Early scan after last yrs miscarriage, but when to stop worrying?!

[SimplySoo]

My first ever pregnancy ended in missed miscarriage last year, diagnosed at 12 weeks. At the time the midwife said the foetus grew til around 8 weeks. I'm pregnant again (yay!) and had an early scan as reassurance last week at 9wks+ 5. All fine, which is such a relief. But when can I be sure it won't happen again? Have we actually passed a hurdle here? I guess it doesn't help that I'm feeling sick all day every day, which is exhausting and perhaps getting me down.

Can any other mumsnetters share their experience of this?

Hi simplysoo

Congratulations!

I know too well what your through after a rough 3 years I find myself 17+3 pregnant after 5 unfortunate early losses all but one before 8 weeks! I had a private reassurance scan at 10 weeks and was told the chance of mc was less than 1% after hearing and seeing a healthy baby at that stage! I still worry now it doesn't go away completley, but every week that passes my anxiety seems to decrease!

Sickness is a pain in the arse but was a great sign my little bean was growing as it should:-) mines only just gone but im starting to feel little bits of movement as reassurance he's still there!

Hope this helps a little

Xx

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Sadly, any pregnancy can end in an early or late miscarriage, stillbirth or neo-natal death so you can never be sure it won't happen, but thee is an much higher chances that all will be well. I had a MMC about 5 years before I had DS1 and like many people I hadn't heard of them until it happened to me and it was a total shock. As a result I never truly relaxed in either of my subsequent pregnancies until my baby was in my arms. I did find buying a doppler helped me but I know some people find them hard to use and this can increase their anxiety.

I had two MCs at 6+2 then a bit of time off TTC and now am 15+3. I had a reassurance scan at 9+4, then was more relaxed for a bit, then got stressed again for no obvious reason (lack of symptoms mainly, as no MS - I know, I know, it was actually a good thing but it didn't feel like it at the time!) as the 12 week scan approached (was actually 12+5 in fact). Since then though I have felt much, much better and now am more stressed about whether I'll be a good parent than about whether the baby is going to be OK. That's just me, and my losses were much earlier and I suspect a lot less traumatic than yours. I keep telling myself that once past 12 weeks the risk of problems plummets and there's no reason to think the worst. GOOD LUCK!

My consultant, who also looked after me when I lost DS2 at 22 weeks, told me that "you won't relax until you have that wee baby in your arms" and he was right.
Good luck!

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and on a good early scan. A good scan at 9 weeks is excellent news, it does mean that your odds of having a miscarriage are very slim indeed.
But, having had two prior miscarriages and being 38 weeks pregnant at the moment, I can agree with sauvignonblanche that the worrying doesn't go away entirely. But it will ease off. You'll feel even better after your 12 week scan, and then after 20 weeks a bit better still, and once you start feeling movements you'll mental about that for a while but it will reassure you as well.
I had a doppler which I got at 14 weeks and could only just pick up a heartbeat then. It was a cheapo one though. But I did find it reassuring to listen to the heartbeat in between 14 weeks and feeling movement at 21 weeks.

thank you so much everyone for your responses! I know there won't be a point as such where we can 100% say everything is going to be okay, but it's very reassuring to hear your views and experiences.

I imagine I'll go through the same process as everyone, worrying less over time after more scans. All the best with your pregnancies!