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Overdue?! Lets rant and see who pops first

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Biggem · 22/10/2012 13:29

2 day over now and irregular period cramps and back ache are leading to NOWT!

And if one more persons tries to give me some 'helpful' advice I shall tell them
"Yes, I have been having sex whilst eating curried pineapple"
Fuck off!!!!

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Purplecatti · 25/10/2012 08:47

I am reaching desperation levels. My neighbour forced me to hold and sniff her three week old baby yesterday to see if that would trigger anything Grin. It didn't.
Then I had a paddy when OH came back from work
Now I'm on the EPO and off to buy clary sage later. I'm too chicken to go down the castor oil route.
I'm nearly 41 weeks, no sniff of BHs, no nesting, nothing. I had a wee bit of a dodgy tummy earlier this week but that's gone and I'm back to being huge and peed off.

Stumbleine · 25/10/2012 09:06

Thanks imustbepatient. Have just returned from the school stomp run and I swear if anyone had dared talk to me I'd have either blubbed or snapped!

Was in an irrationally bad mood with dh because he'd offered to give me a clary sage massage but wasn't forthcoming so I huffed off to bed. Almost convinced myself.that even having the baby won't make me happy now and do I even want one!! God that sounds awful, just feel so down mad teary today Sad.

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Biggem · 25/10/2012 09:13

Good luck javotte oh stumbline I really feel for you have some virtual hug from me...I have to say that DH is gettin the brunt of my Angry as well, last night he decided to tell me how little faith he has in out chosen hospital - WRONG TIMING much?!
Ah well, consultant this afternoon...

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Sastra · 25/10/2012 12:18

May I join? As of tomorrow I'll be overdue. I've had morning sickness all the way through, so am already at breaking point.

I feel like I'm different to the majority though in that if they offered an induction now, i'd take it. But i suspect this is because I have done absolutely no research into it, as I figured I'd just be upset if I needed one. Now I'm thinking I should know the negatives to help me stop wishing for one. So, for you ladies who'd rather not have one, can you tell me why?

sarahpip · 25/10/2012 12:55

I am 41 + 5 and looks like induction is inevitable now. My main reason for not wanting one is that in my area they won't let you do the pool birth if you have to be induced - which I wanted to try. I was given a leaflet that says that if they have to put you on a hormone drip this can bring on contractions v quickly and b v painful hence being recommended epidural. As a first timer I have no idea what to expect ... It's going to smart a bit whichever way it happens. Personally am trying not to focus too much on what I can't have and just try and relax and go with the flow ( I imagine that those who have been through this before will raise a wry smile to these hopeful words being used in association with childbirth!!!!). Anyway here's hoping no need for you to be induced! By the sounds of it, it can kick off even with not many signs!

Sastra · 25/10/2012 13:06

Thanks Sarah, that's helpful to know. Where I am, you're booked in to be induced at 41+3 (with your consent, of course), apparently so the baby will be born by 42 weeks. That sounds like it might be a little sooner than in other areas.

I had a sweep yesterday. Stupid cervix closed and she couldn't get a finger in. I did have D&V in the morning, and period-like pains, which I thought might be an indication of something, but no.

I think I'd cope better if I wasn't so, so bored. I feel like I've got nothing to take my mind off it all (I could do some work from home, but I don't really want to). I should probably be doing these great long walks, but I live on a 20% hill, and the thought of going up it makes me want to weep as I'm so tired Sad.

javotte · 25/10/2012 14:12

I'm back! Grin. I managed to negotiate one more day. If the baby doesn't show up today I'll be induced in the morning.
Apparently my cervix is "very favourable" (3.5). I am sure part of the problem is psychological : my contractions stop when I go to the hospital and resume when I leave.

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Biggem · 25/10/2012 16:53

Not happy. Saw a different consultant to last time, and he said he won't induce he will book me in for an ELCS, I asked for a sweep which I got and he said I was 1.5cm dilated
Hmm
I can't believe he won't even consider induction and has gone the ceserean route, I don't know if I'm more angry or upset

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Stumbleine · 25/10/2012 16:59

Welcome to the mad house sastra!

javotte that's good news Smile fingers crossed!

Biggem why do they want to book you for a section?

javotte · 25/10/2012 17:31

Biggem won't he even try a pessary? It worked really well for my first.
Sastra I live in a very hilly area and those daily long walks have made no difference.

Pramdreams · 25/10/2012 17:40

Can I join as well?

I'm 41 weeks tomorrow and there are no signs whatsoever. I was due a sweep last Friday but the midwife (not my usual) wouldn't do it as babies head isn't engaged. I'm back again tomorrow and I can feel baby moving it's head near my right hip, I'm no midwife but even I know it's not supposed to be there!

This is my first, so this is all very much a learning curve, but its looking like induction is the only way this baby is going to make an exit.

