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Fantastic, fabulous 40+ Mums-to-be! Part 3
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eagleray · 14/01/2013 20:38
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somewherebecomingrain ·
16/01/2013 09:29
Yes Knicky it was an excellent NHS experience - they were just doing their job but they were saving my sons future. We had a bit of luck too that the damage was not deep but he still had to have a two hour operation. When I was three I cut my forehead falling in a stone in the garden and I was perfectly prepared for ds to do similar but not this 
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Glad u feeling better - such a relief.
Eagerlay's conception story is beautiful.
DAMASH sorry I'm distracted didn't realise it was today - have really enjoyed having someone to share the extreme pregnancy moans with - its nearly over and you will see your baby!
Ps scarecrow my sister And I are doing your box of presents idea for my mum for her next round of chemo - thanks so much for such a great idea . Plus agree u need some r&r v urgently. U sound shattered.
Hugs to all xx
jj247 ·
16/01/2013 12:12
Ooh, only just found this thread, can I join? to scarecrow and somewhere :)
41 and DC1 due 22/04 so currently 26+1
found this thread while browsing for info as latest thing to get paranoid about is: not putting on sufficient weight (although can't imagine why as I've been eating enough chococlate 
) and bean seems wriggly enough that definitely stuff going on in there. I've not been measured/weighed since 12 week scan, but at 24 week she listened to the heartbeat and said I had a "nice bump" so guessing things are all on track..? I am naturally paranoid that something is amiss, I just nudge from one concern to the next as pregnancy progresses... think this is because Istill can't believe I'm lucky enough to be PG (I'd been in being tested for early menopause 2 weeks before discovering I was pregnant!)
knickyknocks ·
16/01/2013 13:58
Hello and welcome to JJ247 - lovely to have you on the thread. Another April baby? It's going to get very busy in March/April . As for weight, I shouldn't worry - in my experience they don't start measuring bumps until the 28 week check with the midwife - and if the midwife has any concerns they will let you know, but it sounds as if you're doing fine. I'm with somewhere though, that I'm trying my best not to put on too much, but I haven't weighed myself in weeks and not looking forward to what the scales will say (that is if I can even SEE what the weight says over this enormous bump.......). Anyway welcome, and lovely to see another first timer - lots of experienced and non-experienced mums and mums to be on here so you're in good company.
somewhere a 2 hour op? Oh the whole thing sounds very traumatic. Really I think it's time you deserve a bit of TLC what with things with your mum (although I know she's doing OK, it's all been a dramatic few weeks). Maybe a well deserved pedicure at some point - may not be your thing, but just think you deserve a little bit of luxury.
Pleased to say that DD is better, and nursery looks almost certain for tomorrow - which means that I can at last have my bit of R and R. Not sure what to do about Friday yet and work - looks like much of the country is going to be swathed in the white stuff and I for one, do not wish to be stuck at work.....and London and it's rail and road systems don't seem to be able to cope at all. May just have to take Friday off after all......
scarecrow22 ·
16/01/2013 21:02
CaliBee another Scarecrow hug from me: you sound so warm and balanced I hope you have the support around you you deserve and you can share the journey with your DP(DH?). We will all be thrilled when you come back to join us, here and on the grads thread. Take care.
Somewhere - I've been waiting to be alert enough to message properly about your DS's accident, but fear now. I am starting to look uncaring. I can't imagine how scary it must have been, and a two hour op sounds super serious, but so thankful for you it was quickly attended and the op was immediate, and that the prognosis is, if I understand correctly, v g too. I can empathise a little as slammed car boot shut a couple of weeks ago and then saw DD's hand was in it over the main knuckles, and she was looking up at me with bewildered surprise with her big brown eyes. For a moment all I could think was I'd crushed her hand and she'd be damaged forever. As it turned out some frozen peas and a Peppa Pig plaster were all we needed (the plaster was simply a distraction) and she was right as rain. She does now daily tell me the 'story' of "I doi. Hand in car. Mummy car. Hand doi." just in case I wasn't feeling guilty 
(doi is hurt). Please update on how DS progressing.
So glad you doing bag. Hope your mum enjoys!
Welcome j245 (hope I remembered that right) - we are due a day apart I think? Mine 22 April though will prob have during week before by ELCS. Fab to have more joiners. Hope the others have shown you around our chilled coffee lounge. Last night we had muffins...tonight I rather fancy a hot choc (or does the sexy waiter rustle up cheese omelettes for those of us who have had a glass of wine and an indecent amount of nuts for "supper"?? Was at work networking blah event.) Also don't worry about weight too much if bump growing: I have a neighbour well over 20 weeks and you can hardly see a bump even, but docs happy.
