pregnancy complications - confused.

[jacobsyummymummy]

Had my 20 week scan and couldnt find 4th chamber of heart possibly due to the position they said, they tried again after the weekend, but baby in same difficult position and they couldnt see... referred to fetal medicine unit next day, and obs couldnt see either (position still awkward) but came up with other anomolies such as fluid around brain, small abdomen, nuchal fold 6mm and other 'soft markers' . we were devestated, and had to go back for the heart scan 2 weeks later (2 weeks of crying and no sleeping). 2nd scan showed heart ok, and no need for mri on brain as fluid reduced, but a new different set of markers were given to us. both times I felt I was being heavily suggested to terminate. we chose an amnio and am awaiting results (Im 23 weeks now), but obs is suggesting even if that comes back ok we should consider terminating as he feels there is something serious underlying these markers, but cant tell us what. I am in hell... I am 42 and this was an unexpected pregnancy - there will be no other for me. I am so confused . has anyone else experienced number of soft markers like this?

So sorry to hear that. I haven't had experience of your situation but I've had similar worry over a close family member and I remember the waiting for a firm diagnosis to be the worst bit. I hope you have lots of support and that you get the information you need as quickly as possible.

I'm really sorry to read your post OP and hope someone comes along who is more knowledgeable

When do you get your results? Have the hospital given you the details of anyone to talk to? Don't be afraid to call them and ask.

Take care of yourself,

Im so sorry to hear this :( life is so shit sometimes, I don't have experience of what yr going thru. I have lost 3 dc to miscarriages, have 2 now, pregnant with 3rd. Consider myself very lucky, however, I do have experience of having a disabled ds, he is 5 and a half. Wasn't picked up in my pregnancy. He can't walk or talk or do anything for himself. He starts school after the hols, life is by far not easy, as I sed, life can be shit. I hope you're doing as well as u can be in such a horrific time. If you want to talk, please feel free to message me. Please take care.

Thinking about you. Hope everything works out. Xx

You poor poor things. I wish I could advise you. I think you need to have as much information about how any anomalies may present themselves in your baby and go from there, also how they would be treated once the baby is born.

Every-one has their own ideas on quality of life but having to even think about that and the waiting must be excruciating.

Stay positive and cross each bridge as it comes.

Lots of love.