Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

*7 weeks abviously

Squidkid, how gracious of you, thank you. Sounds like you've had a smashing day (and boyfriend sounds lovely!) I, too, am blessed with a generous-hearted and loving boyfriend and I'm very grateful for him

I sympathise with your working days. I, on the other hand, am becoming more and more disillusioned and dissatisfied with my unemployed status. I haven't worked since 2007 when my alcohol addiction took a stranglehold (previous to this I spent years as a residential social worker with young offenders and as a teaching assistant with EBD children). Since leaving rehab last June I have enjoyed a very calm and peaceful recovery with DP by my side (he is also a recovering alcoholic). I cannot stand being on benefits when I am, to all intents and purposes, fit and well - and I feel particularly guilty with the current political climate focusing on benefit cheats and the 'undeserving' classes I have worked all my adult life and paid taxes and national insurance and yet....and yet.....

Like I said previously, I can't deny that I haven't enjoyed the luxury of being able to get my life back together in a manner which has kept the stresses and strains of normal life outside of my front door and yet...and yet....These early weeks of pregnancy have been difficult to endure simply because I have far too much damned time on my hands with nothing to stimulate me whatsoever. We live in the middle of nowhere, really, with no car and limited finances. I am not materialistic and so the financial aspect doesn't bother me (baby will be well looked after), however I feel a job throughout pregnancy would be just the ticket for someone like me (an obsessive-compulsive thinker on medication!)

Oh dear...I'm boring you all to death. Sorry. Have a lovely afternoon

Elpis, darling, I was only thinking of you t'other day!! Congratulations!

Thank you! I like the flowers. I don't know how you make them!

I have a single friend coming round soon who loves children but doesn't have a partner, so I must try not to whinge about the tiredness and nausea...

I'm just back from the swimming pool - I had not swam in about 2 weeks as the creche had chicken pox and they sent DS home 1 day suspecting C pox. Any way he didn't have but I've been rushing to collect him early every day. Meanwhile DH has been in bed with 'flu, so no support from there.
So every evening I've been eating for 2, craving sweet things and no exercise - a recipe for disaster.
I now feel all those happy hormones swimming around in my blood, yippee.

Squidkid, I'm impressed. You squeeze a lot of living into a week. I work part-time, four 6 hour days, and i'm thinking of cutting down.

Missbone, there is a great book I've heard recommended, What colour is your parachute, on career/life planning. I'm sure you could get it through the library. It might give you some ideas. If you are a thinker to the point of worrier, too much free time may not help

Can anyone help me with these faces - I can't do them.
does not produce a smiley face. What am I doing wrong?

Duh - i might have just got it...

Elpis, check the 'Smileys list' below the messaging box.... is the symbol for 'thanks' but I use it for 'congratulations' or 'keep yer chin up, bird!' etc, etc.

Lisbeth, thanks for the book recommendation, I've definitely heard of that. I'm afraid I've become rather defeatist in terms of a future 'career', thanks to my years of addiction coupled with a shameful CRB (I'm not allowed to work with children or vulnerable adults ever again after I struck a yr 11 pupil) and an unfinished degree. I guess when I met and fell in love with Michael last year my dreams of finally becoming a mother suddenly felt so reachable and now that I'm pregnant...! Well...all I can say is, half of me wants to go on knocking babies out until the menopause beckons, while the other half of me thinks this is a shameful ambition (and it hardly solves my current problem of meaningless, unstructured, loooong days)

The brownish discharge stopped about 12pm. My sister said stotally normal & not to panic. Spent most of the day with my feet up, chilling out!

missbone is there anything else that interests you, other than working with children/vulnerable adults?

Fairy, I'm sure you're sister's right. Still, wise to take it easy.

*your. Gah!

Hey ladies - hope people are having a good day. More in awe than ever of extremely fit people - just went for a walk and legs are aching now A walk which normally takes 30 mins took 45 today!

Missbone is there any kind of voluntary work you could do just to get you out of the house a bit? I can totally understand how having too much time on your hands isn't always a good thing. Maybe you can write a book about your more colourful experiences?! I would read it! :o (I write teen / young adult stuff).

And to all those worrying about not having symptoms - met up with a friend yesterday who is 24 weeks pregnant and who had no symptoms at all, other than feeling a bit tired. She now has an impressive bump and equally impressive bosoms and still feels great :o So you may well be the lucky ones!

