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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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anyone else getting sick of the endless don't do list?

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kiki22 · 25/11/2011 22:33

honest to goodness if i'm told one more thing you shouldn't do in pregnancy or any more things that are dangerous for baby i am going to scream! Feel like i should turn spare room into a padded cell for me and bump until he's 3.

The list seems endless! I want to sleep on my back and use a baby walker ffs!

feel better now.

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recall · 25/11/2011 22:34

Stop getting all stressed, its not good for baby

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kiki22 · 25/11/2011 22:44

AAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

the stress of not stressing is stressing me lmao!

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aethelfleda · 26/11/2011 08:34

Sorry hon, it gets no better once they're out! Then you'll get health visitors telling you to top your (perfectly happy) Bf baby up with formula, the same HVs telling you not to feed your 4 month old baby solids when they are scrraming hungry, not sleeping through and watching you eat like a hawk,
And just about everyone else (esp the 50-plus granny market) telling youball sorts of opinionated do's and don'ts and tutting when you don't obey them exactly....

(and I'm working on number 3 and they STILL do it!!!)

Poweredby200mgofCaffeineaday · 26/11/2011 13:14

Some of the 'don'ts' I just don't believe in, like jacuzzis being dangerous, I just cannot bring myself to believe that laying in warm water has any effect whatsoever. I hear that's because it's not good to 'raise your body temperature'. What about women who live in boiling hot countries ffs?

The other one I've had a major issue with can probably be inferred from my name.

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kiki22 · 26/11/2011 19:15

I know it's a nightmare specially as everyone has different 'advice'

I've been told today that i shouldn't be out in the rain in case i get the cold as the baby could die from it!!! WTF i live in glasgow if i don't go out on rainy days i'll be in 360 days of the year.

powered even diet cokes not allowed swigs her diet coke

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BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 26/11/2011 19:48

List some nots and I'll try to disprove them?

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kiki22 · 26/11/2011 20:06

hmmm let me see...

don't use a baby walker as it's dangerous your baby could fall down the stairs in it....

If you use a cot bumper your baby could stick his face against it and die...

If you sleep on your back it will cause the baby damage...

If you don't breast feed your baby will have allergies...

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Witchofthenorth · 26/11/2011 22:25

If you indulge in any really tasty food at all for the duration if pregnancy and breast feeding, you will in actual fact implode....

I am with you OP it's ridiculous! I lie on my back, drink really strong coffee, own a baby walker that my previous three children have used and not yet fallen down the stairs, I have a beer or three, I have co slept with all my children and plan to with this one, and have not yet smothered them.

Be a rebel......buy a baby walker :o

LikeACandleButNotQuite · 26/11/2011 22:44

I want to be rebellious re: baby walker but live in a ground floor flat - which sort of negates the naughtiness!

Apparently im not allowed to eat strawberries?

Oh, and also, people seem to think I am exposing my baby to a life of doom simply as I have cats. The amount of people who have done face at me, just for owning cats

ButWhyIsTheGinGone · 26/11/2011 22:51

My mum kindly told me she used to drink vast quantities of gin when I was in utero.............amazing I turned out normal really! tries to hide username

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kiki22 · 26/11/2011 23:05

witchofthenorth baby walkers all ready in the cupboard hehe

I personally blame disney for the cat paranoia those cats in lady and the tramp started all the killer cat rumors! I've not heard the stawberrys one yet but i'm sure they are very deadly lol.

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startail · 26/11/2011 23:06

And if you visit St Agnes in the Scilly isles, it's unpasturised milk or the UHT muck.
Happened to holiday there while pregnant both times. Don't tell the pregnancy police what went on my cornflakes.

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kiki22 · 26/11/2011 23:22

lock startail up and chuck away the key! lol

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gypsycat · 27/11/2011 10:37

Don't even get me started. I'm living in the Middle East at the moment and NO ONE will colour my hair, they won't let me watch 3D movies and there are doctors who tell you that driving in a car is dangerous to the baby!

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kiki22 · 27/11/2011 12:01

poor u gypsy and we thought we were bad off :(

Why no 3D movies?

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gypsycat · 27/11/2011 12:51

I don't know kiki, all I was told is it's "bad for the baby." According to an article in the Daily Mail (which I didn't know they read in Dubai) they can cause nausea and dizziness in pregnant women...um what doesn't cause nausea and dizziness in pregnant women?

brettgirl2 · 27/11/2011 14:24

Powered by I dont believe the Jacuzzi thing either - it would have to be baking hot surely. That said I dont quite have the guts to waddle past the 'not suitable for use in pregnancy' sign :(

VFVF · 27/11/2011 21:00

I've just found out today I'm not supposed to eat goats cheese??

