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Okay a bit of fun

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 21/12/2011 14:54

I was speaking with some friends and work colleagues and somebody mentioned that I was a yummy mummy in training (I have the mothercare t-shirt to prove it). I Laughed as you do and changed the subject (easier said then done).

I like looking nice for DP and the office and a new hair cut and french manicure and beautiful shoes, but isn't that what a woman does

The fun bit what is a yummy mummy and do you want to be one?

xx

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xmasmummytobe · 21/12/2011 16:54

As the title says "Okay bit of fun" my answer to your question is yes I'd like to be a yummy mummy.

I like looking nice, whether it's obtainable or not is another matter and whether I'll care once this little one is in my arms, who knows. Yep I like people telling me I don't look pregnant from behind, even if they are lying. I love that MIL tells me I suit pregnancy. So many hormones that make me feel crappy, the fact that I have toes at the end of my legs now instead of having feet and ankles makes the occasional compliment and the days where I wash my hair and put a bit of mascara on all the better.

I'm glad I have a wonderful DP who tells me I'm sexy and I'm beautiful when he remembers to say the right things. I'm also glad that my hormonal rages haven't caused me to kill him when he says stupid things like "you're a beast" when I'm sat on the sofa, top rolled up to my boobs balancing a plate of cake on my bump and eating with my mouth open (my nose is all blocked where the hormones have screwed up my sinuss) He has an awful sense of humour!

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justhayley · 21/12/2011 16:57

I'm with you Grin I deff want to be a yummy mummy - am I sure what one is? nope but I'd rather be yummy than un yummy lol. Iv got a lot of friends who I would consider yummy - they havnt let go of themselves & their appearance just because theyv had a child, & they still have lots of fun with their children! I don't think looking after yourself and trying to look nice for you partner makes you dull at all, if u can fit in wacking on a bit of make up into your morning routine then why not! I think it's nice to feel good on the outside. I don't think there's many people who would honestly rather look a mess than pretty if they had the choice!

I'm not saying I plan to tot around in high heals whilst pushing a pram - not everyday anyway lol but I deff still want my DP to look at me and think fancy the pants off me, as well as looking at me as a good mum!

Welcome to mumsnet yummy mummy to be Grin don't worry some posters can seem a little serious sometimes but they are all lovely really & there when u need advice - just maybe not about being yummy lol

Xx

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ScrummyYummyMummy · 21/12/2011 16:57

I think some posters on here have become overwhelmed with daily domestic life. The notion that once you have a baby you'll never be able to wash your hair / get to the hairdressers or paint your nails is ridiculous. I have a DD run my own business full time and am expecting DC2. I fully intend to go back to work after the arrival of DC2 and still manage to get some mascara on in the morning.

yummymummyyobe1 be under no illusion that it's v hard for the first few weeks, but it doesn't mean that you will have lost a grip of your personal presentation forever! Think you might have got your priorities in the wrong order when you say you're looking nice for DH though...(what about yourself)?

I'm not normally this outspoken on here, but I'm amazed at the scathing comments regarding the 'yummymummy' name and people actually being unwelcome on MN because of it. I understand difference of opinion, but elfyrespect to suggest that someone should change their name because it doesn't hold the same values as you isn't too respectful. Maybe MN isn't the place of support, welcome and inclusiveness that I originally thought?

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mumsrthebest · 21/12/2011 17:04

I'm a robot then...lol. Maybe I have got oldfashioned values. The same applies to him, I would be very annoyed if my husband didnt make the best of himself and couldn't be bothered to look good.

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AsinineLadiesDancing · 21/12/2011 17:06

Are you all married to DeliciousDads?

Grin

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HidingInTheUndergrowth · 21/12/2011 17:32

Gosh, I confess that I consider it an achievement if I brush my hair on a weekend at the moment and I haven't even had the baby yet. I never wear makeup and if I get any spare time when sprog is born I shall spend it reading a book or staring into space trying to remember what a full nights sleep was like. Yet despite my messy hair, lack of time spent covering my face in makeup and general terrible lack of prioritising of my looks over clearly less important things my DP still tells me I am super sexy and gorgeous almost everyday.

Where I live is full of very well off 'yummymummy' types, I really have nothing in common with them and find them all terribly, terribly dull. If someone ever did make the bizarre mistake of calling me a 'yummymummy' I think I would be so shocked and horrified I would probably pass out.

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bonbonpixie · 21/12/2011 23:18

Lol - what an assortment of disparate opinions.... wonder if it's time to burn those maternity bras!!
I guess some people use the term 'yummy mummy' in a derogatory way but personally I hope to maintain my pre-pregnancy appearance after giving birth May - not because it's the most important thing in life or the source of my self worth but because it makes me feel good and come on, doesn't everyone like to feel attractive? I think DC will benefit from a confidant mummy.
Not sure how well i'll fair tho as last party DH and I attended he had to pick crisps out of my hair before entering the restaurant... oops!

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 23/12/2011 09:01

mumsrthebest I agree it makes you feel so much better when you feel good about yourself, and being that I am the size of a small family car.

Flisspaps thanks I will make a note of that so that I can make sure I have a safe place to hide. My Dp has the office at the top of the house. LOL.

TheCrunchUnderfoot, Heels yummy, although I can't walk in heels at the moment LOL. Fingers crossed once baby is born they can come out of hiding.

HotPinkGingham, I love dry shampoo it is a small miracle in a can. Oh I wonder if I can find staff LOL perhaps when I am asked what I want for Christmas next year staff could well be top of the list. LOL. Although a day at the spa would also be good.

claireinmodena, I couldn't agree more nobody should be made to feel bad about how they look. The most important person is the baby.

