Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

Fairy, I'm very sad to hear you've miscarried, but I am amazed at your strong spirit and positive attitude...you'll be pregnant again before you know it. Whatever thread you evenually join, please pop back and give us your lovely news xxx

fairy I'm truly sorry that this has happened. I hope you are having lots of cuddles and not feeling too sad x

2LM I've got 2 ds and I told them both at 6 weeks made it easier to talk about at home.

Sending love Fairy x

Fairy so sorry to hear that. Sending you lots of love xxxx

I think I'll wait til the 9 week scan I just booked. It's also DS1's birthday. I think he'll be delighted and it'll make his birthday more special. Christmas 2010 he said what he wanted for Christmas was a baby brother or sister. Made me :( as the baby I MCd was due Christmas eve 2010. Of course if the scan shows no HB, then we'll have to be putting on a happy face anyway as it's his birthday week and we have his party, a family get together and lots of other distractions. Argh. I'm driving myself bonkers swinging between being ludicrously excited and terrified of a repeat MC.

Another question for you all - what are your thoughts about finding out the sex? With DS1 and DS2 we didn't - I wanted the surprise, but DS1 is on the autistic spectrum and now (although I'd like a surprise) I think we will try to find out, so that we can prepare him for the change better.

My booking in appointment was lovely. The midwife was very reassuring about the spotting and put my mind at rest about everything I had been worrying about. She didn't measure my blood pressure until after she had been chatting to me for a while and fortunately it was healthy. I now have to have my blood tests next week then nothing until my scan.
I forgot to ask about my arms - sorry to those that wanted to know about that.
She also gave me the number for the hospital fetal medicine centre as there is a genetic condition that DH's uncle has. We're not sure what we are going to do about that it.
Fairy so sorry to hear your news. I hope you get some good news soon.

fairygodmother I'm so sorry. Take care and have a large glass of wine!

Hello all and to fairygodmother - so sorry to hear your sad news :(

Well I've been getting a few official bits and bobs done re-pregnancy! Went and saw the GP yesterday, she confirmed my pregnancy (for some reason I felt like a naughty schoolgirl making stories up and was worried the test would be negative in the doctor's office!!!) and got me all signed up etc. Also I went and registered at the maternity hospital had a nose around because I work just round the corner from it.

Have also booked at the maternity hospital's special early preg unit an early scan for 7 weeks on 13 Feb (heading Down Under to visit everyone that week, so wanted to check to see what's in my tummy!) and have booked my nuchal fold screening scan & blood test on 10 April (this test is not offered routinely in Ireland, have to pay extra for it and go to the special unit). So I'll be ?350 poorer after that.....!!! Needs must though!!

Am very very anxious though at the moment... having trouble sleeping. Very frightened of having a mc, it's keeping me awake at night. This is my first pg ever and of course everything is the great unknown. It feels like a long way until 12/14 weeks... does everyone else feel like this? Or am I being an especially bad worrywart??

Have told our closest friends and family I'm pg (all the people we wouldn't mind knowing if something bad happened) and they're all over the moon!! I think my MIL (finally getting a grandchild after 10 years of campaigning...!) has actually lost her mind over it.

Oh and aside from those two scans I've booked myself I have NO antenatal appointments (with my GP or the hospital) until 20 weeks (ie the end of June)!!!!

How on earth am I meant to last that long!?! I'll go bonkers in the meantime! For my sanity I'm glad I booked those private scans. My doctor cheerfully said it's because if anything bad happens before then there's nothing they can do as the fetus isn't viable. Nice. Bit deflating.

twolittlemonkeys hehe well my last couple of posts painted me as a control freak - we will DEFINITELY be finding out the sex! I can see the appeal of a surprise in theory and how lovely it would be at the birth.... but I've just got to know. There is no point trying to pretend I would have the self-control to not find out. We already have a boy name and and a girl name picked out and settled (errr for the past 5 years)......

I'm actually hoping it's twins (and fantasizing that my 7 week scan will reveal that). One of each. Because I'm bonkers.

In fact I'm betting that at the 20 week scan the little monkey will cross his/her legs and then it will HAVE to be a surprise!!

Sending love Fairygodmother1- please don't be a stranger and bring us good news soon!

I am seeing my mid-wife on Saturday, then having my 12 week scan on 21st March :)

Omg my lower back is absolutely killing me today :(

I am definitely finding out the sex of my baby in order to prepare myself for the horror of it being a girl.

No. I'm not joking.

What have you got against girls, missbone?

That said, if I had a choice I'd want another boy as I've always loved the idea of having 2 boys :)

I'm gonna find out. For no other reason than I want to!
I don't mind either way but am getting annoyed with the 'O I bet u want a girl ' comments.

What have I got against girls? Ask the mothers of Katie Price, Cherie Blair, Paris Hilton, the female cast of TOWIE, Ulrika Jonsson, Edwina Currie, Little Mix, Tulisa Contostavlos, Rosie Webster, Whitney Houston, Amy Winehouse, Cheryl Cole and the entire cast of Loose Women (especially Denise Welch)....oh, and Rihanna and Lady Gaga.

fairy I am so sorry to hear your news. But your attitude rocks. First pregnancies so often end in mc and it in no way means it will happen again. Allow yourself to howl and grieve and get back on the pony. Sending you as much hug as you can send on the interweb. Take care of yourself.

Haha miss u crack me up.

I did want to ask u something personal as ive been worried about it. Would you rather I private messaged u?

I want to find out - don't know why really and I will admit to a slight preference for a boy, mainly because DP already has 2 girls and MIL has 5 stepdaughters & 3 step granddaughers. The extended family dynamic is crying out for the balance of another boy! Guessing sonographers do get it wrong though; an old work colleague's sister was told she was having a girl at 20 weeks - went out & bought all the little girlie gear & everything then on her due date, out popped a boy!

Bubble, you can ask me anything whatsoever on here, publicly, and I will give you an honest answer. If, however, you feel more comfortable privately messaging, then that's fine, too x

missbone, because of you I am now on my hands and knees praying for a boy :P

My scan has been put back a week as DH can't make the scan the week before hand, so now my next scan is on Wednesday 28th March, and I'll be 13 weeks :)

Ha! Ha! Milk I'm very serious about not wanting a girl, but, if that is God's plan for me, who am I to complain?

Last night I slept for 10 hours solid and have just succumbed to an hour-long nap. I've woken up just as fatigued and sluggish as before. Everything requires gargantuan effort. I'm sat here in pyjamas (pulled below the swollen belly) with my unsupported t*ts spilling out of a vest top and surrounded by Wispa Gold and Fry's Peppermint Cream bar wrappers. I truly feel like a behemoth swamp-pig. DP has gone for a walk, the cat is up the Christmas tree and I am watching some utter shite on telly (channel 5 movie Concrete Canyon) I really should have gone for a walk with Michael but the thought of even disentangling my (short!) bed-head thatch makes me want to burrow deeper into the sofa.

Is anyone else struugling to focus on the simplest of tasks at the moment? My book is taking yonks to read as I have to keep re-ingesting sentences and even the most stimulating of storylines on the telly are proving to be tedious and unworthy of my attention. I love telly and reading!!! (Don't even ask about the 1000-piece jigsaw)

Gosh I need a life.

*Evidently I'm also struggling to spell 'struggling'

I can't wait to scream and rant at the telly tonight: Ch4 @ 10pm 'Strictly Baby Disco'. Another example of why I don't want a girl...if any were needed!