Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread- Part 2

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A new thread for us all to share our mutual anxieties, hopes and fears.

But I bought the same one from Boots that the midwife was using - she was the one who told me what to get.

I agree she was very specific. Its only needed when there's a problem. They wanted to admit me to monitor my bp round the clock but agreed that I could stay at home as long as I monitored from home on a machine of their stipulation. I desperately didn't want to go into hospital. The machine gave me two weeks at home instead of hospital and given how much I hate hospitals felt like it was worth every single penny .

I'm currently fine at 121/81. I know that I should inform over 90, will probably be put on pills at around 95 ish and they'll want me over 100.

Sorry meant to add.... That its reassuring for me at the mo cos of all the things going on around me I'm just glad its not risen much yet

God! Pregnant brain.

Slink - where in London on the 12th?

Pip

Wills, We are thinking about going to Covent Garden for lunch. Nice and central, will have to find restaraunt or cafe that is reasonable.

Sounds lovely.

I will CAT everyone once I get around to paying my subs.

Gosh theres a lot to read....

20 weeks today! Can't believe i'm halfway....

Slink, when i walk or stand for too long the pressure is really bad. Actually looked on Net and it says you must take it easy once having a stitch in place. I have to admit that as i felt fine i have been doing lots of bad things like washing the floors hoovering andcarrying my ds (3.5) up and down stairs etc! Now insisting i will relax and behave. Oh, and moving furniture Dr did mention something about not standing for too long. Also find my bladder still hurts, constantly checking for signs of infection, and worrying about all sorts of pains.

Hope everyone is well x

Woah Boopert. Thinks its time to use the excuse to put your feet up!!! I had to stop carrying my 3.5 dd1 when pregnant with dd2 as I'd seriously hurt some muscles. Learnt to sit on the floor and let her curl up with me if she wanted a cuddle.

He's ok when awake normally. Just bedtimes and when daddy is far too pissed to be trusted to carry him! And when we get home from scholl. Have contemplated sitting in the car til dh gets home from work....

But cuddles on the floor sound good....
One chore for today is to disinfect all my wooden floors as bad dog shat and peed everywhere last night and this morn. Can't leave the germs as ds is up and about....ANYONE WANT A LITTLE DOGGY????

Congrats boopert on 20 wks!
Waited over a week for a Dr's appointment but have to make another as the forms take another appoinment to fill in apparently. But can't make appointment today as they are 'updating their systems'. I'm a bit disappointed

Thanks mygirl! Why do you need to fill in sooo many forms? And so many appts to fill in forms? I think they should do them all in one flippin hit and get it over and done with....

Had Chinese meal last night and not sure if i've been poisoned.... Really bad tummy ache or is that part of pg???? Can't remember....

congrats boopert - well done for making it this far bet you're thrilled. Plus depending on when the baby comes you migth be past half way without knowing it.

Also can't your 3.5 yr old walk up the stair wihtout being carried. I'm a childminder and the youngest i care for is 1 yr old and i have made sure that they all climb up the stair without me carrying any of them, and they get into the car etc on their own. Theres no need for you to be doing that.

What doggy have you got? we've got a westie, he's adorable, but very noisy in the day. Baby will be well used to his barks before it comes out.
I've been and handed in my forms at the jobcentre today to claim for my maternity pay. Have no idea what happens next though, hopefully the money will just appear once i start maternity leave.

Takeaway meals always give me a tummy ache now, especially indians. dunno why.

I rang Dr's last Thu for app, earliest one was this am. He said there's six forms to do and he does them not the MW's so need another app which will take a week at least. But can't make app til Mon. When that's done I can get ref'd to a MW and the specialist ante-natal clinic. It's doing my head in!
S what are all you ladies up to today?

Hi, have had my scan and baby was kicking away like a can-can dancer.
However, they found some cysts on the brain which they said weren't anything serious and usually go before the baby's born, plus a white area in the abdomen, which at first they thought was a rib but after the second sonographer came to have a look she said she wasn't sure what it was.
So I have to go to the fetal medicine unit next Weds for a detailed scan and am a bit freaked out--I've read that the cysts on their own aren't reckoned to be anything worth worrying about but can be an indicator of Edwards syndrome if combined with other symptoms (none of which baby appears to have from what I can tell).

morning everyone:)

boopert- congrats on 20 week milestone:) ... and omg i don't think you should be doing so much stuff especially moving furniture!!

well what a morning, had my appointment today. I had so many questions regarding stuff and was rushed in and out with no answers! saw the prof and asked about leaking waters(btw had some worrying wetness) she didn't seem very bothered. I also had a worrying stitch fall out of me last night and she didn't seem bothered about that either!
also asked about infection she said she would get someone to check the system for swab results and that was that:(
finally a midwife checked my swab and found i have an infection, well 2 bizarre cultures were found and the good ole candida thrown in too!
it took them ages to ring microbiologists to find out what they were and what to treat with etc and in the end they decided that since i was allergic to penecillin and since the bacteria cultured was resistant to alot of antibiotics they will see how i go. if i get a fever or it gets smellier down there i have to go in for iv antibiotics! joy!

can't stop feeling like to get anyone to listen to me i have to demand swabs etc
anyway after getting no advice regarding waters leaking etc i have decided to do nothing until 28 weeks.
it really does feel like im the only one in charge of this pregnancy! anyone else fee like this?

