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[nearlymumofone]

On a scale of 1 to 10 how annoying is it when DP continually (every day, at least once) says how tired/exhausted he is? Especially when you are due any day now, can barely get about the house due to the pain and discomfort, and are looking after a 2 year old toddler alone every day. Yes he has to work and yes he does house work and helps out with dc1 when he's at home, but really, to moan about how tired he is continually...? Is it necassary?

.... just wondered?

I can imagine it is rather annoying. I am a proper moan bag about how tired I am atm and my poor DH is doing 12 hour shifts 6 days a week with an hour and a half travel each way. At the moment I'm not working so I reckon he can probably sympathise with you :) He is very sympathetic towards me but he does have a bit of a grin on his face when he tells me how he can imagine getting up at 9.30am and lazing around all day must be exhausting.

My DP is on holiday (teacher) and yesterday didn't have time to go to the post office. I nearly flipped my lid. It's 10/10 annoying!!!

It's annoying enough for justifiable homicide

On a scale of 0-10 how satisfying would it feel to kick him hard in the shins every time he says it?

I'm very lucky, DH wouldn't even dare moan about tiredness at the moment despite wrking very hard, but I get this from a colleague at work who can spend 10 minutes telling me how exhausted he is after running 20 miles at the weekend. Run less then! Pregnancy leaves no choice!

Glad I'm not the only one!!

10/10. Especially when I'm the one with broken sleep due to bladder and DS. And I'm working too. And doing everything round the house. And DH makes stupid extra work for me because he's a lazy arse. Grrrr

oh fuck, very annoying. 10/10.

My dh is complaining of a sore back

It's hard not to go mad sometimes all right but I guess it's all relative and there is not a competition..

but if there was I'd win by a mile

My DP does the same ALL the time. If my back is sore, his is also sore or more sore. If I say I got up 7 times to go to the loo and didn't sleep very well, he also didn't sleep very well.

Yesterday made me flip out at him. I have aching hips and thighs and am struggling at the moment so had a bit of a moan, he then started complaining about 2 insect bites on his arm!!!!!

I always reply, luckily he doesn't have to push two babies out of his bits. That always shuts him up.

10/10 annoying!

40+4 today, so far DH has moaned about (in the last few days):

• being exhausted
• having a sore back
• not sleeping well
• needing some time off (paternity leave apparently)
• having a cold (so being at home with me)
• people asking him if I've popped yet

...10/10 I'd say OP

Most annoying...

DP referring to my maternity leave as a holiday! 2 newborns is not a holiday to me!

Pretty annoying. Probably up there with bringing home a curry for dinner when he knew I was close to vomiting every hour of the day. And then eating it in a room with closed windows and leaving the dirty plates there overnight for me to find the next day.

And then he has the gall to get upset when I tell him I refuse to do all this a third time, even if we do have another girl...

Dp starts his rant about feeling tired with "I know it's not a competition but....".

OF COURSE IT'S NOT A BLOODY COMPETITION- WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT IN THAT????? I WOULD WIN. AGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

This gets to me too, DH is always 'just so tired' 'got a pounding headache' 'didn't get a wink of sleep' and it does drive me potty. I try and always reply with something sympathetic in the hope he'll get the message that perhaps once in a while that would be the nice response to give me if I dare mention being exhausted due to 6 night time toilet trips (35 wks pg), keeping up with 2yo DD, long day at work etc but it's not worked yet.

I know it's not a competition but right now when I'm very pregnant and hurting all over, still working full time and looking after DD for the lions share of the rest of the time I do feel like resorting to some sort of implement related violence

Oh no, me too! I'm only 24 weeks but have so far been completely exhausted, had terrible headaches, I'm anaemic, nauseous, have terrible back ache on one side, SPD, and an almost 2 year old who gets me up at least twice a night (when my SPD is at its worst!). I do only work PT but in the evenings so have spent all day looking after DD, doing housework etc, then go to work where I stand up 90% of the time (would usually be 100% but I'm being kind to myself and my boss is very understanding) and the SPD is much worse.

But every time I even start to mention anything, DP starts telling me how he's had such a hard day/has a headache/is very tired/his back's hurting so he can't possibly help with DD or the bit of housework I didn't get done during the day.

In my last pregnancy my SPD was so bad I had to crawl up and down the stairs very slowly, I'd have to spend the evening lying flat on the floor as it was my only comfortable position, DP and I then worked together and we would arrive at our work's car park together but I'd arrive at the front door 10 minutes later than him, along with many many other things. I just can't wait for me to get to that stage again and him try telling me how hard his day has been!

When I was pregnant with ds I had awful morning sickness and we had to brave asda to do the big final Xmas shop. It was packed and pure hell! Dh had a cold at the time and within about 5 minutes of getting there he said he was going to have to go sit in the car. When I asked why he said he felt sick!!!! Well it was like red rag to a bull! I turned into a proper fish wife and bellowed at him 'how do you think I have felt for the last 12 weeks'. Everyone looked ! Most embarrassing. They really have no idea. If men were the ones that had to carry the child, human kind would have ceased long ago!