Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

Morning! Have tried to catch up but haven't managed to get on here for a few days so apologies if I miss anyone.
Exexe - congrats on the re-mortgage! Did you choose a kitchen??
Eagleray - sending you lots of love and positive thoughts for the amnio (if you go ahead), I think I'll be away if/when you have it.
LRM - I don't know how you (and the others who work!) do it! I wake up at 4.30 and rarely get back off to sleep but I can have a nap during the day. I worked when pregnant with DS and I can remember getting in from work and going straight to bed for an hour or so.

OooohShiny - I can sympathise with the trouble they have getting blood from you, I'm the same, deep-set veins apparently! And the GTT sounds horrible!
Bytheseaside - good luck with the househunting, and how lovely to be feeling your baby kicking! I can't wait for that to start.
Valium - hope you get some definitive news about your ankle so they can start to make you feel better and hope your DD is over the chickenpox soon.
Tazmo - I'll be thinking of you on Thursday and can't wait to read all about your little one when I get back from holiday.
Knickyknocks - welcome! Hope you stay MS free!
Midget - sorry about what happened at work, sounds very stressful and horrible. I also haven't bought anything yet (I'm only 17 wks mind!). After my 20 wk scan on 8th I might get some baby clothes but we're very lucky that most of the big stuff is being lent to us by friends/family - just the pushchair to buy which we'll do later.
Managed to buy a few bits in Bluewater on Saturday (including the black flippy Topshop dress, can't remember if it was being mentioned on this board or my due date board, sorry!). Not exactly overwhelmed by the choice though, but have enough stuff to get me through the holiday and any summer we may get here. Off to Germany & Austria early tomorrow morning (DP is half Austrian), so manic packing day today. Back on 6th August - looking forward to catching up on everyone's news (especially Tazmo!!). Take care everyone xxx

Tazmo Wow! Good luck! You'll have to tell me how it all goes as elcs is my plan too.

VQ sorry to hear about fractures. it must be v painful. ouch. Hope you get treatment sorted out asap.

Eagle good luck with the amnio. Its a difficult wait, I'm sure.

Midget your work situation sounds awful. You're right to try not to get too stressed about it though I'm sure its very frustrating for you. Hopefully it will work out, if not, its something to tackle after you have your beautiful baby and after mat leave.

I bought some pink baby gros but thats it. I have a crib and moses basket packed away from the boys but I will need to buy clothes, blankets, bedding, buggy, cot and car seats for all the kids. I'll need to go Halfords and get them to fit 3 car seats in the back. Hopefully I'll just need 2 booster seats and a baby one so should be ok fingers crossed!

Knotty Have a fab time in Germany and Austria!

Our extension is coming on great. We're building a kitchen/diner in the back and extending the box room over the kitchen and converting the existing gally kitchen into a downstairs loo and utility area. The build work is done and it looks great. The box room is now huge.
It'll be a comfortable house now for 3 kids :)

We've chosen a kitchen and I'm so excited about it. I'll be able to have a small range cooker and a large fridge!
Our fridge was doing my head in. With 2 growing boys and a husband who eats a lot, my fridge is always messy and crammed. I'm always finding things I can't remember buying shoved in the back somewhere, usually past its use by date!

Just heard from hospital. Defrost fracture. Need cast and further examination by surgeon but hopefully no surgery required. Bugger.

Not defrost! Definite! Bloody IPad!

VQ no wonder it was hurting you so much - hope you get sorted soon so it can start to mend - last thing you need right now.

Ex Hurray for the new kitchen (although the bigger the fridge the more crap you will put it in) or is that just me? Your extension sounds lovely - I have extension envy. Living in North London with the tiniest garden in the world means I have nowhere to extend to outwards - need to go up or down.

Knotty and bytheseaside you make me feel better for your lack of purchases. I did get a quote for painting DD's new room and sprucing up her old one for the new bambino so I am making progress. Hope you have a great holiday Knotty. So hard to know what to buy - I got a really summery maternity dress which I still haven't worn once yet as no bloody sun since I got it. May just put it on ebay as it was a pricey one too. Bloody British summertime

Tazmo Eeeeeek. Good luck for tomorrow. Report back when you can. Thinking of you for Thursday.

