'Small' paranoia & general paranoia at 31 weeks!

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Hi all ,
Sorry for what seems a silly thread. I dont really have any reason to be paranoid apart from just me being generally worried. I keep getting comments about how small my bump is etc. Not seeing MW for a couple of weeks and starting to worry now! I ordered my pram yesterday so it's all becoming quite real now and was just awake all night worrying about baby etc. Please make me feel better! x

Go and see your midwife for reassurance, I am sure all is fine and people should mind their own business, I had the opposite "OMG your massive!" "are you dates right?" "your might have gestational diabetes" Quite frankly, piss off! Are you and your DH small, I am 5 9 and DH 6 2 so big babies!

Please don't lie awake with worry, go see you midwife for a reassuring chat.

Other people seem to think they have the right to comment on every element of your pregnancy. I'm getting loads of comments about my bump. (I'm 28 weeks now) I've even had Well it's not going to be a small baby, is it?! Actually, I'm measuring bang on for my dates! I agree with grants1000, ring your midwife and get an appointment, talk through your anxieties and get her to measure you. Just to reassure you.

It's funny how everyone turns into a medical professional when you're pregnant isn't it? It matters not one jot what any friend/family member/stranger thinks of your bump, as long as your midwife is happy with the baby! Do see her for reassurance.

I have come to the conclusion that people comment on bumps in the same way as they comment on the children later (I've been a nanny for 22 years so I have experience back to front!) in that for every person who tells you that they are big for their age, another will say 'ooh, aren't they petite!'. People chatter and don't generally know what they are talking about, so don't worry.

OMG the number of different comments I've had about my bump is completely ridiculous. For some people, it's huge. Eg. my Mum who tends to look at me knowingly and say 'That's a big baby'. For others its 'neat' which I think is suposed to be a compliment. Other people feel its ok to comment on my general appearance eg. MIL... ' Oh you have put on weight since Christmas.' Then we have those who think they know when I am going to go into labour....at 35 weeks, I had someone I hardly know telling me the baby had definitely 'dropped' and I would be going into labour in the next week while others say 'isn't he high!!!' Now...I am know 37+6 and I know from my MW that I am measuring small (about 35 weeks) and that the baby is still not engaged. But even they don't know for sure. What I do know is that what I wear dramatically effects how big or small I look. A baggy jumper and leggings = fat with small bump. An empire line maternity dress = thinner (well less fat!) with huge bump. I panic constantly when people say these things but you really have to try and ignore them.

EVERYONE says this to me. I am 33 wks 3 days today and was at the MW yesterday and my bump measured 33 wks 5 days.

People love to say this to people, if not that they say you are too big. How the heck do they know how big you are supposed to be anyway? It's just something people automatically say without even thinking.

Thank you girls. I think the fact that pram has been ordered and cot was put in nursery last night that it's all becoming very 'real' again....Which in turn starts the worrying part again! No doubt as I start getting closer to end I'll wish I was still small
I was staring at the cot last night and couldn't believe it was even in my house apart from soon having a baby in it!