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Bad dreams cant cope

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swaye · 20/01/2013 21:37

Is it normal to have bad dreams whilst PG?

Im 5 weeks and ive fallen asleep twice now on the sofa in the evening and had bad dreams about not being good enough, scared of everything about being PG, life changing, stuff like that. It's really upsetting. I think my fears are coming out in my dreams :-((

Im 40 and this is my first.

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AliceWChild · 20/01/2013 21:40

I had very vivid dreams when pregnant. Nightmares that made me scream in the night. Mine weren't about pregnancy/babies but I think that vivid dreams generally are part of pregnancy.

Have you got people you can speak to about your fears?

WillYouDoTheFandango · 20/01/2013 21:48

Yep completely normal. I woke sobbing one night after I dreamt that my mum had died. They're very upsetting at the time. I agree that talking about your fears may help, even if it just helps you to understand that they're unfounded and there's nothing to worry about.

Congratulations!

Branleuse · 20/01/2013 21:55

Theyre symbolic and they symbolise your current fears

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swaye · 20/01/2013 22:34

Thank you willyoudothefandango. Just talked to DH helped a bit. I know they are real fears coming out in my dreams. Good to know it's normal though. Thanks alll.

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TinkyPeet · 20/01/2013 22:39

Very normal. Just remind yourself when you wake up that it's just a dream :) x

phoenixrose314 · 21/01/2013 07:05

Oh god yes, had loads of these. Dreams about losing the baby, dreamed that I'd given birth whilst under sedation and the midwife was trying to get me to pick my baby out of a room full and I couldn't, felt like an awful mother. Dreams about DH leaving me, about family members dying... All sadly totally normal.

I'd like to tell you it will pass, but I'm 33 weeks now and last week woke up 3 nights in a row in floods of tears.

I will say I don't think it's any reflection of real life - it's just your brain's way of trying to cope with a whole new load of information. Do not panic.

Piemother · 21/01/2013 07:18

Very normal ime. I was a bit of a head case with dc1 - dreams/waking anxiety you name it, it plagued me and after the birth too. With dc2 hardly anything except when I get a bit tired/run down.
I will say that I found people telling me my fears were ridiculous quite unhelpful (in Rl not having a pop at any posters). I hindsight better advice to me would have been to get some talking therapy even I'd it's just a sympathetic friend.
Don't be too hard in yourself -having a baby is a huge change in both the practical and psychological sense. Being responsible for a baby/child/human being is massive and it takes time to adjust.
If these thoughts/drEams get too much, talk to your midwife - pre/post natal depression is v recognised now and can be treated

ripsishere · 21/01/2013 07:24

Yes, entirely normal IME. Mine were completely barking mad. I dreamed variously that DD was a dwarf, then a gnome, then she had a trunk. On some occasions she was patterned.
I was lucky, mine were amusing rather than distressing.

EwokStorageUnit · 21/01/2013 13:18

Hi Swaye, I to am 40 and pg with first (still waiting to see MW for first time) and on Thursday night I had an awful dream, involving miscarriage, ex husband, dead father and was so distressed when I woke up that I just cried.

It was awful, but I was reassured by my sis (has had 4 dc, so guessing some exprience!) that it was just my hormones.

She mentioned that her DH was having similar nightmares when she was pg with her twins (now 14 months old), so maybe it's just the stress of everything?

Congrats on your news.

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swaye · 21/01/2013 16:27

Thanks ewok and everyone. Since that dream have just been so depressed and crying. Booked docs app but cant get one until 31st. Not seen doc or anyone yet. I wonder if i should make app with a mw sooner. Im just feel terrified and feel like ive done the wrong thing. Yet up until yesterday morning i felt fine and happy. :-((

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twinklesparkles · 21/01/2013 20:24

I had awful dreams at the beginning of my pregnancy also, very frightening.

Thankfully they stopped after a while

CluelessNewbie1 · 21/01/2013 20:42

Glad it's not just me I keep having dreams about zombies!! Haven't had nightmares like this since I was a child.

EwokStorageUnit · 21/01/2013 20:49

I know that it's easier said than done, but you need to remember that its a dream.

I know that I've had dreams that have made me cry and where I've been in a cold sweat for days - none of it came true and in fact somewhere down the line I'm sure that the dreams have made me remember to make sure that my skirt isn't tucked into my knickers when I've come out of the toilet!

If you have the MW number to make your appointment might be worth giving them a call. I know when I spoke to mine for the first time, she was congratulating me, whilst I was telling her how terrified and scared I was - but she reassured me and it's made the two week wait to see them bearable.

She was also very clear that if I needed them for anything to give them a call.

I'm sure that its normal for us to be terrified and in honesty I range from being completely ecstatic to a complete gibbering wreck, I have been so awful to DP that I'm surprised he hasn't taken me at my word and made me move into the caravan. and every single emotion I have is very real....if it's good, bad, scary or completely irrational.

Maybe we have to roll with the punches a little and not be so hard on ourselves?

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swaye · 22/01/2013 13:34

I just had a good chat with a dear friend and im feeling quite a bit better. Thanks so much for yr support everyone xxxxx

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EwokStorageUnit · 22/01/2013 19:51

Really pleased that you're feeling a better.

Just for info though, I met mw for first time today. She was FAB!

Listened to everything that I said, gave me tissues when I burst into tears and has done a referral for GP... just in case I flip out... has also said, don't suffer, if you aren't coping call us, you aren't alone.

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swaye · 23/01/2013 09:39

Thx ewok i hope i have a FABmidwife too, that is so important, feeling really good today, hubby has been a rock. Feel like my hormones are settling xxx

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PandaOnAPushBike · 23/01/2013 10:05

I woke up this morning crying because I have to go on the Jeremy Kyle show to find out who the father of my baby is. :(

As my head cleared I realised that, having been married for 15 years and never having even looked at another man, I know who the father is. It's either him or I'm carrying the next son of God. :o

Stupid, vivid, bloody nightmares

EwokStorageUnit · 23/01/2013 13:03

Panda, if it's the latter, could you put in a good word for us?! LOL

Swaye, MW must have spoken to the doctor as well, because I had a call from him today just checking to make sure I was OK, ask if I wanted to go and see him and to confirm that I just needed to call if I was struggling. Can't fault that service...

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swaye · 23/01/2013 13:22

Brilliant ewok thanks for sharing x

Panda omg! Thought u were serious for a sec. Interestingly ive not had any dreams at night, only falling asllep on sofa. So yep, hubby is kicking me if i start nodding on the sofa lol

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