Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

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Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

JBrd as an NHS employee, am shocked by the lack of care you've received. I cannot believe a clinical service is unable to triage their own referrals & prioritise what is urgent (or not.) It's too easy for them to blame the GP when they should be acting on it. Sounds like some junior clerical person is triaging & unable to prioritise.

Get straight on the phone to PALS (patient liaison) & they should be able to intervene. You shouldn't be having to do all the chasing. Or the consultant's secretary should be able to help.

Still waiting on the 2nd set of amnio results - going to phone tomorrow if I've not heard as I have work nights out on Friday (I'll be driving so got an excuse not to drink) and Saturday - where everyone will notice/ask. Plus the bump is getting harder to disguise.....

really pissed off. got these skinny trousers from hennes a while back - they are falling down, hanging with a low crotch, AND they itch. went round a school this morning scratching and that ultra-dignified plie-legs hoiking up and lifting up my maternity tops to try to identify why and where the itch - not how you want to appear to a prospective headmistress.

been really inrritable all day - gonna get into some leggins and chuck these i think
xx

ok duly chucked. feeling better

at skinny jeans-gate somewhere. Had similarly unedifying experience with maternity tights, which then laddered to boot.

It is now 22h 20 mins til we lave for the airport. I have a day's work to do at least and have not put a single item in suitcase. List of jobs being brutally hacked, including decision that presents will not be wrapped (people can close their eyes...surely almost the same thing. And, er, Eco friendly too ;) )
Need to stop procrastinating panicking

Enjoy California, Scarecrow, I am so envious !!!

I thought it was Madrid? at any rate how lovely have a marvellous time. Xxx

knickyknocks Thanks, have also been for scan today...but think the tests at the FMC will calm things down

JBrd So glad things are going better xxx Had the scan today, everything's where it should be apparently, and even saw the dinky little heartbeat flashing.... am about 8 weeks.... Nobody would bat an eyelid at me not drinking, have drunk rarely for the last 2 years, as have appalling migraines. The thing that will alert everyone is me not smoking!

I still have no consultant appointment booked, even though as am so high risk am supposed to be consultant-led pregnancy.They said today they won't even think of booking it until after dating scan in January....

I'd go with what scarecrow said too.... can't do any harm...

somewherebecomingrain know that elegant look so well! (and that was before pg )

scarecrow Hell, they can use their imaginations! Have fun in California, and if you forget something...they have shops

Tentatively dipping my toe onto this thread after positive tests yesterday.....eeek.
Still shellshocked.
Some of you know me from the over 40's conception thread. A quick introduction to those who dont....
I'm 42 with three older children 23,19 and 15....I even have a lovely little Grandaughter who is nearly three. DP and I started ttc back in April and were referred immediately to the fertility clinic. My AMH turned out to be less than 1.1 and FSH 20ish [gah]....Eventually saw consultant just 2 days before DP went off to do his basic army training at the end of October and after much headshaking at my results and her telling DP not to worry as he had years ahead of him yet (ok so theres an age gap lol....but damn insensitive I thought) she eventually offered me clomid, which I literally ripped out of her hand and ran with . So, one month of clomid and apparently two popped juicey follicles and here I am.....phew. I keep having to sneak a look at the "pregnant 1-2" on my clearblue test.
I realise its a rocky road ahead and could do with your support ladies. My family are great but I wont be telling children for a while and suspect the news may provoke much tut tutting and humphing from my dear old mum.Shes only just coming to terms with the big age gap between DP and I ...oooops.

CaliBee congrats and hurrah - for both pos test and age gaps!! We have at least two sets of friends with well over 10 years between them.
Am supposed to be panic working/packing/fridge cleaning/bill paying so had better scarper. But wanted to say big hello and hope you stay with us.

Calibee fantastic news so exciting! We are here for you during these stressful first weeks. Love the age gap - it's redeeming for our gender. The secrecy will be difficult but I found it helped me forget a bit. Anyway lovely xxx

Thankyou ladies....
You would be surprised at some of the reactions we have had to the age gap...much sneering of lips and looking up and downess...strangely enough from younger girls......as long as my children are ok with it (which they are...they love him to bits) then stuff them. I never was much of one for convention however, so at least I'm acting in character lol. The only time I have ever had a chill moment about it was at work one day when we were doing that "what was no.1 the day you were born?" online, and I realised that both DP's and eldests was the same song......

Calibee Lucky you with the fertility treatment.... even though I lost twins 2 years ago, and asked for some help, was refused as DH and I both have children by other partners...

Pah! to the lot of them. I'm waiting for the shock when everyone realises I am...I'm 45. The midwife asked my date of birth 3 times this morning felt like saying 'yes, it's 1967, gosh, aren't I old!' The ones who're sarky about the age gap....are just jealous!

Hi hun, welcome on the thread, they are lovely here How are you feeling, has it started to sink in? Took a few days for me...

Thanks for your words of solidarity and advice, lotsofcheese and scarecrow.