Arabica - Oh honey pregnancy is worrying enough for people like us without the additional complication of worrying that development of baby is ok. I really feel for you and my thoughts are with you. At my nuchal scan the consultant felt the thickness warranted an amnio. part of me knew that an amnio would result in miscarriage (sorry but can't shift the idea that balloons of water shouldn't go near needles etc). My cousin, a nurse, told me to take a big breath and then search my inner gut feelings and tell her what I thought. I responded that baby was fine. "That's all you need to know" was her response.

It really helped get me through an awful time. Further blood tests then showed baby to be well within the range of normal not downs etc.

So.... In your heart, deep down what do you think? I suspect that whilst science is absolutely wonderful in so many many ways it also introduces so many more possibilities and areas for us to worry about. Would you terminate, cos if not then what will be will be and you will still adore that little one regardless.

Really hope I'm helping but can only relate in terms of the hell dh and I went through when choosing whether or not to do an amnio given that I was adament an amnio would result in miscarriage. Hope I've not made you feel worse.

SLINK: Wow - keep going girl! Only us mums can shout loud enough for our babies so keep on shouting honey. You know what's right and wrong so feel vindicated and heck - if you want another pregnant hormone bound woman to give additional support to your battles let me know and I'll come along and help you give em hell!

Hi, hope everyone's ok.

Arabica - have responded to you on your other thread.

Slink - An infection, you poor thing. It's a good job you are so across things - imagine if you just left it all to trust with the medical profession.

Wills, i did the gut feeling thing at my 13 wk scan and thought the baby was fine. it helped that the consultant who scanned me was remarkably casual and didn't seem at all concerned that I should choose CVS/amnio. But now I don't know what to think. I guess I will just have to wait and see. I've been researching but can't find any info about echogenic abdominal wall focus apart from intestines in the wrong place, which they would have spotted, so who knows.

arabica-sorry hun i missed your post when posting mine- how worrying:( i suppose you are now playing the waiting game until next week then.

wills - pmsl - shall we all go in and demand to be listened too!

That's right Slink. I do feel listened to at my hospital--maybe they've done a 'How to communicate with pregnant women' course!

Arabica - I think there's a lot to be said for trusting your gut instinct. I think the doctors get more information out of the scans than they really know how to interpret.

Me, I hate all doctors and hospitals today. My doctor referred me for an eight week reassurance scan, letter's gone to god only knows where booking office (the wrong one) so it's not even at the consultant yet and I'm 7 weeks. I keep crying at people down the phone - this was supposed to destress me and all it's doing is giving me stress.

Why oh why did I move from London when I could have stomped down to the nice EPU who treated my miscarriage and get a scan without even needing a referral. Part of the reason I wanted the scan was because there's research that shows that women who feel looked after during a pregnancy after miscarrying are less likely to miscarry again.

Sorry, rant over. And if you want a nice and not too expensive restaurant in Covent Garden, Pasta Browns (Garrick St?!?) was very good when I worked there a few years ago - and was still there when I last looked. Or there is the Brasserie on the Square - next to the London Transport Museum, but a bit full of tourists. Or the Livebait down by the Strand.

Afternoon all,
Sorry everyone seems to be having problems with Drs/hospitals/consultants. Why is it so hard to get proper care? Some people tell you one thing, then other people tell you something else.
Twocats- I had to fight to get an early scan last September. I was told by the EPU when I had my m/c that they could do scans from 7wks. So when I did become pg, I made an appt with the receptionist at the Drs surgery so the m/w could arrange a scan. The m/w rang a few days later and said that the EPU didn't like to do scans before 10wks because they couldn't see anything. I even rang the EPU to make sure that what they'd told me was right and that they could do early scans. Then I went to see a Dr at the surgery. She said the same thing as the m/w at first, but she rang and arranged a scan for me. I think she was surprised that she managed to get an appt. for me. But it just shows you have to fight to get everything. It seems some of these medical people are hopeless sometimes when they actually have to deal with the feelings of very emotional people like us.

Oh look, I've had a rant now too!

Hi all.
Wow looks like a worrying day for so many today including me. But I'll get to that. First things first.......
Arabica- {{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} hang in there. God it must be so worrying, I can't imagine. We're all thinking of you and sending your little babba positive vibes xxxxx
Slink- {{{{{{{hugs}}}}} oh hunny. Just hound them to do something. No one else knows your body better than you do. If you want email me ([email protected]) because I was searching the net this morning for causes of pain in pg and there were so many detailed articles on your cervix problem. Goes to show how different you're treated in the States.

I've had pain all day long. Mixture between chronic period pain and cramping. No bleeding though. I'm hoping it's a bad case of spd & back pain. I'll see how it goes overnight and if it's still bad (or worse) tomorrow, I'll ring the Epu. Not had this before (does'nt feel like bog standard spd pain) and not sure what to make of it. I feel "heavy" right where the babba is.
Here's hoping tomorrow will be better for all.

How's everyone else?

Just popping in to say so sorry to hear that some of you are having worries and struggling with getting the care you need.

Slink, keep hounding them until you get some answers I know its exhausting but you need reassurance and care x

HK, could your pain be spd combined with extra growing pains making it feel different? Hope this is the case

Hope your worries are soon over and you all have your answers so you can relax again for the rest of pg's.

Nikki x

Nikki- {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}} thanks hun. Great to see you xx