If one more person says that, I'll &*%% them!!!

[Chloe55]

Just have to have a rant - I am tired, very very tired. I am 32 weeks pg, have had back issues since about 16 weeks, get up to pee about 6 times a night, prob get on average 3/4 hours broken sleep a night and then come and do a full time job.

I am sick of work colleagues commenting that if I think I'm tired now wait until the baby comes. This all maybe the case but at least I will have a reason for getting up in the night other than to crawl in agony to the toilet, at least I will be spending the day with my wonderful child (no matter how noisy/hard work it will be) instead of these patronizing people.

• I'm sorry for this rant but I just can't face another 7 working days of this or I will go insane!!!!!!!!!!!!

If it's any consolation Chloe55, you will find no end of energy once baby gets here and it will all be worth it...I was same as you but definietly felt more tired whilst pregnant rather than with newborn!

God I'm sorry I sound like such a whiner don't I!

they are teling the truth though

Not at all, I am 28weeks with my 2nd and have been crying most of today (with no reason!)...it's your hormones and lack of sleep...just give em a slap and blame pregnancy!

Thanks Lizzy, I think I will cope better with the sleep depravation when you have a 'reason' for it. I just want to slap people who think they know better than you because they have been there, done that. I can't stand being spoken to like a child!

Sod off OliveOil or you will feel the wrath of a lady with hormones running high!!!!!!!

OI! Don't mess with me, I have a 16 month old that won't sleep and am fed up.

Without wishing to be rude, coping with sleep deprivation isn't easier once you have a reason for the sleep deprivation. I didn't find it was, anyway - the first couple of months are hell on legs. Maybe your colleagues aren't trying to be patronising or treat you like a child - maybe they're just trying to prepare you for what may be to come. I wish someone had done the same for me - it might have made the first couple of months easier to cope with if I'd known that it was going to be so hard.

Chloe55 - They're all right.

runs

Ok, ok, don't be mean as like Lizzy I could also cry at any given opportunity!! I can only ever be nasty to DH anyway

To be honest - I know you are all right! I think my main problem is that my boss is a w*ker so anything that comes out of his mouth is (in my eyes) a dig at how crap I will cope with motherhood. I guess that's the hormones again though!

it IS easier in some ways when you have the darling angel cause of sleep deprivation to gaze lovingly at....& run after all day long doing X Y Z when all you really want to do is SLEEP - & all baby wants to do is whinge...

but i agree that after the birth you'll prob have loads more energy than atm - but 6/8/10 mths down the line ZZZZZZ. IME at least!
get some kip now while you can!

Actually I think they're talking out of their **s, or don't have children, or don't remember what it's like to have a newborn. Yes, you're knackered, but IME - having lived with back problems and having had SPD and mega-fibroid, having fallen arches and having had problems with my stitches - you're in a heck of a lot less pain afterwards than at the end of pregnancy, and the time you have for sleep gets used by sleep, rather than by peeing, drinking and pain. Feedign at night can be very easy, easier than during the day, and you are in a haze of delightful hormones. Plus, you don't have to do anything other than look after yourself and the baby (as long as you have someone else on hand to help with ayny other children), whereas at work you have to be up and doing and wide-awake all the time.

everyone finds it hard at first, doesn't mean you are crap, just normal.

I could cry too, I have a moody dh and a baby that doesn't know that bed means bed.

Dd1 is good though, so I must be doing something right.

Ask your boss how often he got up in the night sorting out a newborn HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA, not much I would guess.

i'm with lizzy - give em a good slap and then blame the hormones! lol. today must be the day for PG hormones - is it something in the water?

I'm going on maternity leave on Friday to my 20mo DS - will be 36 weeks pg on Saturday.

And I know it's easier at work and pregnant, but I can't WAIT to meet my baby and I really, really want to be able to eat a big pile of chocolate (midnight weeing doesn't bother me, but gestational diabetes is a bugger)!

CHloe, my DS slept 5hours at a time from 1st week and straight through from about 5 weeks....so I actually found that better than being pregnant!
You may do too! Or not, either way, they are being annoying!

OK, here is a list of things people will say to piss you off:

1. If you think you're tired now, just wait till the baby comes.
2. Is he/she sleeping through yet?
3. She/He must have a sore tummy. (Said whenever the baby cries regardless.)
4. At least with formula you know how much they're getting.
5. Where is he/she on the chart?
6. Just wait till s/he's crawling, that's when the trouble starts!
7. Just wait till s/he's walking that's when the trouble starts!
8. Can't you just get a babysitter?

And so it goes on....Just ignore them. FWIW I thought all the above were crap, but next time round will know to have a stock answer/facial expression prepared.

I found pregnancy tiring in a miserable sort of way, and having the baby there tiring in a shellshocked yet completely bearable sort of way. Your body makes you run on adrenaline or something for the first few weeks/months and though, looking back, I can't believe I did it, it was somewhere between ok and enormously enjoyable at the time, depending on the time of day/amount of alcohol I'd had.

Oooh I don't know actually Olive - his wife def wears the trousers so she probably whipped him out of bed at the sound of a baby cry - that's why he comes to work and thinks he can speak to women like shit coz God forbid if he put a foot out of line at home!

lol Pruni

Sleep deprivation is hell and has you on your knees at times BUT I'd still rather have a newborn than be pregnant.

Fantastic Pruni - thanks for the advice in advance. I'll prepare my fixed smile for said occassions. Poor DH - it's him who's actually feeling my anger at the mo. I actually have a boss box at home where I have to deposit a pound everytime I slag off work (which will eventually go on nappies!)

I used to hate it when people said 'oh try to get as much sleep as you can now, as you won't get it when baby comes...'

Eh?? As if you can somehow hibernate during pregnancy and be happily awake when you have given birth!!

It is lovely having a baby to blame for tiredness rather than bladder etc... but they mean well and for me (for the first six weeks anyway!) they were right!