Today I finally managed to get through to the haematologist's office, to be told that a) no appointments are available before Christmas and that b) apparently the thrombosis nurse/team have looked at my case and think it's fine for me to have the appointment at 12 weeks. Hmph. That's not what the midwives told me (and quite a few people on MumsNet, but I doubt that the consultant will acknowledge the knowledge and wisdom that is passed around here ). I am so fed up with chasing up everything and everyone, and I have decided today that's it, I give up. See the consultant in January, as there seems to be no way to go sooner. Will wear my flight socks and move around lots until then.

Have spotted and cramped all day today . Called the EPU again (which is thankfully very easy to reach by phone) - v. impressed with them, they had a record from my call last Friday, which they referred to. But nothing different - I'm to take paracetamol and keep an eye on it, call again if anything gets worse. But the nurse/midwife was lovely, realistic and not sugarcoating, but gently reassuring. To be honest, I was just so glad that someone was willing to listen to my concerns and take them seriously. I wish they could get me an appointment with the haematologist!
So tired now, all this is so draining. Will do something mindless now (like Christmas card writing and watch TV) and have a really early night. Got my work's Christmas lunch tomorrow, which I'm not too keen on... But need to show my face, it's one of these things.

jbrd you must be in turmoil..I so hope everything goes ok for you. Af would have been due either today or tomorrow for me so its the waiting game now. I've no doubt I will be feeling every single twinge and pinch for the next few weeks.
badmissm they refused any treatment atall??? I wouldnt have been entitled to anything like IVF etc as I have older children but they were happy to prescribe the clomid. I took away 6 months of the stuff and have ony used one strip.
So how far along are you ladies??

Well I've finished work (just), chosen my holiday reading (optimistic) and got out an adaptor and the passports. I can buy the rest in a mall, right?
Goodnight!

calibee lovely to see another graduate from the 40+ conception thread over here. Congratulations . I hope that everything goes smoothly during your pregnancy. This thread has been brilliantly supportive to me, so you're in good hands.
jbrd you poor love. I hope that cramping and spotting finishes soon to give you your peace of mind back. Bloody hell those first 12 weeks are simply nerve-wracking enough without that going on too. Agree with everyone else too, think it's ridiculous that you've got to wait till Jan. How early in Jan is the appointment?
scarecrow have a wonderfully fantastic time in the U S of A. Let us know what it's like. Could do with a bit of sunshine even if it's just in my dreams!

27 weeks and counting for me. Keep having to keep horrible thoughts from my head re things going wrong in the pregnancy/labour. I've had to start be very careful in which threads I read as I'm starting to feel like things are far more common that what they actually are, IYSWIM. Don't remember feeling this in my pregnancy with DD, but then was so bloody naive, I really didn't have a clue about much.

Christmas dinner #2 later aka the work do. No drinking this year for me, so will have to make up for it in amount eaten. Thank god for elasticated waisted maternity wear at this time of year

Jbrd hope it calms down. Not sure if this is the issue but you can just pitch up at A&E and ask for a scan - just explain that you have some spotting. I got an early scan in both my PGs this way - and once
It was just an orange discharge (sorry if tmi) but they didn't muck about. I'm not sure thats the issue tho - it may be more gettin the apt with the consultant for the prescription you need. It is awful that you have to battle for this but maybe contacting pals is a
Good idea.

Knicky are u not having an ELCS? That's a pretty predictable
Route. Well done on getting to that third trimester
Not long now!!!!

I'm telling myself my third T begins at 26 weeks
As I'll have my c section at 39.

Xxx

Hi ladies.....can I ask a quick question as its niggling me.
Usually before af my boobs are so sore I can hardly bare them to be touched whereas this time (BFP Wednesday) they seem only slighly sore....has anybody else had this??

Calibee They refused anything at all. Our PCT is hideously mean... but am now about 8 weeks all by myself!

JBrd is there no Early Pregnancy Unit which will give you a scan?

Yay...to badmissm I have a feeling its going to take me a while to remember I'm on the pregnancy thread and not the tcc one

JBrd When I was pg with twins about 2 years ago (didn't go well) I had about 4 scans in the early weeks through spotting and age/high risk of ectopic. I just refused to go away till they did it....

Am thinking about having an elective Caesarean though...what do people think?

Help...

I'm 43, have a DS aged 2, DH is also 43. I just had my second mc this year and am 'stuck'. Had this preg gone full term it would have been born in August, just before my 44th birthday. I got it into my head that 44 was my cut off point. But now I've stumbled across this thread...

I'm not sure I can do all the huffing and puffing, swelling and pushing required if a baby goes full term when I'm aged 44. And the sleepless nights, and sore boobs, and sore nethercarriage from stitches, and all that jazz: BUT I want a second child. I don't want DS to be an only child, I want a house full of kids and noise and mess, and DH and I feel we still have love to give to another baby. The 'perfect' family - 2.4 kids (2 dogs count as .4 I think).

Words of advice please? I don't know anyone my age still ttc so I have no-one to mull things over with. It's so hard when you get that 'baby' bee in your bonnet....

Oven - you might want to have a look at the 'Fantastic 40+ Thread' in the conception section on MN - there are loads over us over-fourty year-olds who are ttc!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1585805-Fantastic-40-Thread-Part-Eight