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Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

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Hpbp · 08/10/2012 07:42

Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

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MrsWooster · 27/10/2012 20:58

Congratulations, VQ, enjoy your boy.

eagleray · 27/10/2012 21:42

Huge congratulations VQ!! So glad all is going well x

knottyhair · 27/10/2012 22:13

Congratulations VQ, and big kisses to Jacob xx

eagleray · 27/10/2012 22:53

Oh, and all the very best to Riverside for her wedding tomorrow!

knickyknocks · 28/10/2012 06:31

Congratulations VQ. Wonderful news to hear about the safe arrival of your gorgeous boy XX
Riverside have a. wonderful wedding day today. Thinking of you and looking forward to hearing all about it XX

ValiumQueen · 28/10/2012 11:45

Thank you for your kind words Thanks. Have had three nights of solid feeding, and my boobies are huge, milk not in yet but imminent! Have not yet got used his name, as it was a last minute decision, but he is a Jacob. Most definately the right name for him. So very grateful that he is here, and well. We chose not to have any tests during pregnancy, so we were prepared for him to have a problem or two, but he is ace, and utterly beautiful.

He was born mid afternoon and it was a long wait. We were there at 8.30, and we're told we were the only elective, and labour ward was quiet. Three EMCS' s later and it was our turn. By that point I was getting dehydrated and not feeling well, so did not enjoy the experience quite as much as last time, not that you can really enjoy being sliced open whilst awake Grin there was a problem in theatre, not sure what, but there was bleeding. I suggested they just whip it all out as I did not need it anymore, and would kick start my diet..as far as I know they just cut my tubes. In recovery for hours, and off my head on diamorphine, but had skin to skin the whole time, and he fed for 30 mins, just went straight onto nipple. MW was very impressed by his natural skill. Never had skin to skin with the other two, so it was lovely.

Yet again they fucked up my painkillers. Not that hard to give tablets regularly now is it? And yet again they lied about what I was written up for. That is my only criticism though.

DD2 has decided she is now a boy.

Midgetm · 28/10/2012 13:15

Hey VQ sorry they messed up your drugs. Why are they so tight with the drugs? I was written up for morphine on request and the Midwifes were really annoyed about it. I only requested it twice, largely to get sleep but they were so pissed off. It's not like I prescribed it for myselfConfused. Enjoy your lovely snuffling little Jacob.

ValiumQueen · 28/10/2012 16:57

Last time I was written up for morphine but was told I could have nothing except PCM and ibuprofen. They lied and said it was because I was breast feeding when I challenged them.

This time I spoke to the consultant, surgeon and anaesthetist about it. As I was having my tubes done, it would be more uncomfy. Also, as a second section, it would be more tricky so more uncomfy. I saw my prescription sheet prior to the op.

Approaching my second night, the diamorphine had worn off, and I was getting uncomfy. At 8pm, with a guaranteed night of cluster feeding ahead, I requested something stronger. Again I was told I was not written up for anything stronger, and 'why did I want anything anyway? I explained I was in pain, and knew I was written up for something else. I was told I would be fine, I said I wasnt last time. But you are feeding, baby would get it too, do you want baby to get it? How could i be responsible to care for a newborn on morphine? Surely sleep deprived and in pain is more risky?. Only a risk to bf mums, it was almost pushed onto the bottle mums who snored all night.

Compromised on codeine, which took an hour to arrive, and I was told I could have 30 or 60mg. I said I would have the 30 if I could have the rest later if it was ineffective. I could have 60mg 4 hourly.

I eventually got it at 10.30, 2.5 hrs after requested. Proved ineffective. Asked for more, and was told it was 30mg 6 hourly. I was not given anything else until 9.30 the next morning. The morning meds were due at 6am. I was beyond furious and am considering a formal complaint. Then, when I was going home, I said I did not want my Brufen as had been given some 4 hours earlier. I was told I was being silly and really should take it now or I would be in pain. I would be later if I took it too early. Twats.

trying2bpos · 28/10/2012 17:06

Congrats VQ what a star you are on MN posting so soon after becoming a new mummy (know you're not new in the first baby sense of the word but you know what I mean). OMG with the meds, they were the same with the paracetamol when I had DS so I got OH to bring some in, I mean is it that hard to keep on top of? They're more than happy to come in and wake your baby up every 4h if on obs!
Anyway I think you should complain it's ridiculous after a CS not to be given the meds you need and also to have them withheld because you are BF when they are supposed to be promoting BF, that would have really ticked me off! Jacob is my fave boy name ever but unfortunately I know too many now to ever use it! I am delighted to hear he BF straight away even after CS and is a natural at it gives me hope for my 2nd as with DS neither of us were naturals and it was v.hard work!

