker, tireder etc which of course led everyone to say ooh, bet that's a girl in there). During the pregnancy I mitigated comments by saying things like 'I'm actually hoping it's another boy as I know how much DS1 and DS2 want a baby brother' (which was true!) and 'I'll be so happy if it's another boy as at least I'll know what I'm doing!' and, when talking in more detail with friends, discussing how having a girl would really change the dynamic in our household whereas a boy would kind of slot right in. I am very much 'queen bee' in our house (in a nice way IYKWIM) and I'm not sure how I'd have felt about sharing the girly limelight!

Since DS3's delivery I have parried any 'oh blimey three boys!' comments (OK, it's only been 7 days, but believe me I've had quite a few already!) by cheerfully agreeing that I'm now completely outnumbered in our house (even the pets are male ) but you know what, I am so thrilled to have another boy. I won't lie, there will I am sure be a part of me who will, from time to time, feel a bit wistful that I won't ever have that mother-daughter relationship, I think that's probably only natural (in the same way that a parent of 3 girls might feel slightly wistful about lack of boys!), but I have fallen head over heels with DS3 just as I did with DS1 and 2. He is just beyond gorgeous. And the expression on my boys' faces when told they had their longed-for baby brother will make any 'oh are you disappointed' kind of comments fade into insignificance. DS1 lit up like a Christmas tree, bless him. To say he was thrilled would be the understatement of the year!

Congratulations on joining the 'three boys' club and as someone up-thread has said, all that's really important is getting that beautiful healthy baby, never mind what 'flavour' it is. Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well.

My5boysandme · 04/02/2013 22:08

I found out on sat Dc6 is ds6 I'm absolutely thrilled, but haven't really told anyone as can't face all the negative comments. It's even worse as our ds5 passed away from cot death last year.

Congratulations on ds3, boys are just the best(as are girls obviously) I wouldn't change my boys for the world.

Tribblewithoutacause · 04/02/2013 22:16

Congratulations!!

We're about to have ds2, if I ever have more I hope we have another boy. I don't know what I'd do with a girl tbh.

Ninjacat · 04/02/2013 22:23

I am expecting dc3 who will be dd1.
I really thought we would have a ds3.
Everyone keeps saying how lucky we are but I'm used to boys. I have no idea how to raise a girl.
Happy and healthy. That's what I'm hoping for.

Springforward · 04/02/2013 22:24

Congratulations!

DC1 is a boy, currently carrying DC2 who sonographer thinks is female - I would have been perfectly happy with another little boy as the one I've got is fab, and have been a bit bemused by all of the cooing from family and friends about having one of each.

No idea what I'm going to do with a girl, either... hope she likes football, train sets and lego, as her big brother's having none of this girly pink princess nonsense (he is four, bless him, and wanted a dog really ).

jellybeans · 04/02/2013 22:29

congrats! I have 3 DSs, 2 DDs. All are fab :) Having the same gender is great they are really close.

jkklpu · 04/02/2013 22:32

Congratulations - my ds3 is nearly 10mo. Didn't want to find out sex with any of them - there aren't many surprises left in life and this is the best. No regrets at all and I just ignore people who ask if we're going to "try for a girl". Now we just need to start saving up for when they're all teenagers eating us out of house and home

missmorter · 04/02/2013 22:42

Congratulations! I have 4 boys and I love being the only female in the house. I find if we are out together that women are peaking in the pram to see if ds4 is a boy or girl. I kind if sense their disappointment for me when they see he's a he.I feel very proud of my boys though.

Beatrixpotty · 05/02/2013 11:59

Congrats!Expecting DS3 in 5 weeks,will be my last baby ,and will be the last grandchild on my side of the family making 7 grandsons & no Granddaughters!Nobody in the family seems to mind.Had a few "so will you go for no.4 to get a girl "type of comments:my standard answer is "No way,imagine how rough she'd be with 3 older brothers!"Plus I'm too tired &too old!I'm really excited about having another little boy.I always felt it was a boy too.My 2 DSs are SO different already it really shows it is personality,not sex,that gives variety in a family.Yes,a bit of me is a tiny bit sad that I'll never bring up a daughter as before I had children I always assumed I'd have a girl,but can think of so many reasons why 3 boys will just be fun,noisy and amazing!

LimeLeafLizard · 05/02/2013 12:57

Congratulations. I have three boys and they are all lovely. I've noticed that whilst people generally tend to assume I must want a girl, other mothers of 3+ boys often come up and tell me about their children in a kind of happy consipiracy, as if to say 'we know what we have is lovely, don't we?!'

I am now pg with a girl and am wondering what it will be like when she is here. I can't imagine a newborn being much different, but I will be interested to see how other people react. Hope no-one says anything too insensitive when I'm all hormonal!

My5boys, so sorry to hear about your loss last year. That must be so hard. Congrats on DS6!

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