Finding out the sex

[hairylights]

we are hoping to find out if were having a boy or a girl at our scan next week. I have had several people (friends and colleaues) ask if we know yet (wish I hadn't said "yes" when they asked if we would find out)

Do you think it's a bit odd that people would assume we will tell them, when we know. I don't want to tell the world ... If close family members want to know we'll tell them, but I feel a little that people in general would expect us to tell them just because we know.

might have been this one

I agree with duelling. We didn't find out the sex because we genuinely want to find out on the big day. Personally I don't understand why you want people to share in a surprise that wasn't a surprise to you iyswim?

BUT, as with all these things it's your baby so I'd just go with the line that you couldn't find out because this thread shows that it is a controversial subject at times.

Anyway, my reason for posting was to recall when DH's cousin found out she was having a girl and told everyone and my MIL said 'i don't agree with people finding out, I don't want to know, I want a 'surprise''. How rude is that??!!!

She's actually very nice normally but went completely weird over this. Of course I put my foot in it and referred to their 'darling little girl' ages before she was born.

We had our 20 week scan yesterday, already having a DD and a DS we are not bothered what we have, but I don't want to know as I like the " it's a ....." moment and getting to tell everyone.
DH on the other hand was desperate to know and we asked the sonographer to look and just tell him afterwards. I have no problem with him knowing, after all it is his baby too, but made him swear to not tell me or anyone else and trust him to do so.
Definately don't let on to other people that you know the sex but arn't saying, as they will just try to trip you up.

Well I guess that showed me - 20 week scan today and baby's cord was in the way, and s/he had her/his hand over the vital parts! so we don't actually know anyway!

benne81 LOVE the link, too funny.

I bet hairy knows, and she not telling us......
Sods law hairy, baby heard all the commotion and put an end to it ;)

Now, is that what actually happened, or are you practising your cover story for your colleagues...?

I can't understand why people get such a bee in their bonnet about this issue?

I started a thread months ago, about finding out sex. i didn't want to, and DH did.
OMG, I got such a slagging off for saying I was going to do what I wanted ( in a nicer way)

I think people ask, like everyone says - just to be polite, and make idol chit chat.
I always ask - but not really bothered what anyone else is having tbh

However, a friend did find out, but wouldnt tell us. we were all a bit pissed off with her. but looking back, i think it's because we felt like she was keeping a secret from us, and no body likes to be left out?
I havn't found out for any of my 3, as i love a suprise, and enjoy peoples reactions when i tell them what weve had.

I think the less stressed way, that won't upset your loved ones ( stuff the strangers ), would be to say, you want them to have a nice suprise on the day.
Or like others have said - tell a white lie, and say you couldn't tell?
Don't forget, they do get the scans wrong sometimes too!!

You misunderstand. We will tell our loved ones - but not colleagues and acquaintances.

I don't understand why people get a been their bonnet about someone wanting to know themselves but not wanting to tell all and sundry.

Just seen your last entry, didn't see it before.
so little one was hiding eh!!!

Hope some of the earlier posters don't get back on here acting all smug.
Very odd that you can start a thread and some people seem to want an argument

There's always the baking powder test, or ring test to know for sure