If one more person says that, I'll &*%% them!!!

[Chloe55]

Just have to have a rant - I am tired, very very tired. I am 32 weeks pg, have had back issues since about 16 weeks, get up to pee about 6 times a night, prob get on average 3/4 hours broken sleep a night and then come and do a full time job.

I am sick of work colleagues commenting that if I think I'm tired now wait until the baby comes. This all maybe the case but at least I will have a reason for getting up in the night other than to crawl in agony to the toilet, at least I will be spending the day with my wonderful child (no matter how noisy/hard work it will be) instead of these patronizing people.

• I'm sorry for this rant but I just can't face another 7 working days of this or I will go insane!!!!!!!!!!!!

We went out for a meal and the owner of the restaurant asked if I was having twins as I was "So huge"...DH had to clamp my mouth shut before I asked her why she'd put so much bloody make up on!
It's so rude and so personal and does nothing to make a woman feel good...I much prefer the "You're blooming/blossoming/glowing" They may well think the same as tarty restauranter but it sounds much nicer!

Mind you, I'd prefer "you're so huge" to "you're so small, is there something wrong?" which was what I got.

Hmm... "yes I'm huge, but by the end of February I'll have lost a stone. How much do you think you will have managed to lose by then?"

They are absolutely right. I have had two non-sleeping children.

Sorry - that was in response to original post!

It doesn't matter if they are right or not though, they shouldn't say it! It is not helpful. Knowing things are going to get worse does not help you feel better now. Aaaagh.

And its such a smug, patronising thing to say. Unless they've not had kids yet, in which case they are just asking to have kids that don't sleep for 3 years.

Agree with everything said here! Unfortunately (I can say this after 12 years of motherhood) you better get used to 'helpful' comments (annoying as they are) because they've only just begun...

Only read the first few messages, but yes, ime you are right - it is sooo much easier to go without sleep when you can see and cuddle the reason for it.

If you were to thump your work people, then you'd be able to finish earlier

Oh yes I have had two non-sleeping babies as well - although one was a colicky, crying, non-sleeping one and the other wasn't. But definitely after the second pregnancy I felt infinitely better than I did during it. And on the positive side I have had two great sleeping toddlers.

Total sympathy - I hate those unthoughtful comments from unpregnant unthinking so called work mates. At my leaving do, I was mortified to sit around a table with my line manager, (very respectable older bloke), and about ten others, mainly women. The conversation started with how my bump had grown unbelievably big, how hard it was to the touch (I HATED people rubbing my stomach without asking - or even asking) and ended up with two of them jokingly discussing how big my boobs had got and whether they would shrink back after the baby! OMG I was mortified, these were the people I had worked with for years but they weren?t like my closest buddies and we weren?t having a girly sleepover, it was a sober working leaving lunch - it was as if being pregnant divorced me from being a person with feelings and a mere curiosity or even a science experiment for the blokes. I remember feeling very hot cheeked, rushing to the loo and sitting on the loo for ages in tears of sheer embarrassment. When I came out, tear streaked, they all thought I was sad to be leaving!!! One bloke even muttered something about hormone,s the git.I left and didn?t speak to hardly any of them again - w@nkers!!

Yes, ok, many new mums find the first month or so heavy going in the lack of sleep department but those precious moments when you are bathing them, or feeding them and they gaze up adoringly at you, the first little gurgle or pure joy, the tiny smile etc etc makes every night worth getting through, however hard it is

Oh I HATE the 'you're so big' comment! It's driving me mad! One of my workmates (who I've moaned about in previous thread) says 'Ooooh, you'd better be careful you know' every single time I eat something (she's borderline anorexic, size 6, considers eating to be a sin. I'm normally a size 10, but love eating and am NOT going to diet while I'm pregnant!) And when I mention that I've been throwing up all night every night since I was 6 weeks (I'm 16 wks now), colleagues who say 'well, you won't get any sleep when you've got the baby either'. Well, no. But at least I won't have my head down the toilet all night. GRRR!

Just wait until you meet up with a group of old friends, whom you haven't seen for about 6 years, and one of them says to you, "Oh wow! You're on number 2 already! When are you due?" And you have to reply "Six months ago!".

Just say it with a huge smile, and let them be the one blushing.

That's not as bad as being 7months pg and telling someone at work your going on maternity soon, with them replying. "Your pregnant! You've hidden that well."

Chloe, I hated being pg. Ds2 was not a good sleeper (still isn't brilliant), but the sleep after he was born was fantastic. OK, so I haven't had a full night's sleep in a year and a half. But the 1st 9 months of that was because I was lying awake in the middle of the night unable to sleep, having to heave my body over, being uncomfortable and trying to find a position that didn't hurt to much. The 7 months since ds2 was born I also haven't slept through the night, but that is because from time to time I have to go and cuddle a crying baby. Straight after that I get in my bed and go back to sleep. I still think how blissful it is to be able to be asleep without the pain and insomnia!

And you no longer have people saying, "wow, you're really big", "should you really be eating that/drinking that/driving that?", "you must be ready to drop now".

But you do get to answer "is s/he a good baby?". To which I told the truth (yes with ds1, no with ds2, which they didn't like), but to which I wish I'd ever had the guts to say "I find that at 4 weeks he has an underdeveloped sense of morality and so it is hard to ascertain whether he is good or not."

Dont you hate it when people spout that crap at you, if I even mentioned I was tired at work I always got comments like "your pregnant,not ill!" or "when my girlfriend/wife was pregnant" - it was so effing irritating. I felt like saying I am not your girlfriend and I dont give a sh5t!
Most comments did come from men who do not have a CLUE how women feel. Or from old biddies who seem to have forgotten their experience and replaced it with some rubbish stories that blatantly did not happen.
JUST IGNORE AND SAY "REALLY?"
and imagine them working away whilst you are having a cup of tea in a cafe with some new friends and your lovely babies!

Haven't read all thread but I agree with LizzylouDonkey. I think it is more tiring being pregnant than after the baby is born. I always looked crap when I was pregnant. So many people said to me after the baby was born 'You look so much better now'. Yeh, because I haven't got a baby inside me sucking me dry!

So Chloe55, do not fret. You may feel tired when the baby is around but I bet you won't feel as tired as you do now. So chin up girly. Nearly there!

When I was pregnant with dd2 I was really worried because I felt so tired and thought "How will I cope if I feel like this when the baby is born."
But when she was there I felt much, much better.

What helped me was breastfeeding/co-sleeping, no need to get up in the night, just pop onto breast and carry on snoozing.