Eagle You sound much better now you have a plan. All such a worry for you - the sooner over the better. Life has a way of throwing one thing after another at us sometimes which can be a total bitch

Whats your thoughts on painting whilst pregnant? I can't really afford to get it done professionally but wonder if I am taking on too much to be painting 2 rooms at 26 weeks and worried about fumes etc. Am I being a wimp - I know I can do it, just is it safe?

Thanks for all your well wishes about work. I have spent most of the morning crying about it. I feel so stupid but the hormones have the better of me and unfairness really presses my buttons. Unfairness with grace I can deal with but this is not what is happening and it is making me feel like such a wimp. Not good at taking my own advice of rising above it for the sake of the baby and I have 3 more fecking months of work to get through. Vile. I must pull myself together. Baby not so active the last couple of days and can't help feeling I am stressing him out - poor little thing.

Best go - really behind with work due to meltdown taking up half the morning. I love being pregnant but I hate the loss of control on my emotions - I am a mentalist!

PS LRM Where are you?

Hello everyone. So much to catch up on, not sure I will be able too ! Apologies in advance if I miss anyone
Welcome to knicky.
Tazmo, so Thursday is the big day, thinking of you, good luck and let us know how it goes.
VQ, so sorry about your broken ankle, what a pain! A cast in this wet weather... How is your DD's chickenpox going ?
Exexe, so exciting these building works are! A new kitchen, waouh ! I am jealous... :)
Fjord, hello from warm Paris today, I have put loads of washing outside so that they can smell the sun... Have also put the pram and mattress in the sun. Hope it will stay dry even if it is not hot
Knotty, enjoy your hols on the continent
Eagle, don't overstress re amnio if you go ahead, it is not painful but the wait is, so keep in mind, stress is not good for baby and try to relax, I found breathing technics and yoga do help when I felt overwhelmed and too anxious to stop worrying or crying
Midget, sorry about work, focus on the present and baby, sweet
Seaside, how is the house hunting going ?
Shiney, I have not been offered the GTT this time, but Lucozade in my first pg, and it was ok, I am not too keen on fizzy sweet drink, but survived. Your warm sweet drink sounds horible, poor you.

AFM, nothing to report.

My DH has joined us in Paris for a month, his employer has an office in Paris, lucky me ! And my DS1 is very happy to see his dad everyday, I feel now less guilty to have taken him away from his routine, nursery, friends, house....

I am also getting more sleep and feel less tired. The rib pain has gone as well as the back pain. But BH are coming and going, mainly at night. Baby is still very active, if I were not the pg one, I would freak out as the bump really moves and it does remind me of Aliens, the horror movie !

My Mum has been offered a cruise on Club Med 2 by my younger sister, so I had to persuade her to go, she felt bad because I am back to hers to give birth and she is not around.... But hey Club Med 2, at 79 years old, how often will she be given the opportunity again ? I wish I could have gone.... The cruise started in La Valette, Malta, through the Mediterranean sea to Bodrum, Turkey. Nice, hey ?

Went to the clinic on Monday, have now sorted 95% of my hospital bag and baby's. Feeling ready at 38+3. Met the anaesthetic consultant, asked for a less powerful epidural this time so that I can still move with some help and feel myself pushing. Thinking about taking Sage and Raspberry leaf but a bit put off by what I heard about the taste of it... On the other hand, induction is a much worse option so will convince myself to drink the mixture, yuk !

Time to take DS1 to the playground, hope this dry weather will stay...

Hi quicky from me. Thx for all good wishes. Getting excited now as had booking in appt. saw a little earnie weenie new born and thought awwwwwwww. Feeling well sick tho. Not sure why. Had a meeting with dr and anaesthetist, did my informed consent. Had me clexane and have Zantac to take. Have to be there at 7.30 am! Zzzzzzzzzzzz

Hope all r well and will give details when out! Don't think I'll take my iPad in!

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Foot really sore tonight, but thankfully DD2 is on the mend. Mostly crusted, so can go out again soon. Not the best of weeks.

When does your mum come back from her cruise? It sounds lovely.

We have had boats on local streets due to flooding. Thankfully we are quite high up.

Where is everyone? Now have leg in plaster, which Is a real pain.

Morning all,

VQ What a total drag. That must be so awkward (and challenging to balance with bump and cast I would imagine). How many weeks are you again?

Tazmo do you have baby taz in your arms? Hope you are recovering well.

Eagleyou are a bad influence. Not stopped eating ice cream since your last post. Pistachio is my current poison. I like it because it makes the baby wriggle.

