Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

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Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

Agree about vibe and anonymity. On reflection might also unbalance thread if some meet and others don't. It is tempting, but there is wisdom in keeping it as it is. I note Mumsnet Local lets you create a different name for that reason.

Funnily I tweeted something personal the other day and then thought 'drat I must remember not to mention that on MN'! twitter is really a work thing and I actually much prefer it on here precisely because I can talk about personal stuff I largely have to hide. Pity you lot :D

Happy days

PS all calm chez Scarecrow this morning: managed to have a night's sleep without horrific nightsweats/nightmare and woke up feeling pretty human. Looks like I have to sleep without old t-shirt nightie even in minus 3. Also I felt baby move! A veritable break-dance routine at 5.40!! < puts on stern face for mummy chat about fact 5.30am is The Middle Of The Night>
Was first real connection with baby and was lovely :)

Btw, has anybody found maternity tights that fit? Had a pair from PiLs and kept falling down

Hello all

So sorry for the long gap between my posts - had a lovely catch up with a coffee and the thread this morning.
scarecrow how lovely to feel baby move this morning - and a good night's sleep too? Makes such a difference to the day. And please don't worry yourself anymore about you and your DD. We've all been there and said and done things that in hindsight we wish we hadn't. I've shouted at DD when it's been the end of the day and I'm beyond exhausted and all I want her to do is get in the damned bath!! (and she's running around instead.....) Today's another day. PS San Diego sounds wonderful (particularly as it's cold enough this morning here for brass monkeys to complain )
somewhere so sorry to hear about your mum. I hope the appointment goes OK today, I'm thinking of you my love. I sometimes think it's worse the not knowing than the knowing in health things. At least, when they've got a plan of how to deal with things, you feel relieved that something is being done. Good critique of skyfall btw. Agree that I much prefer a Bond with a twinkle in his eye!
lotsofcheese good luck with those amnio results this week, hopefully once received, you can relax a wee bit more - though got to say, I always admire ladies who do pregnancy and shift work! My hubby does shift work, and he's shattered at the best of times, add a baby into the mix and you ladies are completely admirable!
badmissm I'm glad that you've managed to get some additional tests sorted out. Peace of mind is the most important thing - and hopefully by the new year, you'll have this. Crossing fingers for you.
knotty not long now! (as if you need to be told!) - the 17th isn't it? Bag all packed? Nursery ready? Looking forward to hearing some wonderful news next week.

AFM, I'm doing fine, though being plagued by restless legs over night which is disturbing my sleep somewhat - plus DD's having a few nightmares thrown in for good measure, so not conducive to a good night's kip. Got my gestational diabetes test booked in for next Monday. Fasting for 10 hours, blood test, drink gloop, sit around bored for 2 hours, another blood test then eat my own body weight at the nearest eaterie. I'm not looking forward to it (I'm not great with blood tests) - but needs must......

Took DD to see Santa yesterday. She spent the whole time clutched around DH, refusing to look at the scary man with the beard (her words not mine). She couldn't run for the door fast enough.....(taking her present on the way though.....) Still it all still managed to bring a tear to my eye - felt like blubbing a bit - I suspect it's one of those moments that you know you'll remember for years to come (and she will too, though hers will be more out of sheer terror of the bearded man more than any nostalgia trip )

I am having an internal debate about meeting up. It's not something I dismiss - you're all so lovely - but I don't take it lightly either as I've been blabbing deeply personal stuff all over mumsnet on the basis I'll never meet anyone in real life.

Anyway I'm sure we'll all keep on chatting here even if some do meet up.

Maybe we could regroup on mumsnet local with new nicknames and just never ever reveal our old nicknames! We'd prob guess but it might sort of work.

scarecrow congrats on your scan and on your baby busting some moves!

thinking of cheese, jbrd and riverside - how are you all doing?

xxx

ps actually thinking of knotty too - how are you doing? is your bag packed? can you move? are you eating chocolate cake in front of a dvd as one is supposed to at this stage of pregnancy? xxx

Morning all. Somewhere, so sorry to hear about your mum's health problems - don't feel you have to share on here if you're not comfortable with it, but we're all here for you. Lotsofcheese, good luck with the amnio results this weeks, FX for you. BBD, would love to meet up but I fear I may be stranded on the sofa on 21st! I do love coming up to London though (I'm in Kent, about an hour away by train from Victoria) so hopefully I can make a future one? Scarecrow, no judging here either my love, we've all done it! 2 year olds are hard work. Lovely that you felt your LO move this morning . Well of San Diego, enjoy! Knicky, good luck with your GD test next week, hope you get good results. And I can remember DS being very wary and shy of Santa when he was younger, he's 9 in February and desperately clinging on to his belief this year, but I think this may be the last year . 2 of his friends no longer believe but they've been very good about keeping it quiet!
Thanks for all the good wishes and thoughts ladies, I do feel like I'm counting down the days now! Bag near enough ready, moses basket needs the covers putting on it but DP has said he'll do that whilst I'm in hospital as DS wants to help. Have eaten fairly healthily through this pregnancy but that seems to have gone out of the window, with sausage rolls being made, massive steak eaten when out for dinner on Friday night and rather a lot of cheese on toast for lunch . Never mind, I'm planning on resuming my Jillian Michaels obsession once I've got daytime naps sorted, and can exercise again in denial at naivety of having 20 mins to myself when I won't be sleeping. Hope everyone has a good day xx

I'm also counting down the days until Christmas. I finish work on the 21 and won't go back until Jan 7, yay! DH will also take the time off, so I'm hoping we'll be able to spend some quality time with him and DS.

