so when did you tell your parents/inlaws you were pg, and how did you do it?and what was there reaction?

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My mum was shocked. I told her at six weeks pg. I wasn't married - wedding was in three weeks. Felt very very sick and tired. I think she was just concerned about how I would cope with all the broo ha ha.

My in laws wanted me to tell everyone ds1 was prem so that it would look like I'd conceived him after we were married. However, at 9lbs 9 birth weight, I don't think that was going to wash!

I think my pil now realise that we do what we want and think is best regardless of what the neighbours think.

Live overseas so called both lots of parents after the 12 wk scan.

I told my mum I had some news and then said "You're going to become a Granny in September". She was v excited.

DH told MIL who said she knew because he kept complaining about having to clean out the cat litter

I only told my sister who got very drunk on my wedding day and told everyone, including...

Winky what is it with some of the old fashioned ideas that some people carry around these days. My PIL were gutted we weren't married. Despite the fact DHs older brother had already had a baby and not been married. I honestly think it was more what their friends would think rather than what they cared about.

My worst experience of telling someone was my SIL who was also just recently pregnant, and her first response to my news was "What, you're going to piss on my parade?!" I couldn't believe it! However, happily, most people's reactions were very positive. I think after you get married there is an uspoken thing that mother's are waiting for this 'next step' for their daughters.

I was just reading about women Kenya who are not allowed to tell anyone about their pregnancy. If they tell they think they'll be cursed by jealous barren women in the village. Have a look;

pregnancyandchildbirtharoundtheworld.blogspot.com/

My mum cried for 2 days when I told her I was preg with my first. But then I was 19 and had known my (now) husband for a month!

She was happier when told about 2 and 3!

MIL was visiting and had stopped with DH to get a bottle of wine. As they were choosing the bottle, MIL had said something about me drinking Merlot, so DH had started smiling. MIL had inhaled and gone "is she pregnant?". DH had said yes (whilst smiling) and she shrieked "AGAIN?" (DS was 18 months at the time I got pregnant, we've been together for 10 years and married for 3 years) and then complained that she'll have FOUR grandchildren, as if that's really horrible. DH just told her we're not expecting any financial or other support from her...

MIL hates me though, so I wasn't exactly thinking she'd be overjoyed. Strangely, she didn't mind us getting married, but when I got pregnant it all changed, as if I'd "trapped" her DS... I guess you can always get divorced, but you can't un-do children. She also told us (the first time around) that she's too young to be called a grandma, she was 65 at the time.

The reactions that upset me the most was a friend (who had encouraged me to TTC) looking really hacked off and saying "but you didn't even put your time in trying!" and my Dad replying to "you're going to be a Grandad" with "but your step-sister has just had a mc"... as if we'd got pregnant just because we're insensitive (I hadn't even known she'd been pregnant).

All in all, each time, we've ended up feeling like we should just keep the pregnancies and births quiet and not make too much fuss.

First time around 6 weeks, but next time after 12 weeks as want some peace from a pushy mil!