so when did you tell your parents/inlaws you were pg, and how did you do it?and what was there reaction?

[carriedababi]

Sadly we told them in a "looks like I'm having another miscarriage" kind of way - later the scan showed it didn't appear to be one.

Kind of puts a dampner on any big announcements when you've got the history we have.

Aww. I like threads like this.

We told our MIL/FIL last week (9ish weeks).

It was MIL's birthday and we took them out for a meal. We gave her two presents. One was a cashmere scarf. The second was a baby bib which said 'mine's a bottle of house white' with a baby bottle picture. We got it because they do like their wine. She totally didn't get it and started laughing saying it was too small for her.

SIL was sat next to me and got it immediately and gave me a big hug. Didn't stop talking about it all night.

I think we'll do something similar when we tell my mum.

First preg I only found out after first trimester, didn't believe the blood results or my GP when he said 'yup 14-16 weeks' - to be fair, when I looked shocked at him he said "Well, I'm just an old poof, what do I know about these things??", but then I went for a scan and believed it.

Couple days later I'd recovered enough to phone my parents who did the usual 'how are you, any news?' and I said 'er, actually, I'm pregnant'

Mum's first question was 'are you sure' - yes, I have a photo and all, followed by 'whose is it?' - I told her it was most likely that bloke's who's been hanging around for 15 years and I got married to five years ago!
MIL's reaction was "for goodness sake - you're worse than bloody buses!" To be fair, she'd waited 20 years for a grandchild and then ended up with 5 in a year. :) Ds is the youngest.

This time MrNC let it out to his mum when I was about 6 weeks so I thought I'd better call my parents before she did. She said 'can I tell your dad you think you're pregnant?' and I said I'm definitely pregnant, just tell him not to get too excited quite yet as it's early days.

Since the 12-week scan my dad has had a totally dopey grin on his face as ds is now the perfect age for a grandson (3 - able to have a conversation and be impressed by everything Grandpa does - and not need nappies!), and so he's now over the moon about getting another, whereas he was rather bemused the first time round.

my mum and dad are coming round later and i was thinking of saying to them, glad ive got you two aloneand your sitting down as ive got something to tell you....

while looking all serious, then do a big smile and say i'm pregnant

dh thinks it would be over dramatic, i thought i would add to the suprise[x factor style]

so what do you think, would that be a bit mean?

they are probably going to be prety shocked

I texted my parents (they live abroad) a nice poem telling about the pregnancy after my 20 week scan.

My husband told in-laws (also live abroad) at 21 weeks when they arrived for a visit. He wanted to keep it as a surprise :)

when I was PG with DD1, (I was only 18) my sister announced she was PG, then another sister, then my SIL was at my parents house, not smoking... and we both sat there staring at a plate of cheese and pate. Needless to say, I guessed she was PG too - she announced it the following W/e,,,, I waiting til I was 18 weeks. (my sister, SIL and mine babies all born within 2 weeks of eachother)

My mum gave me £20 and sent me to the pub to buy her a bottle of wine, then we sat and discussed it all, she was very very happy - and told me dad for me! Who called me and said "have you thought about all your options", I said "yes of course" and then he said "well if youre happy, im happy too and I love you" :) and he is the best grandpa any little girl could want.

With DD2 the circumstances were a lot better, I took my mum out some where for the day and in the car I asked her what she was doing in December on the 1st, she said "I dont bloody know thats ages away why?"
"because your 13th grand child is due!!"

Ah these stories are so lovely!
I rang my mum about eight times throughout the day just kept bottling it and asking if she was having a good day, in the end I told her and started crying, she kept asking if she should be happy as I was acting like she shouldnt be, I asked her honest opinion and she told me she was over the moon. (I dont know why I acted like that, he was planned)
I had only just found out, the doc thought I was about 12 weeks, turned out I was only 6 weeks, that night got rushed to hospital, I was pg with twins and one was ectopic. So we had to tell all our families as we couldnt explain why I was in hospital, DS was fine and our families adore him but it was a relief for everyone when he was born!

Out of the three pregnancies that haven't been mc, DD1 my Mum told me to test when I cried at Dr Who (tradition, Dr Who and curry at my Mums' house!), DD2...weirdly the exact same thing happened.

DD3 I rang her and told her that Dr Who had made me cry and I was going to test and let her know!

I didn't tell either of my parents. My mum guessed when I was 17/18 weeks pregnant. She was disapointed that I got pregnant at 17 and then that I didn't even tell her. I really didn't know what to say or how to say it, so I just didn't say anything and tried to hide it.

She made me make a doctor's appointment that day and came with me to my first few midwife appointments.

"OMG Hayley got herself pregnant"

I'm chuckling at this. Presumably she thinks you are a medical marvel and managed it all by yourself...

What I WANTED to do (and it would have just about worked out with the dates - apart from the mahoosive bleeding session that put a spanner in the works) was to send mum a "Happy Birthday Grannie" card with the scan photo in... knowing her she would have seen the front of the card and plotted murder for me making sarcastic comments about her age - then opened the inside.

My inlaws are visiting right now, and we haven't told them as I am only 6 weeks, I plan on getting off the plane with a bump at Xmas.

I will tell my mom via Skype when I am 12 weeks.

Love this thread, it's giving me so many ideas! I know that MIL and FIL will be completely over the moon about it. They know how much we want to start a family.

However my parents are hard work and still see me as their child (i'm 27!!!! and only child). So I just know they'll freak out. Mum will think we're stupid and not ready and dad will just think we're irresponsible. So i'm pretty scared about it. Am almost 8 weeks so time is ticking.