All's gone back to normal with me, no more spotting, and the cramping and back pain stopped. I feel really well again. Phew! And still no sign of morning sickness - but it's probably too soon to hope that I'll be spared this time.

Still fighting to get a consultant appointment before Christmas, it's driving me mental. Starting to give up hope that it will happen... This system is just not working.
On a positive note, the midwife called and made an appointment for the booking in next week, so at least something is progressing.
I've told our Health & Safety officer at work yesterday - I work in a lab, so it's important she knows, what with all the chemicals and other hazards. Now I'm having to fill in pages and pages of risk assessment forms, sigh...

Scarecrow Glad you are having a better day - don't be too hard on yourself.
Hope everyone is well, I am still getting used to everyones names and stories and not quite up to speed yet. Good luck to everyone having tests and waiting for results.
I phoned the hospital yesterday and explained my situation. I am going to be booked in for a scan by 12 weeks (although still need to see GP next week so I can get booked in to see the midwife JBrd I agree some systems aren't working. How ridiculous to have to see a GP before being able to see a midwife just for a booking in appointment. Rant over.
Poor DS has a dreadful cough and was up most of the night. We're all pretty tired today. I really want to see skyfall, we have had a sad lack of babysitters though!

Please make this morning sickness go away (wrong smiley, but l

Looks right)

JBrd so glad feeling better and booking in in diary. And before Christmas. Keep resting and taking care.

DS napping so think I have caught up with the thread.
riverside sorry you have had such a tough time.
Rebecca Really feel for you, hope to see you again on this board soon.
cheese great news with your results.
scarecrow hope you feel better soon.

looks like my mum is not going to die imminently after all so very relieved. She has got something they can't get rid of but it's slow moving so we can all relax a bit.

Thanks for being so nice everyone. I was a bit beside myself. I will now pull myself together.

Thinking of everyone who is going through tough times xxx

Somewhere, really glad to har you've had some positive news about your mum. Thinking of you x
JBrd, fab news that the spotting & cramping have stopped. Really hope you get a consultant appt soon.
NewChoos, hope your DS is feeling better.
Scarecrow, I really feel for you suffering with MS - it's horrible! How many weeks are you?
Got my last MW appt this afternoon then to hospital first thing tomorrow for blood to be taken ready for Monday. Going to waddle round to the shops/cafe after the morning school run, to buy magazines & snacks for hospital bag and treat myself to a bacon sarnie!

Bloody sausage fingers! hear, not har

Knotty am 21 weeks. Yes, too late for MS. It subsided for a few days and now back worse. Had to get off train yesterday as thought I was going to actually going to throw up. Not far from that now. Anyway, holiday on Fri and hope when less completely out of control of work/packing/Christmas cards/wrapping/last chores/ etc it might evaporate in the California sun

somewhere so glad you have had better news. And no pressure to be brave on here. By golly I'm not!! Hope you can enjoy family time now and focus on all the experiences you can keep sharing, with DCs too :)

choos also really hope DS on mend and you getting more sleep.

riverside still thinking of you and no pressure but will be lovely when you feel able to join us again. I'm sure it will take a long time to get used to not having your mum around, and this is an especially difficult time. Give yourself lots of time, and some space, and be kind to yourself.

Enjoy that bacon sarnie, knotty

Given some of your booking/referral experiences, this made me think of "us":

m.guardian.co.uk/society/2012/dec/12/nhs-care-women-early-pregnancy

thanks all - it is a variety that would normally be lethal which is why we were freaking out - she got passed from one consultant last friday with the loose diagnosis of the type of thing which we we all thought meant the end, then saw the even-more-specialist consultant on Tuesday who said she's got an 'atypical presentation' of it ie slow-moving so we're blessed for that.