Hi,

I just wanted to share something that the lady at the clinic told me yesterday when I had my scan. I told her about my concerns about morning sickness stopping suddenly. She said that every lady is different and no one has a text book pregnancy because there is no such thing. I know it is not much but maybe it will put some peoples minds a little at rest. I find it hard to enjoy this first trimester also and I have had my scan but still know we are not out the waters, if I could afford one of those scans every week I would have one!!

Hope everyone is chilling out, I took the advice on here and had a very chilled day with just a little cleaning.

xxxxxxxxxx

Oh my word, I ate so much food over the last 2 days, I think I'm going to pop! If anyone lives that way, The Fox pub in Broughton Gifford, near Melksham in Wiltshire, does the most amazing sunday roasts - and great value, as I don't need dinner tonight! I look pregnant now, but it's not a baby bump, it's just food

Meant to say thank you to missbone for your original reply to my panic about having to stop the things I love and not knowing how it will affect me. You were understanding and your advice about reading up about how others into adrenaline sports have coped was really sensible, it is something I'm going to look into. Thank you.

Lisbeth, I'm not good with unsolicited advice at the best of times so I'm dreading the barage of it when we go public, lol. When I have a definite bump, there's a t-shirt that says "pregnant, grumpy and liable to kill you any moment", which I think I'll take to wearing every day in the hope that it will give a subtle hint as to how I might react to opinions given when they have not been asked for . Need to start practising counting to 10...

Bettybat, what you said about moving because you can and you need to, yeah, that's it completely. I don't feel right if I don't run or work out, and similarly if I don't get my fix of mountains and rock regularly. I didn't mean to start such a contentious debate though, thinking about starting up a "pregnant runners" thread so that peeps can discuss it with others who don't secretly suspect they are crazy, and it doesn't make people on this thread worry that they are doing too much/too little. It's so easy to worry already, as it is. I feel more positive today, I guess we've all got to get used to hormones affecting our (normally fairly stable?) outlook over the next few months.

Symptoms wise, I have to hold my (still pretty small) boobs every time I go up or down stairs as the bouncing hurts (makes me look a bit weird ) and I seem to be suffering from mild MS approx 90 minutes after eating, and it lingers until I eat again. Eating every 90 mins... hmm, it's a nice idea but it's not going to work! No idea how I'm going to cope from tomorrow onwards when I'm back at work. Wishing all the other teachers a good start back - 6 weeks till Easter, I'm going to be counting the days.

Hope everybody has had a nice weekend. Welcome to new peeps, and congratulations :)

YompingJo my MS is pretty similar to yours in terms of feeling sick after eating. I think if I didn't eat at all I'd feel ok

Is anyone else like me and mad still bfing DC1? My boobs are a bit sore but nothing else - nowhere near as bad as last time. They're not getting bigger either like they did last time and are sad & droopy. My milk supply dipped for around 2 weeks when AF was due (and didn't show) - which was my first clue that I might be pg, but is back up now. I only bf once a day, at bedtime. Just wondering if anyone out there is in a similar boat?

Fairy what encouraging news...you take things easy

DameFlat & Angelico, thanks for your input re. meaningless days/work. To answer your question, DameFlat, I have tried and tried since leaving rehab last June to offer my services to alcohol/drug services as a volunteer (so much life experience!!) but I have been categorically told that I must be 12 months 'clean' from the date of leaving rehab (14th. June 2011), so I guess It's there, ready and waiting for me, this summer With regards to any other type of voluntary work, prospective employers are very reticent to take me on due to my shocking criminal record (their hands are tied).

Angelico, I spent many years dedicating my life to working with disaffected/offending children - and I adored it. Of course, my hitting a year 11 pupil put paid to that and yet I struggle to let go of what, for me, was amounting to a hugely fulfilling vocation So, to answer your question, Angelico about what else I would consider, the answer is I have no idea. Since leaving rehab I have not dared to consider what else in life I could be 'good at'. Writing is an excellent idea...and one which scares me Why? I've no bloody idea.

Yomping, you sound lovely. I nearly, however, choked on my Tunnocks teacake when I misread the line in your post: "...if I don't get my fix of mountains and cock regularly..."!!!! I laughed my (heavily engorged) t*ts off!

