Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

My advice is to get thee to a baby shop and push around the shop - the first one I bought, I hated!!!!!! If you ask they will carry out to car ( won't let you dirty wheels) and you can see how things fit in the boot.

My babies always sleep in pram for daytime nap (I leave it up in hall) so it's been important to have a comfy one - the Bertini was my absolute favourite - but it's hhhhuuuuuugggggeeeeee!

hi everyone, seems we're all feeling quite cheery just now!

Whatname, multipla would be lovely, but it will depend what we can find for a reasonable price locally. and yes,clearly, I should have scheduled conception more appropriately...! she is a bit of a witch my MIL on occasion (perhaps I should throw a bucket of water over her, and see if she melts?!) and I think she may believe that I have coerced DH into this baby (it was in fact DH who took about 2years to persuade me). Anyhoo, sure will all be lovely when the baby arrives!

Anyone know about flying when preggers? I am flying when 16weeks, and then back again when 17 weeks - I presume I don't need any medical letters? Might not be too massive and could hide bump with strategic scarf?!

right, must get back to work. Mucho important meeting coming up, but have had big baked potato for lunch and want to sleeeeeeeep...

knottyhair thanks so much for replying. can't believe someone said such a rude thing to you! Hope your pregnancy proceeds safely and uneventfully.

Thanks blackcats, hope to see you back here soon .

Hey ladies
Taken the day off work exhausted. I was working yesterday and my heart starting racing like crazy and felt like hot all of a sudden. First aider sent me home and i put my feet up for an hour. Still felt like crap and heart still racing. So went up to A&E, and spent 3 hours strapped to a heart monitor and took bloods. Blood pressure a bit high but ok now. Bloods and heart ok and little one fine. Just soooooooo tired its un true. Only 8 weeks to go for mat leave roll on . So sofa day with tea and biscuits .
Baby Dylan knows I am skiving work and is on max kicking today bless him

LRM, that sounds horrible - hope you get to rest today and Dylan doesn't kick too hard .

I actually bought some maternity jeans yesterday. I'm only 14 weeks but my normal jeans are getting more & more uncomfortable and I can't really afford to just buy the next size up for a few weeks. Got some in Mothercare in the end and they look nice actually, I was really surprised. I did a reccy of all the clothes shop in my town and apart from Mothercare and 2 rails in Peacocks, there are no maternity sections at all. I know I can buy online but I do like to try things on. Going to Bluewater in a couple of weeks with a friend to have a big splurge, just before I go on holiday. Hope everyone is feeling OK, and Fireflies, let us know how you're getting on when you get a chance.

Good morning every one, I have been more than lazy these past days.... I am hiding the iPad from my son and he does not nap anymore so need to find excuse to read the thread and post ! :)

Pregnancy is indeed tiring, age does not help and plays a bit but pg itself is killing me this time. I don't seem to be able to do anything else than roll out of bed, walk DS1 to playground, cook lunch and tea, and sleep.
I salute all of you who can still go to the gym and/or work.

ATM, with the midwife I focus on relaxation and childbirth techniques, through breathing, stretching and yoga. I have started taking homeopathic granules for ligament pains and it works ! I am the first to be surprised !

I have also seen my obstetrician, he does not think induction would be necessary, another growth scan on 12 july, and 23 july he will check the cervix again.

BTW the anniversary was very sweet but it rained all day, we could not at all enjoy the beautiful park and scenery of the restaurant.... But DS1 has behaved and food was tasteful, so we had a nice day.

This is it from Paris for this morning. Hope every one is ok.

oh dear LRM - rest up! And you aren't skiving - it's completely reasonable to have a day with your feet up after what happened yesterday. How many weeks are you?

KMR I don't know about flying - I think you have to tell the airline sometimes and definitely your insurance co ?

knotty Most mat clothes I've seen have been awful! And so few places seem to do them. I like the basic leggings and tshirts at H&M - simple and cheap. Otherwise I'm just wearing big / stretchy clothes still - and I'm 5 months. I've not put on that much weight yet, but my bump is big!

Anyone else find they've become more of a worrier since pg? I wish I could just chill out and enjoy it all - some days I really do, especially now I can feel the baby kick, but other days all the things that could go wrong seem to loom large ... Aargh... More choc bics today I think, and I'm almost ready for 1st nap of the day. x

Great news FF how amazing :) Welcome, little baby.
KMR I flew to Sharm El Sheikh when I was 5 months pregnant with ds1 with no issues. That was 7 years ago so I dont know if anythings changed in that time...
LRM Poor you. It looks like you need the rest. Glad everything is ok though. I love the name Dylan :)
Knotty I've had a nightmare with mat clothes. I did an online shop with Next for some mat jeans and work trousers. Got one shirt. The rest of my stuff is normal tops from Wallis. Their tops come up quite long and there are some really good loose ones with elastic at the bottom. They work really well.