I have had a bit of a meltdown at work. Nearly cried in front of my CEO telling how fed up I was ok so a little teary and twitchy. Feel a real tit now. Hormones be gone and give me back myself. Actually made me feel a bit better though. and a bit embarrassed He was lovely to me though and agreed I was being messed about. He is a kind and lovely man so I can forgive the rest of the Machiavellian idiots there (actually there is really only one - everyone else is pretty cool). Just counting down the days till mat leave. (ran out of fingers though as still got a long time to go). I so want to avoid any stress.

Shiny how many weeks are you again? I am wondering that despite being elderly I have had no mention of a GTT. I don't understand why it is being inflicted on everyone else. not that I am complaining as it sounds VILE

I am huge - weight gain only just over a stone but bump the size of a house. People think I am much closer to my due date. DD was so tiny - think this one could be a whopper. My sister had really big babies. As my name suggests I am little so I am terrified that I could be in for a big un!

And it is slow on these boards lately - come back old timers. And I still want your views on if I should paint myself or not. Would you do it?

Take care everyone - and rest up VQ

Midget, it is ok to be emotional, it is good to let things go sometimes... :)
VQ hope the cast will help healing quickly, can you manage it together with the bump and DD's chickenpox ?
Tazmo, hope you have the little one in your arms now

I started today raspberry leaves and sage. The taste is not too bad, but honey is also at hand, just in case... Baby is stretching so I can feel her a lot, which is reassuring. Still wetting myself, it is even worse now that I cough too, this stupid weather is not helping !

Hope everyone will enjoy the week end.

Arh thanks HP You are wise and lovely.

I don't mind raspberry tea - I am odd. Bugger to the wetting yourself stuff. The glamour of childbirth eh?

Absolutely, Midget, we have to put aside decency when it comes to childbirth... I would be a sunburnt tomato throughout labour if I think about having the 2 legs up and wide open for MWs and who knows who else to check that all is progressing well... Plus the pain! Glamour and modesty... Oups

Pelvic floor exercises Ladies!

I've heard raspberry leaf tea helps get your stomach back down! I'm all for trying it out. I'm 26 weeks so won't be starting it yet.

VQ Poor you though its the best thing for it. Must be a pain though.
Midget dont worry about your meltdown. I work in finance and 2 women have had melt downs at work recently. No one thinks badly of them and are very sympathetic. Glad your ceo was lovely.

Hope everyone is doing well....

Painting - ok so long as no ladders or chairs are involved, and the paint is not gloss. It may be therapeutic. I am guessing ladders may be necessary though as you are only wee. Please do not stand on anything except your feet on the floor. Not worth the risk. Also ensure area well ventilated as even though fumes may be low and non toxic, they are still likely to affect us as we are extra sensitive.

I am 25 weeks, and it is tricky with bump and cast. Especially rolling over in bed, and sitting on the loo and getting up again. Having to change toddler on sofa. Usually do it on the floor, and I would need the fire brigade to get me up again.

I was very upset yesterday. Had been walking on it 8days, and has been told on day 6 it was not broken, only to be called by surgeon the following day. In a lot of pain after the cast, but it is easing and PCM is now helping.

DD2 is fine now thankfully, but it was hard. I would have had it looked at sooner had she not been too ill to leave.

Missing my car, and my freedom.

Mum helped me out yesterday and has already made herself ill.

Also wetting self, but past caring. Been looking at raised toilet seats on Amazon. God I feel old

Could someone pop over the pregnant at 45thread that has been resurrected and put a linkey in to this? Sorry I cannot link on this machine

Just found this thread. Can't believe I missed it. I am 44 and expecting first baby on 7 January. Had had a couple of miscarriages, so it was such a huge relief to have 12 week nuchal fold scan and find out baby was gorgeous and healthy and low risk. I am now actually beginning to enjoy being pregnant. I was worried that I would be oldest mother in hospital and at school gates etc, but I do think society is changing and a lot of women are having gorgeous healthy babies in their 40s. I am 15 weeks and not got a bump yet so just look fat. Friends did try and touch my squidgy tummy the other day which I found odd!!! Good luck everyone.

Yay! Welcome complicated this is a great thread. Congratulations!

