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All too stressful - all a bit much

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 17:03

I had a stillbirth at the end of November (at 25 weeks) the post mortem showed that there was absolutely no reason for it, which means that I can go on and have another child if I want.

I've always wanted a second child (DS is 3.8) and want to do it sooner rather than later for all sorts of reasons.

Was quite shocked to discover I was pregnant 6 weeks ago, only 3 months after my bad experience. Have been experiencing a whole range of strong emotions since.

Since Tuesday night I started bleeding a little, and since then it's been on and off. Because of the stress of my last pregnancy I was advised to go and have a scan last week and they can see what they think is an empty sac. This either means miscarriage, blighted ovum or that it's just too early to see a fetal pole. Have another scan at the end of this next week to see if there is a baby there or not.

I am expecting the worst because i have to. I've had lower back ache, feeling sick, now have hideous cold and feel bloody miserable.

Totally lost it last night as it would have been the due date of my last baby. Just can't quite believe that this could happen and my confidence is feeling at rock bottom. Not sure I can put myself or my family through this again. (what i mean is going through another pregnancy and the fear of losing the baby).

sorry, just needed to offload.

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 17:30

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coppertop · 12/03/2006 17:33

DHW :(

I wish I could do/say something to help. You've been so much. :(

VeniVidiVickiQV · 12/03/2006 17:34

Oh DHW! Sad So sorry you have had such a tough time. You are bound to be feeling raw about yesterday, without the added stress of everything else.

I hope everything goes well with the scan this week for you.

xxxxxx

TearsBeforeBedtime · 12/03/2006 17:34

don't want to sound trite, but just wanted to say that I am sorry that you are going through such a stressful time, and that it's no wonder you "lost it" last night, going through the stress of difficulties with this PG,and the horrible waiting game until the next scan, and the sadness of your due date as well.

coppertop · 12/03/2006 17:34

been through so much Blush

foundintranslation · 12/03/2006 17:36

I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this dh. :(
I really wish I had advice for you - didn't want to not answer.
Try and be good to yourself this week.
Thinking of you.

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 17:36

thanks all. It's just so frustating that there's nothing anyone can say - because of course what I want someone to say is "don't worry, it WILL all be alright" but no one can say that and it's pants!

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spinach · 12/03/2006 17:38

you poor soul, cant imagine how horrid it is for you at the moment. It may be too early to tell on your scan though, can't they offer you blood tests for hcg?

compo · 12/03/2006 17:38

Sad will be thinking of you on Friday xxx

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 17:39

had the blood tests and they all show a healthy level for my stage of pregnancy - which is in the right direction for good news I guess...don't really understand it all to be honest.

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spinach · 12/03/2006 17:51

well, your levels should double about every 48 hours so if they did a few sets of tests it could show that all is well. I had an internal scan at 5 weeks (last week) and they said it was too early to see much so I'm going back at nearer 7 weeks.

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 17:52

so maybe rather than waiting what seems like an eternity for thursdays scan, I could get blood test done early in the week to see if the levels have raised?

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spinach · 12/03/2006 17:55

i would def ask, I had mine taken last sun, tues, fri and again today... watching them rise so rapidly is helping me through. Haave you only had them done once then?

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 17:56

yes on wednesday. You'd think they would have thought about getting me back in for blood tests...

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spinach · 12/03/2006 17:57

er, yes... have you been to your epu?

spinach · 12/03/2006 17:58

cant see how one test helps them really, as the point is to know how much they rise by, every 48 hours

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 18:03

i ended up going to casulty on wednesday after a day of bleeding and they did scan saw nothing and took blood tests then. Went to EPU next morning for results of blood tests and another scan. They saw sac but nothing in it. Am left wondering what the bloody hell is going on and wishing i wasn't fretting so much.

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spinach · 12/03/2006 18:06

how many weeks are you?

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 18:07

I'm now 6 weeks.

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spinach · 12/03/2006 18:10

ok, I'm 5+2 (or 3) and had a scan on friday, they saw the sac and a yolk sac in it but no baby/heartbeat as its too early to tell. but cos i ended up in critical care last weekend they are taking my levels every few days. Your epu should really do the same, one set of bloods doesnt really tell them anything as they cant see by how much it is rising. if the levels rise slowly it could indicate something wrong. if they rise quickly all is well. they should be able to do this for you and get results same day

TearsBeforeBedtime · 12/03/2006 18:13

I agree with Spinach, that it would have been more sensible for them to do two sets of blood tests 48 hours apart. The blood tests are only an indicator though, the scan will be far more conclusive - if HCG levels rise too slowly, then it's not a good sign, but the PG may still be progressing OK, and if the levels rise at the right rate, it's a good sign, but still no 100% guarantee that everything is going well. Was your recent scan internal, DH?

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 18:28

yes it was an internal scan. I was 5+5 and 5+6 when they did both internal scans. Might try and get to EPU tomorrow again and ask them to do another blood test, which might help a bit. Thursdays scan just seems a lifetime away.

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desperatehousewife · 12/03/2006 18:30

by the way, spincach and tbb - have really appreciated your thoughts and advice, thanks.

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spinach · 12/03/2006 18:31

good idea, thursday is a long time for you. I fully understand. I'm having another in 8 days and that seems so far away and i know i wont feel easy till i see a heartbeat. Did they tell you what your level was last week? let us know what happens at epu. xx

pucca · 12/03/2006 18:37

Very sorry to hear this DHW Sad

Did they see a yolk sac?

I too had a early scan when i though i was 7 weeks, it turned out all they could see was a yolk sac nothing else i had to wait a week (all over xmas) then go back and they saw a HB, so they put my dates back 10 days.

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