My friend is 4 weeks behind me and is very clued up on 'the rules', honestly the things she comes out with it's a miracle DD is as normal as she is considering the only rule I stuck to with my pregnancy with her was not to smoke (which was pretty darn easy as I've never smoked!)

sprinkles77 · 27/11/2011 21:22

Last time round I broke every rule...ate and drank whatever I wanted, horseriding (including mucking out, carrying bales of hay, sacks of feed and water buckets) 4 times a week till 7 months. Busy asserting myself and my right to make my own decisions. This time round my philosophy is "why take the risk?". I was very lucky to have a normal healthy little boy, but I had problems in the last trimester that may well in hindsight be the result of my actions earlier on. So, while what everyone else does is their business, for me this time the right thing is following the rules. And I am not someone who normally does things by the book. On the other hand, once baby is here, safe and sound, I wouldn't change a thing that we did with DS.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 27/11/2011 21:32

Ooh, you've reminded me, I went to a 4D experience thing in my last pregnancy and although I was allowed to watch the 3D bit, they insisted on turning off the chair so it didint move!

Right lets see, DS was EBF til food and is still (14m) on one feed a day. He has possible asthma and a mystery allergy that made his face swell up. Once.

He went in a baby walker when he was little. He would have had to get up the stairs in it though, in order to fall down!!

Sleeping on your back can be bad for you, not the baby. If you need to lie on your back, put a pillow under your one hip so you're not completely flat.

Strawberries, peanuts etc etc etc, all only possibly a problem if you or your DP are allergic to them.

And my personal favourite...
In Britain there is no reason not to eat raw eggs (and this one includes mayonnaise!), all commercial chickens have to be vaccinated against salmonella by law

LikeACandleButNotQuite · 27/11/2011 21:36

I love it when people do face at me while I eat read: stuff into face chips dunked in Mayo.

I love their face more when I say "Hellman's only uses Lion Stamped, and they are vaccinated". I may well get it printed on a t-shirt along with a shit load of other lines I seem to have to use on a regular basis

WhereYouLeftIt · 27/11/2011 21:43

"If you sleep on your back it will cause the baby damage"
Never heard of that one - sounds like utter bollocks to me. (Spot the person who sleeps on her back ...)

My cats completely ignored my son, the cot net was discarded pretty quickly as surplus to requirements. And I dealt with their litter trays throughout pregnancy. (I do remember pointing out to the midwife - "I don't touch the stuff, that's what scoops and plastic bags are for." with an incredulous look on my face. "And besides, I've had them for 14 years, if they ever had it they've infected me long ago so they can't infect me again. )

Didn't Mrs Beeton insist on providing your wet nurse (she who breastfeeds your baby) a pint of stout a day?

AlpinePony · 28/11/2011 05:21

I don't get the jacuzzi thing either - although tbh I thought it was due to jets of air flying up your foof - which happens all the time right gals? The heat? Seriously, have any of you ever been in a public jacuzzi which was too hot? I don't take particularly hot baths (no red skin & sweating here thanks) and even I get nippy in public bathing areas.

I went to the sauna at the spa last time I was pregnant - and left. Not because I thought I was too thick to realise when I was hot/needed a drink - but because it was full of naked 80 year old men. :(

I'm reeling at the "don't go out in the rain". So if you can't get cold water on you, or hot - and possibly lukewarm is also chancing it - are you supposed to just sort of dab yourself down with a wetwipe throughout your pregnancy?

Missgiraffe1 · 28/11/2011 14:24

Spanx are babykillers!! (apparently).
I was at a Charity do on Friday night, was 16weeks+ 5 days, and have a wee bump. But to be honest, the growing midriff/hips/bum are as much to do with having eaten 2 breakfasts, 2 lunches, dinner and supper for the best part of the last 8 weeks. So, I wore my spanx. They're not unable to eat/breathe, make you pass out tight, just smoothes the lumps and bumps in the right places tight. You could still see my bump, I wasn't trying to hide it, and I could still breath!
Mentioned to one of my DH's colleagues wives when she commented on how well I was looking, and the look she gave me (followed of course by the inevitable "Should you really? Is that really safe?" And "Why would you want to hide your bump?") had me feeling like some kind of crazy, irresponsible mum!

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kiki22 · 28/11/2011 15:38

alpine my friend was told by her college lecturer (beauty) that you shouldn't use any type of chemical body cleaner, shampoo, wet ones etc while pregnant (including simple and johnstones baby) because the chemicals seep into your skin and can give your baby deformities!!

I'm sure amanda holden got flamed for wearing spanx while pregnant crazy if you ask me!

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