Now can't remember other news. Happy birthday LittleBadMiss ;)
knickyknocks ·
17/01/2013 11:31
calibee I'm so sorry to read your news. Such sad news. I hope too that mother nature steps forward and is able to help at this stage. Holding your hand and thinking of you. I really do hope that this year your dreams do come true. Much love.
kazmog a warm welcome to the thread. You've had a rough ride in getting here. I hope that your journey ahead is uneventful and as smooth as can be. Congratulations in the meantime on your BFP 
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badmissm Pomagne!!!! Oh how I remember that drink! I remember feeling soooo grown up drinking my babycham. I'm sure my mum and dad would have a bottle of pomagne at christmas time (and that other bloody awful stuff - advocaat......eeurrghh!!) As for the make up reminiscing - I was very much a sugar pink lipstick and electric blue mascara/eyeliner combo. A bit of sugar pink blush aswell (being careful not to drop any of the powder blush on my snood ). On a completely different note, sorry to hear about your BF. That must be so rough for your friend with a 10 week old baby - I hope she has all the family and friend support she must need right now.
DD back in nursery today giving me and DH a break. Have done some work this morning, and now intending on lying comatose on the sofa until we collect her later, as I'm well aware it's the only opportunity I will have to do this for the foreseeable future. We're starting to feel slowly better and are easing back on the number of boxes of balsam laced tissues required.....
eagleray ·
17/01/2013 20:34
Good evening and welcome to FoofFighter, Eminoxford, Kazmog and jj247 - amazed at the high intake this new thread has had (I feel a little bit like we are recruiting for a cult!) and a bit sad that the size of the last thread might have stopped people from joining. It is lovely that there are so many of us in the same boat, and I'm sure this thread will soon be very fat with supportive messages, useful information, cakes and a lounge full of lust objects....
I have been living in interesting (although thankfully not too dramatic) times these last few days. Got in a right old state yesterday morning trying to beg the council to grit our street (a steep narrow hill notorious for ice/snow problems) and then went off to my MW appt. Had a successful S&W no. 3 but BP, HR and fetal HR all raised and wouldn't come down after 'resting' in the waiting room (full of screaming kids) so off to hospital I was sent. I packed my bags just in case and took some lunch too and ended up having a fairly nice and peaceful 30 mins hooked up to a monitor stuffing my face and having a chat with the lovely MW (and she made me a massive mug of tea). Only dramatic moment was when I lost my carrot cake down the side of the trolley but luckily it was rescued by MW. After 30 mins, baby HR found to be normal and my BP had dropped loads so was sent home.
Feeling quite achey down below today but otherwise ok. Really hoping that baby and snow don't conspire to appear together tonight as DP still away and is at risk of being caught up in snow. Got more BP checks and a sweep on Saturday if nothing has happened before then.
BBD - hope you all have a lovely meet-up tomorrow and please toast my due date!
Knicky - glad you are all feeling a bit better now and hope you got your peaceful time on the sofa this afternoon
BadmissM - I hope the consultant appt went ok today, and that your guests are enjoying the stew and dumplings!
Scarecrow - bless your little DD! If it makes you feel any better, I had some terrible accidents when I was very small - cot collapsed on me, accidentally had my hand ironed, fell headfirst down a flight of metal steps on a ship at sea, cat badly shredded my face, and all before I was even school age!
Cyclecamper - you must have had your scan by now - what did they say? I hope they have been able to give you some clear ideas of dates? So annoying the first letter didn't reach you in time - have had a couple of those myself from the hospital!
Somewhere - re the weight thing: I started this pregnancy with a BMI of 30 and was very, very anxious at first regarding my weight, then somewhere along the way I stopped giving a shiny sh*t about it as have had good health and no one has made an issue of the BMI since my booking appt. Then I saw on my notes yesterday that my BP had been taken with a large cuff due to BMI >30 and my arms aren't even that bloody big!!! I can still run up the stairs and so take that as a measure of my good health rather than my weight. Sounds like you have a very sensible attitude towards it all, but hope you are getting the chance to enjoy eating after all that awful MS.
The 2 hour op your DS had sounds very gruelling - hurrah for the NHS though!
Baked 2 banana loaves today - my excuse was that the 4 manky bananas on the kitchen table were begging to be saved and converted to cake. Was thinking about leaving one on the ward when I go for my appt on sat (once I have tested the first loaf thoroughly for quality...)
