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Fantastic, fabulous 40+ Mums-to-be! Part 3
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eagleray · 14/01/2013 20:38
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scarecrow22 ·
19/01/2013 20:50
LittleMiss I join others in horror at your treatment. You must definitely seek help - also consider PALs (sort of customer /patients group for NHS), and for all their sins NCT is a charity (I have since read they def do cut prices if not free for pple genuinely finding fees hard), so should offer advice too.
On the plus side your daughter is turning 14 but for tonight at least will not be tempting sallow undeserving feckless boys (thinking moustache not great pulling accessory). (Do people say "pulling") still?
Eagle - what news. I can't get out of my mind what a wonderful sounding mum you're going to be. It's almost a crime you won't have six so more children can enjoy your mummy ing. Thinking of you (and still marvelling that you made it to age 3 after all those mishaps 
)
How you're all having lovely weekend x
knickyknocks ·
20/01/2013 15:48
badmissm so sorry to hear of the crap time you've had at your local hospital. I think I take it for granted a bit that I have a choice where I live of which hospital to go to. I wish you had the same, then you wouldn't need to put up with such hideous treatment. PALS is a good suggestion though. at your polish friend's parents getting it wrong!
damash wonderful news! Congratulations! How did things go? Smoothly I hope.
somewhere how's things with DS?
Still snowing here and going a bit stir crazy. Got to get out tmrw as have a couple of things planned, will just have to drive at snail's pace. Feel sorry for DH - he's got a very important course to go on which he's trained for, for ages and has to get the first train of the day at 5.15 - not too hopeful for it to be running. He'll be like a bear with a sore head if he doesn't get to the course.
Bump is going fine, weighed myself this morning, have put on a stone and a half. On track for the 2 stone weight gain I had with DD. On bump news, I'm noticing baby is much quieter than DD. I can feel him moving, but he's not particularly kicky. Just squirmy! I'm sure he feels different to DD. Anyone else on their subsequent pregnancy finding things are feeling different?
BadMissM ·
20/01/2013 19:58
knicky Am storing up suggestions in case I have to put my foot down and be Mrs Shouty (which I'm quite good at but hate doing). Times like this I wish I lived somewhere civilised in a larger place.
This pg already feels very different to DD.
BBD I want snow!! It's so unfair, we haven't had any! DH and DD want it so they don't have to go to work/school tomorrow! DD has long journey by bus into the complete arse end of the world the wilds of the Lake District...
Mrs Wooster Gosh, someone older than me 
! That said, I'll be 46 by the time LO born!
BadMissM ·
21/01/2013 10:49
It's finally snowing here (but not settling)... and today is the day the landlord has decided to replace the boiler...so no heat, no water, no gas.... and he will keep leaving the bloody front door wide open, so any heat there is is rapidly evaporating.....
scarecrow I will be asking the NCT for advice.... also someone suggested maybe a Doula? I was despairing where to find one around here til DD's friends revealed at party on Sat that her mother is a Doula...
I'm just hoping diabetes consultant on Weds doesn't ban me from cake...but I will still be able to enjoy virtual cake in the lounge
riversidelibrary ·
21/01/2013 18:39
Belated welcomes to the new fantastic Mums on the new thread, it's lovely to share our experiences.
Kasmog So sorry to hear your sad news, I wish you all the best and hope to see you back on the thread one day soon.
eagleray I hope things are well with you, and that your recent absence is a sign that your LO is on the way, or maybe even here! Fingers tightly crossed.
BadmissM I can't believe how appalling your local PCT is, I hope things resolve somehow. At least the NCT are being helpful. I was thinking of a Doula for a while but then I discovered how much they cost, really couldn't justify it when I think DP will be a good support.
somewhere What news about DS? Is his hand recovering ok? Hope your Mum is still holding up well too hugs
Damash Congratulations 
on the arrival of you LO, so happy for you!
knicky Hope your family are all recovered and good health now, you've had a traumatic time!
scarecrow Are you still getting the dizzy giddy spells or have they gone now? Also I vote for raspberry and white chocolate muffins for our virtual lounge, heavenly with the a hot chocolate.
AFM I'm 39 weeks today and the DC1 is showing zero signs of wanting to leave his cozy warm bump. Getting lots of Braxton Hicks, but nothing else. Sooo want him to come naturally. Have a consultant's appt on Wednesday though to discuss induction if he doesn't come by his EDD.
knickyknocks ·
22/01/2013 12:48
kazmog so so sorry to hear your news. I really hope you're able to re-join this thread soon xx
somewhere DD not acting up yet, but I have a feeling we may have it coming to us when DS arrives. Hope the house move goes well - I always find moving stressful at the best of times let alone being in a 3rd trimester of pregnancy. Be careful please, and use pregnancy as your excuse as often as possible for not doing too much...... Do you get on with MIL? I think I'd probably be OK to move in with my MIL for a short-term period because she's brilliant with DD and will be very hands-on when it comes to our new DS however, equally I think I'd probably be pleased to get my own space back when she went again.