BroomBuBuBum I agree with that although I need need need my roots doing and a day at the spa from time to time.

saltyair they have special shoes for curly feet in Turkey LOL. I think the media has a lot to answer for.

MrsHuxtable how can you not like LOL.

Anyway it is interesting to see different people's view on things.

xx

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 23/12/2011 13:05

Hi ladies.

It is very very interesting to hear peoples different point of view on things. If I can remain on some kind of sane level then that would be fab. Although I do look at all my beautiful pre pregnancy clothes and really want to be able to wear them again in the Spring/Summer.

suzikettles there is far to much pressure to be a certain way this day in age it has to be said. Thank you celebs to ping into their teeny tiny sexy underwear hours after giving birth and are enjoying a bit of rumpy pumpy within moments. [fwink}

xmasmummytobe your DH sounds lovely my DP tells me I look lovely pregnant even when I do look like a small family car. I can't wait to be able to rest thing on our DS, he rests on mummy's bladder often enough. Xmas Smile

justhayley wearing heels whilst pushing the pram will mean better balance and a Monroe wriggle to boot (MMM boots, soft leather boots) Xmas Wink

ScrummyYummyMummy wow hard working does not even describe your life, I am expecting the first few weeks to be hard (thank goodness for paternity leave) although if baby could read the Contented Baby and follow it to the letter then I would be greatfull (perhaps that's what we can read to DS whilst in his cosy bump)Xmas Smile

mumsrthebest there is nothing wrong with old fashioned values as long as there is equality. Xmas Wink although there will only be true equality when men can give birth.

AsinineLadiesDancing I think all Mummies to be have delicious Daddies of their very own.

HidingInTheUndergrowth LOL just remember not to pass out wearing heels whilst pushing the pram. Xmas Smile

bonbonpixie oh crisps. I agree I do like to feel nice about myself and confidant mummies & Daddies, have to equal confidant children)

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tak1ngchances · 23/12/2011 13:11

What on earth is going on?

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deemented · 23/12/2011 13:13

Yummy mummy??? Hahahahahahahaaaaaaa

I'm much more of a scummy mummy. I'm pregnant with DC5 and i have a 12 year old DSS. I do not have the time - or the money - to go to the hairdressers or have my nails done.

And even if i did, why?? How the feck do you wipe your arse with those long talons? And most days my hair gets pulled back into a ponytail as it's much easiier to manage.

Don't get me wrong, i'm always clean and tidy, but having my hair and nails done so people can call me a yummy mummy is wayyyyy own my list of priorities.

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sunshineoutdoors · 23/12/2011 13:16

???

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tak1ngchances · 23/12/2011 13:16

Have I wandered into a parallel universe where french manicures are actually considered desirable/attractive?

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sunshineoutdoors · 23/12/2011 13:17

oops wrong thread

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TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 23/12/2011 17:30

Grin at tak1ngchances. French manicures are vile.

Wearing high heels while pushing the pram will mean better balance - wtf?

My post-birth goal is to sleep as often as I possibly can - makeup, haircuts, housework etc will all have to go to the wall for a while.

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Flisspaps · 23/12/2011 18:07

I get the impression that most (not all) of those talking about being yummy mummies are those who haven't actually experienced the joys of their own newborn yet Smile

I mean this kindly - while it's nice to have expectations of what life will be like, chances are it won't be like that. Don't set your expectations too high and accept if you can manage as much as a shower and quick hair brush then thats BRILLIANT particularly in the early days, anything more should be a bonus. The pressure on women to look like supermodels even with a baby is ridiculous, don't add to it by putting pressure on yourselves. It is OK to be a 'slummy mummy' if not pressuring yourself keeps you sane.

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spannermary · 23/12/2011 18:48

When I'm a mummy I'll have a baby, and a loving DH. Sounds pretty yummy to me!

My definition of a yummy mummy is probably different to the generic, but the OP did ask us what we thought it would be. So there's mine added to the list!

I reckon a happy mummy is a yummy mummy - yumminess shines through! I've seen women look utterly exhausted, with messy hair, tracksuit trousers, huge bags under their eyes etc - but they look so utterly yummy because they're clearly in love with their little arrival.

Or am I completely out of touch?

Happy eve eve to all!!

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 23/12/2011 18:53

deemented I am not a talon girl just a simple Mani and Pedi. I know that baby will be a lot harder then people make it see.

tak1ngchances I agree with the French Mani thing.

TooImmatureTuartleDove My friend told me the heels/pram thing.

Flisspaps I hold my hands up I am a first timer. Xmas Smile Celebs have a lot answer for. Xmas Grin

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Queenkongmerrilyonhigh · 23/12/2011 19:02

This thread is making me feel sick. Can someone pass me a bucket?

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BroomBuBuBum · 23/12/2011 19:54


Sorry I may have already used it Grin
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namechangerbat · 23/12/2011 19:55

Have the huns invaded ?

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RainySmallHands · 23/12/2011 20:18

We seem to be overrun. Perhaps we can get this thread moved to Feminism Xmas Grin

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spiderslegs · 23/12/2011 20:20

Ohh - I've come over all queer reading this, I feel like I'm in a parallel universe, have I slipped through the cracks of reality?

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SilentBoob · 23/12/2011 20:24

Are we under attack?

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Queenkongmerrilyonhigh · 23/12/2011 20:51


Thanks Broom. Feel purged of 'yummyness'. Shudder...
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