I'm getting v. excited now about the baby. I went to Gap at lunch time on Monday and bought some pink booties and vests :)

oh and a mum at ds1s school congratulated me today and said 'yes, its always good to have a baby in your 30's and well before you get to 40' . Obviously no logic there but thats not the point.
I was thrilled she didn't think I look my age and just smiled!¬

bythesea - I am 26 weeks tomorrow and little Dylan is kicking like crazy today and it is really scarey . I think the same as you. I worry alot about me and the baby. It terrifying becoming a mum. Wish I could switch off my brain every now and then. Some days I am very quiet about it and my partner worries about me. I dont shut him out just tell him I have shtting myself about lots of things but also excited about lots of things too. Us ladies are a complex breed eh and damn right biscuits solve all issues especially choccy ones. I am the same as you with leggings and big t's , I had a look at mat clothes and could not find anything I liked so sticking with leggings

exexe- Glad you like Dylan partner said it one day and I thought thats a good name I also call him Dill for short at the moment.

I have had a lazy day resting, done some house jobs but got knackered really quickly, Bloody 40 plus hours of work a week is tiring especially getting up at 630.

Evening all. Been out, stuffed my face, drank a glass of malbec and eaten a medium 28 day aged steak. I am a bad pregnant person but it is my birthday. Wine went straight to my head and I had to have a nap when I got in to compensate. As much as I miss it pregnancy and wine do not mix well. And yes I love to worry. Spent the whole evening worrying about my medium steak and toxoplasmosis.

Hope you are feeling less knackered LRM. It's the early starts that kill me too - I only normally have to do 2 a week so must be tough doing so many.

Ex result on the back handed age compliment. Imagine the horror or having a baby in your 40's eh? But always lovely to be told you look younger. not fair, my birthday, someone must say that to me, bangs fists on the floor, throws tantrum

Hpbp, hope Paris is treating you well . Bytheseaside, yup, I definitely have days where I worry more than others, I guess once I get further along and can feel movements it might get easier (or harder!). Exexe, definitely take that as a compliment! LRM, I really salute you and all the other women working whilst pregnant, it's hard enough work on its own. And I woke up at 3am the other night worrying about which friend I'd lent my stick blender to, so I could get it back for pureeing! I won't need it until May next year FFS! MidgetM, happy birthday for yesterday! Hope you enjoyed your steak, I'm sure it's fine, don't worry.
Just got my screening results back from the 12 week bloods etc. Risk of Down's comes out at 1 in 170, and they don't recommend any further tests. Someone reassure me that this is good really - I know rationally it is but it still seems a bit high to me and I stupidly googled it and it came up with loads of discussions on other sites about people going for CVS or amnio based on this result. I'm being stupid, right??

knotty I would think a CVS with those kind of odds would be totally unnecessary. Turn that into a percentage and your odds are something like 0.25%. If you are concerned then ask about any other soft markers (nasal bone etc). Once you get over 40 your risk number automatically goes up even if all other signs are perfect. Please try not to worry, it sounds just fine.

Thanks MidgetM. I feel a bit better about the result now - I saw that the average risk for my age (44) is 1 in 140, so I suppose it's quite good really .

Belated happy birthday midget. You look very young!

Ordered a pram tonight! Not yet worked out how to do a linkey on iPad, but it is a Mountain Buggy Terrain Double. It is new, but the older pre-2011 version, which were much better build quality, as P&T took over the company and made them all trendy looking. Very excited. It is fab at bumping up and down steps, great off road, and chocolate brown! It was £250 from Winstanley Prams, free postage. The newer version gives little change from £600!

Feel a bit strange buying it at only 23 weeks, but I could not miss out!

Last day at work tomorrow thank f**k! Managers are being idiots, and I am so stressed. Looking forward to being a full time mummy to my beautiful girls and being able to think about bump occasionally.

I think I Love you VQ

knottyhair good odds, I think! I got so used to the dreadful IVF odds (and I beat them - yeah!) that any stats I've faced since have seemed brilliant.

Midget Yes, very, very young - just like exexe

VQ congrats! I'm going to try and follow your lead some time in the next 4 months ...

Well, whilst I'm obviously not glad to hear you are all a bunch of worriers, it makes me feel less like a nutcase - thanks for making me feel better x

Thanks for kind words and warm welcome.

Knotty - good to know someone else with particularly similar issues/situation. Interested in your test issues as midwife has already started on at me about it all. Not sure what I think about any of it this time around or what I'll do ... I feel like 1st time around was much less stressful/more straightforward, but it could be that I've forgotten.