ValiumQueen · 28/10/2012 17:15

My first two were pretty crap feeders, and we muddled through. I told telling the MWs to sod off helped as they all gave different advice.

ValiumQueen · 28/10/2012 17:16

I would have posted sooner if I had got a signal in hospital. I really missed MN.

Midgetm · 28/10/2012 19:48

I had similar VQ, anesthetist said morphine would not affect the baby at all - I checked with him. He said as only small amount of colostrum produced nothing would affect the baby until milk came it but Midwifes were so disapproving. I was only brave enough to get it twice as they got so shitty with me. But I got a lovely rest GrinGrinGrin

Hpbp · 28/10/2012 20:45

OMG VQ I can't believe NHS would be so difficult on drugs. I was given so much here, much more than what I needed, of course I had VB and I can't really compare but still. Welldone on the skin to skin, I truly believe it makes a difference on the baby reassurance. Very glad that Jacob is so perfect. I remember well that you chose not to have any test, Mum's instinct, hey ! Have a nice rest, milk will be there soon. Again, congrats.

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somewherebecomingrain · 29/10/2012 10:15

Congratulations VQ that is lovely! Jacob is a great name - i only know good people with that name. I also think Jake, as he may well come to be known, is a superb name too.

he sounds like a strong little fellow!

sorry about the drugs. i remember struggling through the straight c-section pain on diclofenac and paracetamol and that was bad enough. that is literally cruel the game-playing with the codeine.

i hope you are feeling better soon.

xxx

ValiumQueen · 29/10/2012 12:31

Survived night 4, and I have milk! Yay! Feeling pretty damn good as actually got two sleeps of two hours each. Pain is negligable now, indeed my huge boobs are more painful! Still very swollen, but that will go soon enough.

Considering Coby as a nick name.

Is Jacob very common? It was a last minute decision, and apparently is No7 in popularity, but not quite so high in Scotland.

ValiumQueen · 29/10/2012 12:33

He has huge hands and huge feet, and very long arms and legs. He will be a tall man I think. It is odd to think that one day he will be shaving that face.

Midgetm · 29/10/2012 12:45

Master Midge also has very big hands and feet. Massive. and unfeasibly large testicles.... Blush.

somewherebecomingrain · 29/10/2012 13:34

VQ and midget is it your first boy?

Hpbp · 29/10/2012 14:01

VQ, that day is not that soon though.... How strange is that ? We are giving all our love to a little person so that one day this person leaves us.... Everything we teach them is aimed for them to be able to be independant. I definitively have an issue with de - fusion, if that makes sense?

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Midgetm · 29/10/2012 14:21

Somewhere it is indeed My first DS. Think VQ has 2 DD's so hers too. HP we could become those MIL's people are always slagging off on AIBU....

somewherebecomingrain · 29/10/2012 15:29

awwwwww! i remember how astonished i was when i produced a boy! that i could make a boy and that these rough creatures begin as these little pearls, these gorgeous satin-soft babies.

i have to say my DS doesn't have big hands or feet - he takes after his father who is exactly a macho man. but otherwise well endowed i can't tell ANYONE this although i long to, my DP is V well hung no his small hands DON'T mean THAT only on mumsnet

somewherebecomingrain · 29/10/2012 15:29

isn't exactly a macho man i mean

eagleray · 29/10/2012 18:09

Ha ha - get you ladies with your well-endowed babies!

There's a diagram of a newborn baby in my Kate Evans book and the baby there is well-endowed, apparently a temporary thing which is designed to enable male bonding with the dad (in a 'that's my boy' sense)

I fear my baby will have huge unlady-like feet as all the females in my family have them (nothing smaller than a size 8, regardless of height)

ValiumQueen · 29/10/2012 18:39

Ha ha! Yes, first boy after two girls.

Overdid it a bit today. Must be more lazy tomorrow.

Midgetm · 29/10/2012 18:59

Blush it's only his testicles I am afraid... Poor Master midge. It is strange having a boy though, I keep calling him a her and saying good girl.

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