I'm due in 8 days and my husband is self employed so if he takes paternity leave, we basically go down the toilet. I thought I had prepared for this by saving and paying this month's rent in advance, but of course something has gone wrong.
He hadn't set up a direct debit properly when we moved, so unbeknownst to us, the car insurance got cancelled. This meant we had to restart it (with a big payment) and pay off money we thought we had already paid. It's screwed us so much that we literally haven't been able to go to the supermarket for food this week and are living on scraps from the freezer.
Added to which the main place he works for (where we get the majority of our money) have a work experience boy in, and have been letting him do the jobs my husband would normally do for extra cash, because of course they don't have to pay for the work experience boy. I am so angry about this, they know we have a baby on the way and are deliberately letting my husband miss out on extra money.
If baby came today, I just don't know what we'd do. We have several big bills to pay next week so even if baby holds off til then I'm not sure how we're going to eat. I have an older DS who will need to be looked after if I'm in hospital and ... this just isn't what I wanted.
We have scrimped and saved so much over the past few months so that DH could have some time off to spend with the new baby, and it's just gone. My mum has said she will take some time off, but she can't have much as she's on a temp contract and won't get paid either.
Sorry, I know there's no answer to this, but I can't really discuss it with anyone here as DH is under enough pressure and there's nothing I can do to change it. Just wanted to put it down really. Thanks for reading.