Would love to know more about when/how you told your 8 year old and would welcome any advice/thoughts. DS doesn't really know properly where babies come from, he knows seeds eggs and that I have a special "passage/hole" for the baby. (Classy explanation i know) At least that's what I know I've told him but whether he'll remember or not I have no idea. Tink I might need the aid of book to help me tell him. As much as anything so I don't snigger all the way through!

Hi Sesqui. I think certainly for me, first time round I was a bit more naive, a bit more excited maybe as it was very much planned for etc. but I'm more anxious this time, some of that is to do with my age, but also one of my best friend's had a stillbirth a few years ago and it really shook me up to be honest. But I do rationally know that there is every chance that everything will be fine. But I still have my moments...
As for telling DS, we decided to tell him quite early on as I was very sick and he was beginning to get worried that something was wrong with me. He was devastated (we'd always sold the idea of being an only to him as that was the plan! It backfired somewhat!). We just asked him what he was worried about and once he'd had some reassurance that certain things wouldn't change for him, he gradually began to adjust. Now he is very excited and happy, wants to know how big the baby is week by week and has suggested names etc. We let him tell certain people for us, which I think helped him feel involved and helped him feel more excited I think. As for the technical side of it all (!!), he knows how babies are made in terms of sperm coming from Daddy's willy and fertilising the egg in Mummy, and he's seen OBEM so he's under no illusions about how babies are born. However, we've managed to avoid the actual important bit so far which has led to some questions out of the blue, most notably in Carluccios', "but how does the sperm get into you Mummy, I don't understand". Thankfully his pasta arrived which distracted him, for now!! Sorry for the long post, HTH.

Midget Happy belated birthday! You look so youthful and radiant. Not at all like you've just turned 35!

VQ Hooray for mat leave! Bet you're enjoying every minute of it. It must be a relief to get away from all that stressful rubbish. Well done on pram purchase.

Knotty I'm glad your ds now feels really happy about the new baby. I think you dealt with it perfectly. I think the best way to tell existing children is in terms of them ie it will be YOUR baby brother or sister and not in terms of mummy is having a baby. But, phew, lucky escape in Carluccios!

I totally understand the worries. I know of a couple of people who have had similar experiences to your friend, Knotty and it is devastating.

In my previous pregnancy, I went overdue and started leaking amniotic fluid which caused me to end up having an emergency cs. I didn't even know it was leaking as it was so slight. Now I'm so paranoid about leaking again and get stressed out over any ahem dampness.

Knotty are you doing any exercise dvd? I think you mentioned you were getting one? I might be wrong as have proper baby brain. Just wondered if you were and how you were finding it. I got Davinas and have vowed to start doing it regularly.

Don't forget to do your pelvic floor exercises ladies. You don't want to be having those bladder problems everytime you cough, sneeze or laugh later on....

Knotty and exeexe - Good to know I'm not alone. Very very useful advice about telling the kids. And knotty not too long at all, it was kind of you - both of you - to spare the time. I've been using mumsnet now for nearly 8 years and I still wonder at what a wonderfully useful and supportive community it can be.

Re telling the kids I''d got to the stage of thinking that that it would be import to position it as we 3 are having a baby, not just that we were having a baby. But I love the emphasis on YOUR having a brother/sister. Think I will reearch and read a bit ore for equally useful tips and go for earlier rather than later. I don't really want the world to know but I care more about DS in the end and think that might be the way to approach timings.

In many ways telling him relates to your other points. I think because I'm so much more worried this time that this pregnancy won't progress or things will go wrong somehow that I'd like him to know and I hope come to enjoy the idea. I think if he found out because I had a problem that would be too much and overwhelming for him. Also a pity not to get a chance to think it's fun idea - clearly I'm hoping he'd react like knotty's DS in the end.

I can't imagine what stillbirth must be like and have never been close to anyone when it's happened. I have friends who have miscarried, ivf, terrible ttc and I find that very hard. Trying to stay calm - as much as I can and convincing myself this birth and pregnancy will be fine. Poor you exe with the amnio leaks, must have been very worrying time.

Pelvic floor - oh my god. Good reminder but I tnink it's destined to go through the floor!

Hi am 41 and expecting 3rd child in 3 weeks so lady in waiting. Not sure if anyone else is as far along. Still got a week of work to go. Totally shattered! Kids are 2 (girl) and 3 (boy) respectively. Had 2 emergency sections so have to have another (19 jul). Think I saw someone mention ivf. My first was ICSI and got tod need ICSI for more children but 2 others have been spontaneous conceptions!!! Not so old after all....

Gosh tasmo you will have your work cut out! What a blessing! Welcome x

Hi tazmo . Wow to spontaneous conceptions when you didn't think you could and having a 3 yr old, 2 yr old and being heavily pregnant. How lovely and busy!