HP I do Pilates at least twice a week, 4 times before pregnant and as told my strong pelvic floor may not be so useful labour (used to holding it all up - not letting it go or some such thing). We can't win eh? Although not wetting myself (ok maybe a little when I sneeze). But yes you are right we must do those damm kegel things more often or at all

VQ it really does sound tough, I have a good mental image of you rolling over in bed. My mum would do the same - want to help and then darn near knock herself out as she is too old to help for long. Thanks for the advice on painting - I think I will keep the money myself and get the husband to do the high bits.

Sorry took so long to post that I missed we have a newcomer. Complicated welcome to the old folks home. My consultant told me off for saying I was old the other day. He said that was nonsense. He delivered a woman of 55 the other day . However, he is about 3 so what does he know about age?

I thought the orthopaedic consultant looked young too!

Hello - I'm another newcomer after lurking on over 40s threads for a bit.

I got my BFP this morning! 4+1 and I haven't even told DP as he's out til teatime but I have to tell someone... I am 45, with one DS aged 2 and For Today I Am Pregnant.

Welcome mrs and congratulations very happy for you! This is a lovely thread. I find it helps talking to fellow older mums as our needs, and experiences do differ.

Hi all and firstly welcome to KnickyKnocks, Complicated24 and mrswooster. Sorry for being off the planet again this week. After being so confident I?d have more time to participate on the board, Monday brought a surprise urgent work commission that I then proceeded to spend day & night Tues-Thurs doing. Was great to have some unexpected work and has alerted me to a need here in Norway that should enable me to start a business using my skills (which is great) and one I (hopefully) can fit around the baby (although quite weird timing just before I enter my 3rd trimester, but life is like that I guess!). I spent yesterday zombified on the sofa resting and hopefully can spur myself into action today as I?ve masses to do and we?re going up to the cabin on holiday on Monday where we won?t have internet access or phone reception for at least 3 or 4 days.

eagleray, I?m glad the news about your dad isn?t quite as bad as you initially feared. Sorry you're going round in circles with the cvs/amnio stuff but glad you're feeling a little more settled about the whole business.

Valium - Glad to hear DD is a little better. I apparently had chicken pox twice (despite this being supposedly impossible) as a child and remember lashings of calamine lotion being about the only thing that helped, especially just before the crusting stage of the spots. Sorry to hear about your ankle. To be in a cast is the last thing you need under the circumstances! Hope you?re not in too much pain on top of everything else!

tazmo - news? :)

Hpbp - waving hello :). Glad to hear the hospital bag?s all sorted now and you?re feeling ready. Glad you've got your hubby with you. Not envying you the hot weather though. So soon?exciting! :)

Midget - re painting?pretty much agree with VQ - make sure you use low/no toxic paint, only in a well ventilated space and not up ladders etc. But, if in doubt, and you don?t really have to, I?d say don?t. Am also in the ?only just over a stone weight gain but huge bump? crew. Although, at my last scan (25 weeks) baby was ?normal? to on the small side for my dates. MW told me that a lot of women retain a LOT of water, which would make sense considering my swelly symptoms such as carpal tunnel and mahoosive cankles. Wishing and praying for your little frame that there isn?t a big ?un in there. Sorry about all your shit at work. Despite being flat broke, I sometimes don?t regret getting out of ?corporate hierarchy? - full of great people being ripped off with ring-fenced salaries, lack of promotion prospects and frequently having to re-interview for their own positions. It?s massively demoralising. I?m really hoping being self-employed works for me as getting back on any kind of ladder in a company now, after a big break and in a foreign country is only going to be a deflating large step back for me. I do feel your frustration.

Thank you for reminding me about ice cream btw :) I?m off to have the last of the vanilla/lime lollies and a bit of ?sofa time? with the little miss (that?s what we call it ? as she starts being very active when she feels me reclined on the sofa). Oh and Hpbp - know what you mean about the alien thing! At just 27 weeks I get a butt trying to burst through my skin to the left of my belly button, followed by a ripple effect as knees/feet/calves/whatever wriggle around and sometimes she pushes my belly button (which is now a proud ?outy?) in and out! DP finds it a bit bizarre to look at and some days it genuinely feels like she?s trying to make a break for freedom through my skin! . Anyway, like I said?last of the lollies but since I?m have a big lime craving at the moment (as well as milk?don?t get me started) I?m going to make some homemade coconut milk and lime sorbet that apparently works even without an ice cream machine! I?ll let you know how it goes later when we polish it off when we?ve tried some!