There's nothing that'll give it away either as i'm a T-total cheese hater who doesn't drink tea or coffee.

I keep thinking the best thing is to tell them that they are going to become grandparents for the first time in 6 months (as it takes the shine off me becomming a parent). But however we do it I know it's going to be tricky...

yes i thought that too, hayley must be a medical miricle to be able to get herself pg.
your dh could have replied well if hayley was able to get herself pregnant she'd probably be a millionaire

hayley that mil sounds like a nightmare, have you decied what to do regarding that letter?

hi carrie congratulations congratulations congratulations im so pleased for you and thanks for message, can i reply in priate too?

with dd1 we told my parents at 8 weeks and they were overjoyed, told inlaws at 12 weeks and they said "oh" which really disappointed me.

with dd2 we really wanted dd1 to be the first to know so waited till 12 weeks, told dd1 and then got her to tell gps, my parents were happy but said they guessed about 4 weeks earlier, inlaws shrieked "what" again they disappoint me.

when will you tell dd1 carrie?

hi family fun
thanks for the congratulations

feel free to private message me if you like

we said we would tell dd after 20 week scan only because it will see like an eternuty for her to wait, but i bet some twat will come along and say directly to dd, are you looking forward to having a brother or sister.
so i might tell her after the 12 week scan.
my boobs and tummy are swelling already
so i might look pg early!

dd tells people she has a brother, the bloody cat!
when ive asked dd in the past if she would like a brother or sister she says no!
lol

i might have guessed your inlaws reaction!

how are you doing ?
how are the dds and your dp?

We got my mum and mil a bOok about fun stuff to do with your grandchildren, wrapped it up and gave it to them. Was obviously a bit subtle as they both thought it was just a weird present and we had to explain it...!

Haven't broken it to my bump's furrry-brothers yet carrie but they are regularly having their little furry butts kicked by her whenever they're on/near my bump...you think they'd be suspicious by now. They just give the occasional "WTF WOMAN" look. Especially as there's less room on my lap. They are both enjoying my dreamgenii to snooze on though.

With DS1 I told my DM before DP. Oops! It was very early days and not Planned in any way, shape or form, mil and fil were told by DP at about 10 weeks. Apparently fil said, this is going to ruin your life son! (DP was 29 at the time) DS2 again I told DM quite early on and mil after 12 week scan. Went for a walk with her and DS1 and she said well you've got what you wanted now havent you? He's proposed and you're pregnant again! Nice. No congratulations no nothing! This time we're not telling anyone till after scan although may have to hide from them as I started showing pretty early last time.

God MILs can be total nightmares can't they?!

My dad guessed, because I happened to be at his house on the only day of my entire pregnancy I had slight morning sickness, so he twigged. And was delighted.

With MIL, as DS is her first grandchild, we sat her down and I said, with a really serious look on my face, "Now then MIL, you've got a very important decision to make." [Pause for dramatic effect.] "Do you want to be known as Granny or Grandma?" [Pause for MIL to get it, then much squealing.]

I like sweet threads like this. (Yes Iam replying at 4am, oh the joys of being 37 weeks pregnant !!!)
we told parents and in laws after the 12 week scan. I bought a couple of lovely gift boxes and pairs of baby booties and attached a little tag to them saying please save these for me until I can wear them in november and wrapped them up in box, also included envelope with scan picture. Gave box each to parents and in laws.
My mum squealed with excitement (first grandchild) other halfs mum was quite confused even after opening the scan picture so we had to actually spell it out for her ! (although his dad got it straight away and was just stood there grinning)

My parents live in Canada and I live in Africa, this time last year I was staying with them and I had a conversation with them about how it was unlikely that I would ever have children. July this year i phoned them to tell them some news, I made sure they were both listening and just blurted out "I'm pregnant" cue a loooooong silence (I was thinking Oh ok then) followed by much screaming! I think they had thought I was going to tell them i was getting married or something else entirely and totally shocked them! I havent seen them since last year but they are coming over to look after me for the last few weeks of my pregnancy and mum is going to be my birth partner (DP is not too keen) She cried when I asked her! I dont have a MIL but FIL apparently said "Oh bloody hell" when told but in a nice way and my SIL's both called me screaming down the phone. On the whole I think both families are very pleased with the news even though this will be grandchild number 5 on my side and number 10 on DP's side.
Op congratulations, tell your parents however you want, its your news!

I told my mum at 8 wks on the phone. Was going to wait til after 12wk scan, but she was a bit down and I thought it would cheer her up - 1st GC! "Mum, will you prefer to be know as Granny, or Nonna?" She squealed!

In laws were very quiet, then asked dh (in FRONT of me!) whether it was planned, and did I think now was a good time? Given we weren't earning much, and were living in a rental, and he's not very responsible... We're in our 30s, married, both working. What more do they want?

Honestly. My mum is MUCH nicer than his. I sympathise, Hayley.

Some lovely stories here!
I told my mum about an hour after I'd taken the test- I drove to her office just after I'd told babys dad. She was less than pleased as I hadn't been with my Childs father for very long and it was a less than stable relationship to begin with- needless to say we're not together anymore! I'm my mums only child and this is my first pregnancy. Being known as the "sensible one", I think everyone assumed I would get married and settle down before having kids. So bless my poor mum she cried for about 4 weeks straight! She just wanted more for me than to end up a single mother like she did. But I'm now 19+3 and she is the most excited grandmother to be ever! This experience has deffinately brought us closer and I'm loving every minute