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scarecrow22 ·
17/01/2013 21:11
Flip they are coming thick 'n' fast Big welcome to Kaz, EminOxford and Fooffighter. 40 by birth is def allowed. As Eagle says glad we have new thread as sad to think people were put off... I joined 1st thread (or 2nd technically) near end, so was in similar boat.
Am so emotional tonight - intense day, but on way home at last - I nearly cried at Knicky's post and then nearly cried with laughter at Eagle. DH off on a jolly field trip to S Africa tomorrow so single working parent for two weeks. Yikes! Not worried about parenting, just nobody to make tea or give me ten mins peace or a lie in...I will have to come to lounge for some 
Talking of which, the long awaited Malteaser Traybake recipe...
MALTESER TRAY BAKE
• 100g butter
• 200g milk chocolate
• 3 tbsp golden syrup
• 225g finely crushed digestive biscuits
• 225g Maltesers
Method
- Melt together the butter, chocolate and syrup, then add the crushed biscuits and the Maltesers.
- Mix together quickly then pour into a lined Swiss roll tin and chill until set.
- For a special occasion drizzle with some melted white chocolate.
Note, no baking involved... Also I've never made it, so don't blame me. Trying to imagine a scenario in which the Malteasers survive being eaten long enough to make it into a tray. Is this scientifically possible? Has it ever been proved?
I'm horribly giddy again this eve. Pales next to some of your recent illnesses, but makes me frustrated and a bit insecure because feel like I'm going to lose consciousness at any minute. Will ring for anaemia test results in case ready tomorrow. Any other ideas?
Eagle, take good care. So excited for you - I had DD in middle of that freezing snow for 10 days in Dec 2010 so sympathise. Hope you've got a good snow suit to hand to wrap up LO. Can't wait for news. Talking of news, any from Cycle's scan or Damash's induction. About time we all produced an actual baby...
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GoatBongosAnonymous ·
17/01/2013 21:17
Hello everyone, just delurking after following you all across from the last thread! I used to post on one of the old ones as Brizzmus, but have a shiny new name (well, not that new now). I'm afraid I went AWOL a bit when my DS was born 9 weeks early - it took about four months for my brain to catch up with events! He is now 6 months old and doing brilliantly.
I was 42 when he was born (should have been 43) and here are some of the things that I have learned as part of the steepest learning curve of my life:
- Ewan the sheep is a god
- Forget the words of Incey Wincey Spider at your peril
- Bliss is a cup of coffee that has even the remnants of heat in it
- Chocolate is the only foodstuff that will do in the middle of the night
- And the latest, you need adult bibs as well as baby bibs for weaning
Hope you are all enjoying sleep...
eagleray ·
17/01/2013 21:33
Hello Goat - lovely of you to visit and I remember you as Brizzmus now! (I have a strange talent for remembering every single poster on MN, but forget my notes at every single MW appt). It's great that BabyGoat is doing so well now after his rather early start.
Scarecrow - thanks for the traybake recipe! I will do this one next week if I don't have anything else happening. I do have a sad Malteser story though - last week, DP mysteriously offered me his post-curry complimentary chocolate (most odd) then I realised he looked v guilty. He then confessed to STEALING the remaining maltesers I got for christmas! I was livid 
Sorry you are so giddy - can you get back to the docs quickly if the results tomorrow aren't the cause? I am normally bombarded with phone calls when I have bad blood test results but it would be a good idea to chase them up anyway. I can't think of anything else that could cause it, but hope you get some answers soon.
Cheese - great to hear from you - was just wondering today how you were getting on. Fingers crossed you have a good few more months yet, and hope DS realises the merits of sisters when his appears
MrsW - that's incredible weight loss! Do you feel healthier for having a GD diet? I can remember you were very understandably daunted when you started on it a few months ago - I hope it's not been too hideous.
Had some funny pains since last posting, but they seem to be settling down again now. Am in strange position of wishing baby was on her way (in order to avoid pressure of induction) and also thinking 'please not now' due to snow and DP's absence!
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cyclecamper ·
17/01/2013 23:05
eagleray I had the scan - it's definitely a baby! It's reckoned at 19 weeks tomorrow so due mid June. Hopefully the midwife will confirm that when I finally get an appointment to see them! My Husband was held up at work and I went in early, so he nearly missed it all 
, but she very kindly let me go back in so that she could show him, so top marks to her for that . I noticed it moving for the first time yesterday, and this evening I think it's getting it's own back for being pushed around during the scan .
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