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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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If one more person says that, I'll &*%% them!!!

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 14:29

Just have to have a rant - I am tired, very very tired. I am 32 weeks pg, have had back issues since about 16 weeks, get up to pee about 6 times a night, prob get on average 3/4 hours broken sleep a night and then come and do a full time job.

I am sick of work colleagues commenting that if I think I'm tired now wait until the baby comes. This all maybe the case but at least I will have a reason for getting up in the night other than to crawl in agony to the toilet, at least I will be spending the day with my wonderful child (no matter how noisy/hard work it will be) instead of these patronizing people.

I'm sorry for this rant but I just can't face another 7 working days of this or I will go insane!!!!!!!!!!!!

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WigWamBam · 14/12/2005 14:54

Pruni, you forgot the one that will come in about six months time ...

"When are you going to give her a little brother?"

hunkermunker · 14/12/2005 14:55

WS, LOL! I wish you could stockpile sleep - how handy would that be! I'd still be living on teenage lie-ins

SilentBite · 14/12/2005 14:56

ooh no give me pregnancy over a newborn any day!

poor you re your tosspot boss!

PruniStuffing · 14/12/2005 14:59

WWB Yes I had forgotten that one. Or the more patronising 'The best present you can ever give a child is a sibling' repeated round about this time year after year...

Chloe I vow that next time I will just lie whenever anyone asks me if the baby sleeps through, because if you say 'not yet' you get so much crappy advice and it all feels like a comment on your parenting.

Bozza · 14/12/2005 15:02

I do think it is a bit much when men go on about how you feel in late pregnancy in an unsympathetic way. First time round I think being heavily pregnant was easier than my newborn. Second time round having a newborn and a 3yo was definitely easier than being heavily pregnant and having a 3yo.

It depends on the pregnancy and the baby.

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 15:04

Was I really looking forward to all this so much? I am of course only joking. I can not wait to have this baby, I am soooooooo excited but am slightly more concerned that I seem just as excited about the prospect of finishing work I'm already a bad mum aren't I?!!

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 15:07

I must admit DH and I said in an ideal world we would love 2 children, however, I honestly don't know how you guys have coped with a toddler or two and being pg - I only have myself to consider at the moment but am still a miserable cow! Like you say though Bozza I guess every pg is different and once I'm through childbirth I guess I'll cope with anything (another thing I'm constantly told!)

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OComeOliveFaithfOil · 14/12/2005 15:07

...or people will say their baby is sleeping through but when you dig a bit deeper they mean 11pm - 2am. That's a f'ing nap!

motherinfurrierfestivehat · 14/12/2005 15:11

I nearly hit my midwife when she told me to "relax and enjoy the end of my pregnancy" - yeah, right, I feel like a bloated whale, I'm staggering around with SPD, I have no idea what I'll do with my existing child when I go into labour...

...but actually I found the absolute worst - am clearly not Pruni - was the people who would look at me as I staggered along with my recently-born, looking like a baggy hippopotamus, feeling as if I'd been knocked down by a bus, wondering just why oh why I'd ever turned my perfectly nice life inside out for this - and would say sanctimoniously "enjoy it while it lasts"

NoRoosmumAtTheInn · 14/12/2005 15:13

chloe, i think i was mostly ok when pg - it's now, 10 mths on with a non-sleeping ds, that i'm a miserable, moody cow!

i wish you a lovely sleeping babe & then you will feel fab & yes will cope with all things!

PruniStuffing · 14/12/2005 15:23

MI You are right. People should just say 'Nice kid, you look great' and leave it at that.

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 15:27

Another one I'm getting at the mo? So when's it due? Erm 13th Feb. Oh wow! I wasn't even as big as you at full term.........Cheers!

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SnowQueenVictoria · 14/12/2005 15:27

Say what you like to people at work who say crass things.

You'll be off for 6 months and they'll have forgotten it by the time you go back, if you go back

NoRoosmumAtTheInn · 14/12/2005 15:29

pruni, that would actually be worth hearing!

Bozza · 14/12/2005 15:29

OOh yes Chloe I got that loads. And "are you having twins?" Used to get those two off shop assistants all the time. DS was born 20 Feb so I was at about the same stage as you while doing the Christmas shopping.

GemgleBells · 14/12/2005 15:32

FWIW I hated being pg. I had morning sickness 24hours a day for 37weeks. Although it was mainly background noise for most of that, ie: I could move more than 10 paces from a bucket, I remember trying to remember how it felt not to wake up feeling sick, had to fight to get to sleep as feeling sick ect. Definetly prefered having a newborn for that reason.

The saying that confused me more than drove me mad was "Don't worry about labour - it's not as bad as you think it is." I wasn't worried about labour though, and by the end of my pg I was being to wonder what they were hiding.

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 15:33

Hmmmmm Christmas shopping, now that's one thing I've attempted twice, failed miserably at so am sending DH with a list!

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colditz · 14/12/2005 15:42

Chloe55, I had a hideous late pregnancy and a lovely newborn, and he just got better and better as he got older. I am having another hideous pregnancy (O just don't cope well with pregnancy)

Yes you mtght have to get out of bed more often, but it will be a lot easier to get out of bed then than when you are 40+ weeks pg.

However, make the most of being hormonal enough to get away with throwing things at people.

Simplyred · 14/12/2005 15:46

In my expereince having the baby so much better than the pregnanacy - like you I was getting so little sleep - now I sleep well and dd only 12 weeks xxxx

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 15:57

It is lovely and refreshing to hear how many of you found newborns more of a joy than pregnancy. You always hear how much hard work having a baby is and how little sleep you get and how you run on auto-pilot for months which is all undoubtedly true to an extent but no-one warns you how much the end of pregnancy sucks. Yeah, you expect to feel sick at the beginning and have no energy but who ever tells you about the backache/SPD/endless toilet trips/acid indigestion/fatigue? I will stop feeling sorry for myself now as this was my decision at the end of the day but I feel so much better being able to share these things with people who actually 'know'!

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fruitful · 14/12/2005 16:09

Ooh, my ds will be 1 on 13th Feb! Feeling all gooey now...

I found the newborn phase easier than the end of pg, partly because you expect to be tired with a newborn. And partly because it didn't matter if my brain wasn't functioning. It got tricky around 6 months because by then I expected to be getting some sleep again and I wasn't!

Try this for a response - "shut up you fat idiot! and if you think I'm hormonal now, just wait until the baby comes".

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 16:11

fruitful!

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Bozza · 14/12/2005 16:14

When DD was born it was so delicious to just be able to lay in bed and be comfortable. I didn't experience this with DS because I had a harder labour, episiotomy etc and so was much sorer.

hunkermunker · 14/12/2005 16:18

Chloe, that size commenting thing pees me off totally - I'm very tempted to say to people who say "Aren't you big?" "I'd never noticed before, but cor, not much point you wearing a bra, is there?"

Either that or "Can you actually get padded y-fronts, because I rather think you need them."

Some people seem to think it's OK to comment on a woman's size as soon as she gets a positive pregnancy test. Tw*ts.

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Chloe55 · 14/12/2005 16:22

DH told me a funny story the other day - he said that a woman at his work was getting everyone to have a feel of her 'baby bump' when she announced she was preggers. The lady in question has always been on the large side so DH asked her how many weeks she was (expecting 16-20 or something) and she proudly said 7 weeks today! I thought ah bless, she's been letting everyone have a feel of her flab

Like the replies you are coming up with - just wish I could have the guts to actually use one!

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