Sastra · 25/10/2012 17:43

Why won't they offer you an induction Biggem?

imustbepatient · 25/10/2012 18:29

Hi sastra and pramdreams nice to have you on board!

Yay to the reprieve javotte! Hope baby behaves and is building up to a nice straight forward arrival as I type. Really sorry to hear the consultant is being so intransigent biggem is there anyone else you can speak to to have the decision reviewed?

I've tried the evening primrose oil this afternoon, here's hoping it makes things more favourable for my sweep tomorrow. A pretty weird sensation though! The things we do...

javotte · 25/10/2012 18:43

I don't think baby will show up tonight Sad so an induction it will be.
The obstetrician told me that my cervix is so dilated that a very small dose of ocytocin should be enough.

Sastra · 25/10/2012 18:47

My stupid cervix is rock hard and closed. What's all this about evening primrose oil??

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Biggem · 25/10/2012 18:59

My first was a section after failed ECV as she was breech, well and truly (attempted to engage with her bump)
I'm livid that the consultants can be so different in their opinions. He pretty much said the last one I saw was obviously inexperienced!!
I'm cramping quite a lot at the minute so fingers crossed it starts soon, I'm bleeding which they said to expect...is that a sign that things are moving in the right direction anyone whose had a sweep start things know?!
I
Am NOT voluntarily having a section tho that's for sure
AngryAngry

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Stumbleine · 25/10/2012 19:19

Biggem - Induction does carry a greater risk of uterine rupture with a previous section scar, but this is obviously information that you should be provided with so that you can make an informed decision not the consultant!

Orenishii · 25/10/2012 19:35

Hi all, I'm in the hospital delivery suite, waiting to see if I can have the gel or go straight to the drip - exactly where I didn't want to be :(

Basically I had a scan this morning because I was declining an induction until 42 weeks, and they discovered my waters had gone, I'm completely empty! Since no one knows when they went and I've not had any real kind of contraction, here we are.

Feel very frightened because we've had to really adjust our thinking from the planned home birth, and quite scared of going on the drip. I feel like...I've read so much on here of escalating situations that as we got to each stage, I thought...ok readjustment of expectations, it's ok...and then it would get to the next stage :(

Am fearful of episiostomies and forceps but will just try to take each stage as it comes. This so far removed from what I had hoped for but I've had a cry and now it's time to focus on what's important. I feel l am a kid again homesick at a sleepover, it's weird. I think I just want to be at home or in the mlu but never mind.
Sorry if this is just about me. Good luck to everyone and here's to your bodies kicking labour off!

Sastra · 25/10/2012 19:39

I'm sorry you're in a situation that you didn't want to be in. You're absolutely right though, just take each next stage as it comes and focus on that, rather than what isn't to be.

Fingers crossed for you.xx

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Biggem · 25/10/2012 19:39

orenshii how did that happen?! Is no one venturing an opinion?
Really feel for you but with any luck your naughty baby will be here sooner than soon
X

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Orenishii · 25/10/2012 19:49

Thanks ladies...they say they don't know and we've asked so many questions and talked through so many scenarios, I think we've just kind of accepted it now. The scan was at 9 am and we've resisted a fair few scare tactics but even if they went last night somehow, we are coming up to the recommend 24 hours right?

Perversely I am hoping my cervix has remained tight lipped because then they will use the gel to soften it, which might get contractions going. Otherwise they will go straight to the drip. Have accepted we are in it for the long haul now and we can still use all the hypnobirthing, breathing, tens machine, etc ...must just remain calm :) Like someone said up thread...I'm sorry, forgot who!...it's letting go of the pool that is hard. So now, get through the birth safely with baby and hot foot it home!

Stumbleine · 25/10/2012 20:43

Good luck Orenishii! X

javotte · 25/10/2012 21:06

Thinking of you Orenishii

Orenishii · 25/10/2012 21:14

Thanks both :) Still waiting around...I think they do this to you so you'll agree to anything in the end!

imustbepatient · 25/10/2012 21:57

Good luck orenishii! Hope everything goes really well for you. You will be holding your little one before too much longer, just hold onto that thought. My first labour was really different to what I'd hoped for. I had wanted the water birth natal hypnotherapy etc but ended up having the drip to speed up labour which was slowing, an epidural to cope with the pain and tiredness from how long it took, and then ventouse as DD1 didn't want to come out! But actually I never felt panicked or out of control. The midwives and doctors were great, talked me through options at each stage, and it all just felt like each step was the right thing that we needed in the circs. Our darling daughter arrived safe and sound and I recovered from the birth pretty quickly.

I am crossing my fingers that the same thing happens for you, and you have a 'good' labour, whatever particular path it takes. A happy mum and baby is all that matters in the end.