Dame I'm not still feeding DC1 but only stopped last year & my boobs are not hurting at all & haven't grown which is making me feel quite panicked but I was wondering whether recently breastfeeding could have anything to do with it? In previous pregnancies my boobs killed & went huge straight away but another friend who had 2 close together said she didn't get sore boobs til about 20wks.

Anyway the paranoid feeling & previous mcs is making me think an early scan could b a good idea. And hearing all your positive scan experiences is really encouraging (babydust I'm so pleased for you!) Think I have a bit of aversion as found out about my mc at a scan but had loads with DD & they are amazing when everything is well. I just really want to know my dates & that everythings ok. Although want to hang on for as long as possible really. Have a midwife appt in a week - how can I get her to refer me for a scan when GP didn't seem to want to? Or should I just go private?!

Hello, can I join please? Due 16th Oct, first month of trying, DD has just turned 1 - gulp!

Isn't this exciting!

Hi Whoah and congratulations! that's quite an age gap...they'll be excellent friends as they grow up - it'll be really sweet!

Hi all :)

This is my 1st pregnancy so please excuse my ignorance. How long after BFP did you guys wait before visiting the GP?

It's just that I'm currently in Norway & don't have a doctor here at the moment. I'm planning on travelling back to the UK & seeing a doctor for the 1st time at about 7.5-8 weeks. I'm taking folic acid & everything. Do you think that's OK? I hope so as I don't have much of an alternative. Is the doc going to think I'm negligent that I didn't see anyone before that?

Hope everyone on here had a relaxing weekend without too many worries :)

I should be worried about everything at 41, overweight, ex-PCOS and with big fibroids, but for some reason, my anxiety 'button' turned off as soon as I was pregnant (before I knew) and I'm involuntarily zen. I DO hope it lasts!! After a year of Post Traumatic Stress it's very strange indeed!

Babydust, Angelico that's encouraging, thank you - about the lack of/disappearing of symptoms. I haven't really had any morning sickness yet (6+2) and my boobs have got less sore but I've had no spotting that I know of. Have had almost constant mild crampy feeling from day 1 due to fibroids/bowels/wind I'm pretty sure (fibroids were causing those kinds of problems & aches before I concieved). Just trying not to worry, stay calm :) However, welcome to any advice that I should be MORE worried! :)

DameFlatYouLent

Yes, I'm still breastfeeding DD1. It's a bit painful when she latches on but nothing worse than I was used to mid-cycle. My supply also dropped but has come back again, and they're not swollen. But then I have been at it for nearly three years and they can probably withstand anything now.

FjordMor

Your GP will probably be surprised you've come to see him so early... Seriously, I don't think they're bothered about seeing responsible, mature (ie over 21) women before about 9 weeks. If you were a teenage smoker who thought folic acid was something you dropped on a Saturday night, that'd be different.

Blimey oh Riley! I've missed so much!!!!!

Hello everyone and welcome and congrats to all the newbies

I've just got back from Wales for the weekend. I had to keep my pregnancy secret from all my friends! It was quite tough and involved a few white lies

I'm 7 weeks today and some of my symptoms too have disappeared! well I have to just wait and see! The only thing that remains is a mild nausea and tiredness! I have a renal USS a week on Monday, the same day as my booking in app, so I might just get a look at beanie

I hope everyone is happy and healthy xxx

(Waving) to missbone thanks for remembering me, it's quite daunting adding a comment when I havnt been able to get on for days! In fact it's taken me 45 mins to read all the post I'd missed let alone find the thread! Lol

Fjordmor, welcome and congratulations! I can only echo what Elpis said (in a very amusing way, Elpis!) When I got my BFP (in 1958 - or so it feels!) my GP surgery wouldn't even give me a sniff of the doctor's hot-seat and told me to go home and ring my local midwife. She has booked me in for my first appointment on 9th. March - at which point I'll be 9+4!!

Meanwhile: Tell no-one; listen to no-one; don't go anywhere; give up sex (blowjobs are allowed); pack your job in immediately (you'll soon be sacked anyway for constantly sleeping at your desk); do whatever you want; don't watch One Born Every Minute; dig out that hideous gypsy skirt with elasticated waist circa 1991...you know the one!; don't ever go to the toilet again (if you simply must, don't look down, and never ever wipe); eat everything you see; throw away your bras; lie down in a darkened room with a sick-bowl by the bed and wait until you're 10cm dilated