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Okay a bit of fun

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 14:54

I was speaking with some friends and work colleagues and somebody mentioned that I was a yummy mummy in training (I have the mothercare t-shirt to prove it). I Laughed as you do and changed the subject (easier said then done).

I like looking nice for DP and the office and a new hair cut and french manicure and beautiful shoes, but isn't that what a woman does

The fun bit what is a yummy mummy and do you want to be one?

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elfyrespect · 21/12/2011 14:57

You new?
I can't imagine you'll have this name for long once you get to know MN a bit better.

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 15:04

Thanks elfyrespect I am new to all this. How are you?

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Flisspaps · 21/12/2011 15:05

Isn't that what a woman does? No, it's what some women do. And certainly 'looking nice for DP' hasn't ever been on my list of priorities or fun things to do even before children.

Yummy Mummy? I think yummy mummies are a bit 'dull' to be honest - the sort who spend hours making themselves and their child look so pretty that they are then unable to do anything fun - anything that involves mess, or untidiness is Not Allowed. Think Liz Hurley.

No, I don't want to be one. Generally looking after a newborn and a toddler will entail far too much broken sleep, lots of poo, heaps of sick/dribble and snot on shoulders, as well as glitter and paint, to worry about looking nice or being yummy. To be showered daily, run a brush through my hair, get fed and manage the loo on my own would be nothing short of a miracle once DC2 arrives.

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 15:10

Flisspaps Oh not a fan of mess but I guess it comes with the territory. LOL sounds like hard work to me being a parent although my friend did use a magic word the other day Muslin Squares. xx

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bronze · 21/12/2011 15:12

Good luck

I think you're going to need it

3isamagicnumber · 21/12/2011 15:19

I'm not a mummy - yet, though we are trying! Don't feel too yummy at the mo either!! I doubt when you have kids you could be yummy no matter how hard you try??!!
Yummymummytobe - guess this is your first? When you due?

Flisspaps · 21/12/2011 15:19

Muslin squares - great solution.

I'll stick one on my shoulder when the baby throws up on it, tie one round my head like a headscarf to hide the fact I've not been able to get in the shower due to being too knackered to stand up for more than 30 seconds and fold a couple up to use as incontinence pads when the baby needs feeding AGAIN and I need the loo desperately ;)

TheBreadstick · 21/12/2011 15:23

@ flisspaps

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 15:24

Thank you Bronze.

It is our first 3isamagicnumber and I can't wait to be a mummy. Our DS is due on April 29th.

I have 25 in blue and white muslin squares although there does appear to be 1001 uses for them Flisspaps.

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mumsrthebest · 21/12/2011 15:28

I think it is very important to make yourself look presentable especially during a stage in your life when your body is changing so much. I love it when people call me a Yummy Mummy. I am certainly not superfical but try to dress smartly, have my hair and nails done. I don't dislike mess and I am not 'dull'. Making myself look presentable for my husband is important to me and I will try my best to continue this when I have my baby. Just because you are a mother does not mean that you have to let yourself go. Yummymummy take it as a compliment and good for you for looking after yourself and looking so good. xx

mumsrthebest · 21/12/2011 15:29

It takes about 10 minutes to put some make up on.

Flisspaps · 21/12/2011 15:29

Don't get me wrong - it's fabulous. ~DC2 due not long before yours OP.

It's bloody hard work though and really there's very little time (or point) in having your hair/nails done or worrying about looking nice for the first 6 months or so. Get through the day and you'll be doing well.

Once the baby becomes a toddler, sew the squares together (what's left of them) and make yourself a den, so that you can hide from the little lovely. Or at least you can blindfold yourself with one so you can't see the disaster zone that used to be your house.

TheCrunchUnderfoot · 21/12/2011 15:34

The key thing is to trample lesser mummys underfoot with your stillettoes.

mumsrthebest · 21/12/2011 15:38

I agree there is less time but I dont agree there is no point. Its about self worth. x

Flisspaps · 21/12/2011 15:48

Makeup and nice nails do NOT equal self worth

user59457812 · 21/12/2011 16:03

The best magic word I've heard recently is 'dry shampoo' - fully expecting not to have time to wash my hair for the first few weeks after LO arrives let alone anything else, if my mates' recent experiences are anything to go by...

OP - if you are enjoying looking fab during your pregnancy and getting complimented that's fantastic, enjoy it! If you happen to be one of those that can manage to be pristine when DC arrives then more power to you...although the only women I know who've managed that (for the first six months at least) have had staff...

claireinmodena · 21/12/2011 16:07

Fliissaps, I agree selfworth is about more than makeup and nicenas, but I think there is a certain psychological boost rhat can come from "looking good". This can mean different things to different people, but I think it helps. (But I would do it for myself rather than dh, LOL)
So I think as a new mum, if you manage to look after yourself a bit as well as after the baby, it can only make you feel better. At the same time one shouldnt feel bad if they cant manage it, as the first few weeks with a new baby can be very hard.

saltyair · 21/12/2011 16:19

I'm afraid yummy mummy is a phrase that makes my toes curl. It's filed in my head along with MILF, WAG and other phrases that define women in such a very narrow way.

mumsrthebest · 21/12/2011 16:26

Looking good does make me feel good about myself and I am not suggesting for one minute that I just do it for my husband. I did it prior to meeting my husband. My grandmother and my mother all managed to look good whilst caring for me and my sister and they didn't have staff...lol. I am not saying that you have to be dressed up to nines everyday but a little bit of effort never hurt anyone. Along as the baby is ok any little spare time I have will be spent making sure I look ok. Before you all say it, I understand that it is knackering looking after a child and finding the time to put some make up will be hard work. But I will try my best to do so. xx

user59457812 · 21/12/2011 16:28

Saltyair - I'm with you. It's something that men tend to say in a slightly leery way or women say about other mums as a kind of veiled insult (sorry OP) for that kind of super-competitive 'look how quickly my abs have snapped back I'm already in my size 6 Juicy Couture and I gave birth two seconds ago' mum. Not a fan of the term...

whimsicalname · 21/12/2011 16:31

I'd rather spend the 10 minutes it would take to put on makeup reading a book. Sometimes I wear make up, sometimes I don't. God help anyone that called me a yummy mummy.

BroomBuBuBum · 21/12/2011 16:40

I understand still wanting to look half decent but I do think your priorities shift slightly after having a baby. My DD is 5 months now and I can count the times I've bothered to straighten my hair on one hand. I used to do it every day but its one of the few things i can't do while holding a baby.

It does only take 5 mins to put on some foundation and mascara but on bad days sometimes even that isn't possible.

Also saying you want to look presentable for you DP/DH sounds a bit '50's housewive must do scary robot smile while making hubby a stuff drink' sort of woman which is odd.

mumsrthebest · 21/12/2011 16:43

I think it depends on if you wear make up and dress up regularly, which I do. I won't leave the house without any make up on. Call me vain if you like but thats just me :)

MrsHuxtable · 21/12/2011 16:45

LOL at this thread! (And I hate lols)

suzikettles · 21/12/2011 16:50

Just give yourselves a break if you don't manage to do your hair and makeup when your baby is tiny.

It's fine to have expectations about how you think things will be, but (as in many, many, many things to do with parenthood) the key is to accept that sometimes some things may be out of your control and you really may not have that spare few minutes to straighten your hair and put on lippy.

I'd say the same to someone who was adamant that she was going to stay on top of the housework and the washing. Sometime things just get away from you for a bit and that's ok

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