Will I regret finding out the sex????HELP

[dewberry1]

I cant decide whether to ask the sex at my 20 week scan in January...I didnt find out with ds but this time i keep thinking it would be easier to prepare if I knew..(nursery, clothes etc) and also I could prepare my ds who desperately wants a brother...But I was watching Portland babies (im hooked)yesterday and their was a lady on their who said she regretted finding out..
Has anyone regretted it..Help!! I would like your advise.xx

I knew both times .. I loved knowing what it was .. I had the rationale that for half the pregnancy I didn't know for the other half I did and it let me focus on the baby as more of an individual

I didn't find out with either at 20 scan.

With the DS, second, had severe pains at 33 weeks and they did a scan, and I asked what something was - and the scanner said " thought you didn't want to know the sex" = question answered - Boy.

Actually really relieved, coz it gave me a chance to get used to the idea of a boy. And he is a wee darling, as is DD.

Children are often a PITA but I count my blessing everyday

2 glasses of wine, and I'm getting all soppy

My neighbour has 4 ds's and she said she found out on the 3rd and 4th so that when other people commented, "Oh, maybe this will be your little girl" she was immediately able to say no, that it was a boy and that she was perfectly happy, thank you very much!

I only found out with DS2 (4th child) - had amnio with him, with earlier kids (born 82, 85 & 88) scans were not nearly as sophisticated as they are now so there was no indication.

I was glad to find out - at c 20 weeks - because I really had hoped for a 3rd girl (don't tell DS2!) so it gave me lots of time to adjust and get attached to the idea of another boy (don't tell DS1 either!).

Found out with both (second DD due in 4 weeks) don't regret it at all.

Funnily enough, both dh and I were absolutely certain which sexes our children were before we had the scan.

Yes, Aloha, so were we. Wrong every time!

From a purely personal perspective i'm really glad we didn't find out. Everyone I know who did seems to already given the baby a name as well...I'm really loving the feeling of excitement of not knowing and of having the naming still to come! I just think i'd feel a bit "flat" if all this was already decided.

I saw a clairvoyant on the day before I conceived ds. She said I'd be pg very soon & it would be a boy. I'd have a girl too but there'd be a big age gap.
Anyway, didn't find out sex of ds but had it in the back of my mind he'd be a he. Nine years later.....pg again & had an amnio. Decided to find out sex as a reward for all the anxiety of having the amnio. It really made my pregnancy feel quite special. I felt I bonded with her long before she was born. And there was the joy of buying lots of scrummy pink clothes!

have found out this time but didnt with dd. Had amnio and got result from that - i just needed to know after the anxiety of the amnio iyswim. Dont regret it at all - already have dd and now i'm expecting a little boy!!

i didnt find out the sex of dd1 but i did want to see what sex dd2 was as i had a girl and just wanted to know what the baby was

I haven't read the other answers (sorry) but I suspect that if you are asking the question, then yes, you will regret it. We didn't ask, and I just thought of it as waiting for the best xmas present ever!!!

We chose to find out the sex (this is offered during the echograms down here in France) as we only have 3 days to register the birth and felt it would be good to reduce the name options by 50%!! I was a bit disappointed at the time as I had wanted a girl but I have put away my 'inner pink' and it has given me time to accept that he is a boy and bond with him. I now can't wait for him to arrive.

I found out last week that I'm having a boy. I didnt find out with dd but this time I just wanted to know. I really thought it was a girl and dd desperately wants a sister so I thought I'd find out if baby was willing.

He was very willing and 100% boy. I'm really glad that I found out because right away I could gather my thoughts and love the baby for who he is rather than who I thought she was. I'm not in any way disappointed I found out, but I think if I had no strong opinion either way then finding out might disappoint. Practically its been great too because I got tons of blue stuff in the sale and can pass all my pink stuff to my friend who has just had a girl.

I didnt find out with Ds, but only because I find the whole 'bonding' with a baby that isnt born yet quite scary!
The idea of naming someone who isnt born - for me this is weird. Maybe I would feel different 2nd time around.

I didnt regret it with the boys (2) and I am due my scan for my third baby next thursday where I will ask to find out again I am a bit more aprhensive this time but I definatly want to know it really haelped my oldest boy bond with his brother

I never have

I like surprises though

don't really believe people who say they do it as it is practical

Think I am over superstitios, yes! Felt weird getting xmas presents for 'the bump' too!