Good to hear how your mum is getting on. Long may it continue doing well with the treatment. Plus, lovely to hear DS is expected to make a full recovery. Bless him with his waterproof mitt - not very handy when it comes to going to the loo and eating. Hope the space mitt can be banished soon.....
badmissm let us know how you get on with the diabetes consultant tomorrow. Crossing fingers that you get someone decent at your PCT this time.
scarecrow buff men in the lounge?? .
No news chez knicky. Terribly tired from not sleeping properly last night, and was told by DH early this morning just as he was leaving that he wouldn't be home till silly o'clock due to a leaving do which means I have the bed and bath routine for DD tonight....again......I don't think I appreciated my pregnancy lolling around the first time round. I could get in from work and just collapse, but this time I'm starting to feel proper exhausted. 3 weeks this Friday is my last day at work (with the exception of stupidly agreeing to come in for an all day meeting somewhere round 37 weeks...why oh why.........) Mat leave can't come soon enough. I'm crossing fingers for a couple of weeks break before DS arrives. Thankfully DD will still be at pre-school 3 days a week, so I'll be collapsing on a sofa then. Much love all.
BadMissM ·
22/01/2013 15:00
Riverside Haven't actually seen how much a Doula costs yet, was going to ring DD's driend's Doula mum and ask.... if is more than three pence and a button will be out of my price range too....DH will be great, but he panics, and DD a bit young. Rest of my family not talking to me...as for the muffins, anything as long as there's no vanilla (am allergic...)!
Eagle Anything happening???
Somewhere It never rains but it pours....! Just when I thought things were getting better this year, get letter from Child Tax Credit saying another overpayment to add to first one...now owe them £11,500.00. Basically almost everything they've ever given me. They won't discuss it, just insist I'm liable..
Glad to hear DS is doing better and that you are all getting over the events of the past few weeks
It's not just the PCT refusing to give me an ELCS, but the attitude of 'how audacious to ask for one', was told 'we don't arrange those, but will do an EMCS'. Had 2 friends left in labour for 3 days before they got one, both nearly died and have had longterm complications since, so don't trust them. They also DO arrange them, have 26 year old friend who was allowed to arrange one...
First time I heard about Doulas in the UK....had read about them in American Baby books, but didn't know we actually had them now. Probably won't be able to afford one, though!
Ooh, exciting news about the move, hope everything goes OK with that!
knicky DD behaving in a peculiar way. Is also adamant she wants this to be a boy, so she's the only girl....
I hope that I get someone decent tomorrow or I will cry. DH can't come bacause of stupid appointment time. Know I will get lots of diet lecturing, but between possible gestational diabetes and other problems/allergies, is not leaving a fat lot I can eat.
Try and get some rest (know is not easy with a big one, let alone a little one....) xxx
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knickyknocks ·
23/01/2013 09:52
Thank god no, it's not whooping cough. Just a long running nasty virus - these things linger on little ones....DD seems to be forever full of snot at the moment....lovely image....I had the WC jab last Friday. All was fine, bit of a sore arm afterwards but no nasty side effects.
Mrs W agree with somewhere lovely to see you drop in, your posts always make me giggle.
somewhere hope you're feeling better today - and no, it's certainly not wrong to feel better just as you've put DS to bed. That golden hour when DD has gone to bed is an absolute luxury to me! Well done you, on timetabling your last 4 weeks of work. We're nearly there......!! I also have moments of excitement and sheer terror of having two. Very excited to meet the little man, but dreading those newborn days and having to deal with DD too. Just trying to placate myself by saying lots of us have done it before and survived and I'm sure I will too (even if it means that for a short while I'll be sporting a slightly unkempt look with mismatching clothes....)
badmissm good luck with that appointment today and crossing fingers for someone decent to see you! Let us know how you get on when you get the chance.
scarecrow your DD sounds an absolute poppet - gathering up the mugs is a very important job! And your job sounds very interesting - select committee evidence?
I've brought a plate of warmed buttery croissants and pastries into the lounge for everyone plus a pile of trashy magazines. Daniel Craig has promised to pop past later donning his tux armed with a dustpan and brush later to give the floor a bit of a sweep through for crumbs . Much love all xx
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