Scarecrow can't believe you're still sick. I'd get waves around 21 weeks from any supplements I took but nothing too bad. That is unfair. And you have been super-stoical about it. I can't imagine you'd suddenly get Hyperemesis at this stage so am sure it will pass soon.

jbrd that' is marvellous news - so pleased. Can't believe they're being so slow about the consultant's appointment - am crossing my fingers for you.

knicky nice to hear from you - your DD's wrong-kind-of-memorable-encounter-with-santa made me laugh! I'm getting restless legs too a bit - it's so wierd isn't it.

eagleray cooked Jamie's 15 min greek chicken last night and watched 2 episodes on 40D so i'm all fired up again about it.

riverside i don't think you're on here at the moment but i'm thinking of you. I've had a brush with what you are going through and I really pray you find some peace and calm within all this.

xxx

scarecrow really feel for you. I had dreadful MS with DD, then this time round, random vomiting and all encompassing nausea from 6 weeks to 15ish weeks. I got signed off for a couple of weeks - if things are bad, any chance you could do the same? Just doing nothing helped me - tiredness made my MS worse. Bloody horrible though and as somewhere says that when it eventually goes (which for most of us thankfully it does) it feels similar to winning the lottery.
somewhere thank goodness for your news about your mum. Slow moving is far better news than anything imminent, though understandably would far prefer you to have said that everything was all clear. Thinking of you and your family my love.
JBrd thank god your spotting has stopped - let us know how the booking in appointment goes. Agree with newchoos some of the systems just seem bloody ridiculous.

Will people stop commenting on my damned bump?? Two of the nursery workers said I look ready to pop last night as I collected DD and looked shocked when I said I've still got 13 weeks to go. Along with 'you're blooming' and 'you look wide from the front', I'm likely to tell the next 'well-meaning' person to F**K OFF!!! Right, rant done......

Dammit am never in London lately but am there twice in next few weeks but not on 21st....!

somewherebecomingrain My Dad freaks out if I mention anyone online.... (he thinks their identity will be stolen by Polish immigrants beacuse the Daily Mail told him so...)

I once had a mega-flip at DD in the middle of St Germain en Laye, because she was undressing herself in the buggy, it was November, and we were about to miss our last bus home, in English. Unluckily for me, the tour party passing by were English Grandmas, and not too impressed....

scarecrow sleep? Have forgotten what that is like lately. Keep waking if manage to get to sleep at all and can't even manage old-t-shirt. I have neuro problems too, so between those and being boiling, makes me quite grumpy.

knickyknocks thanks, I have also had some spotting this week so panicked to hell. Am, now v glad booked the tests, even though here they are putting me in for an early scan on Thursday..

JBrd glad to hear you're feeling better....

somewherebecomingrain Glad that the news about your Mum was better than you hoped....

Despite (after a bit of a huff) seeing MW yesterday, still have no appt to see Consultant, though because I am top of the top of high risk lists, having a scan on Thursday to check all in right place (as previously had ectopic..)

Also trying not to get too carried away sorting things out in new house as Tuesday after putting curtains up all day had a little spotting and panicked my head off....

Calmer now.... though would be lovely to find things needed for Christmas BEFORE Christmas....

somewhere glad to hear that there has been at least some positive news... Hope you are coping, these things are never easy. Take care of yourself!

Scarecrow MS is just awful, you don't feel human. Hope you feel better soon, have you found anything that helps at all? None of the usual remedies worked for me when I was pregnant with DS, the only thing that stopped it was eating - not a little soup or a light salad, but full-on carbs only! Needless to say my weight rocketed, but I made the conscious choice between feeling sick or putting on weight.

lotsofcheese - any more news on the remaining results for your amnio? I'm with you on the tiredness.

BadMissM - good luck with your scan today. How many weeks are you? Will you start telling people, or try and get through the parties and Christmas do as a secret non-drinker? I'm lucky - we have our work Christmas lunch tomorrow, but I will be driving there anyway, so no problem with coming up with an excuse.

I'm about to get on the phone again, trying to sort this consultant appointment. I have now yet another number to call, will see what happens. I'm soooo annoyed with my GP for not putting more pressure on this referral, all he had to do was mark it 'urgent'!

Also am a bit - after having quite a sore back yesterday all day, I'm now spotting again... Not much, just a hint of blod when wiping, but still... Really don't know what to make of this all, I don't think it's serious, but can't quite get rid of that little voice in my had that says 'But what if...', followed by a list of everything that could go wrong.

JBrd I'm really outraged on your behalf. How dare they not take better care of you. When I was pg with DD I did an NCT class and the teacher gag is some great advice abou dealing with medical staff if you are unhappy: you ask them for what you want - an immediate referral/admission, makes "urgent", a sp if if test of whatever. If they demur then you explain you are not happy and more worried than they realise, and so ask them to write in your notes that you asked and they refused: that way if in future there is a problem you have some come back - or as usually happens they decide (magically) that if you are that worried maybe hey will do X, just o be sure. It's got to be with a try. Also if they mess up and there is a record then you are at least doing future worried mums a favour by having flagged them up. I'm pretty sure the NHS does sometimes scan from 7 weeks.
As you say statistically much more likely all is fine, but when you are his age and genuinely worried, you should definitely insist on being seen.
Good luck.

Sorry lots of fat finger mistakes, but you get the gist.

Great advice scarecrow xx

Urgh. Toss up between MS and ginger tea for grimness ;)