scan says it's a boy. Help!!

[allycotownofbethlehem]

my 20-wk scan revealed it's a boy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As the mother of four DDs I am absolutely petrified. I thought it was only possible for me to have girls and I think I am in shock. I have so many questions (mostly stupid) about boys and a lot pf preconceived ideas (possibly also mostly stupid) about boys and their behaviour. Worrying me mostly today is: when changing a boy where does the nappy cream go - does it go on the little willy and balls or not?

AND

do boys really love their mums more than girls (hope so as all my DDs are hopelessly daddy's girls)

AND

do all DSs run around the playground hitting their friends and not reading books and doing their homework and generally being immature?

OMG I need help ladies. Mums of DSs, please tell me how lovely they are and that I will be okay (and where to put the bloody cream !)

Have a little girl and a little boy currently and both are adorable. Little boy is 19 months so too soon to be an authority on the subject of boys - but I have observed:

*Dd was / is a bit more needy and insecure than ds

*Ds is very affectionate and loving and adores cuddles (dd does too, but to a lesser extent)

*Ds is definitely cheekier and naughtier than dd (deliberately goads her for example, by running off with her toys to get a rise out of her)

*Ds is more resistant to being told off - it doesn't bother him if I tell him off, whereas dd crumples into floods of (genuine not contrived) tears

*Ds appears to have an innate love of things with wheels!

Sorry, make that 4 big sisters! What on earth are you worried about, lol? After four it'll be a walk in the parkand lots of girls to help out too...I doubt you'll get a look in - they'll all be wanting to play with him

My ds has always been the most adorable gorgeous creature - never hitting, never being a tyrant.
He is 12 now

I have a girl followed by a boy -main thing I'm noticing is how differently they've played. DS banged things together as soon as he could pick up 2 objects and learned to throw much sooner! He also tends to plough through/over things rather than crawling/walking round them!
Saying that, he is also very sweet and caring and takes an interest in "feeding" and cuddling his sisters dolls etc.
Having big sisters is a bonus IMHO !

Good point, after 4 kids what you don't know about mothering Ally is not worth knowing!

Ds is definitely a more affectionate and more cuddely (sp? looks wrong) baby than dd was - he loves being held and cuddled (mainly by his mum )

HMC -just read you post and have to agree about the "cheeky" element. Also my DS also knows EXACTLY how to get his sisters attention too -they are very clever at working out how to do a wind up!

I have 2 ds's and no dds.

ds1 is 3 and is a mommys boy, he loves reading and drawing, he loves cooking and is sociable with loads of mates, i havent noticed any 'typical' boy behaviour (but then i believe that its stereotyping that lead to boys having 'different' behaviours to girls by the way we treat them and expect them to behave) he loves his dolly and also his cars.

ds2 (age 20 months) is a daddys boy, he is so snuggly and cuddly, he also loves colouring (on the walls mainly)

the two of them play fighting and rolling around the floor but they also play really nicely together too.

Definatly watch out for the fountian when you take the nappy off! and i also agree that boys clothes arnt as nice as girls either.

Oh how exciting for you!

Boys are lovely and so very affectionate, thats what I have found with boys. I seem to be closer to DS than DD, she is definitely for her Daddy. Its nice when DS climbs on my knee around 6.45 and rubs the back of his hand along my arm and says "luff you Mummy, bed now"

Makes you feel so warm inside

His attention span isn't great though and prefers pictures in books to the stories.

Loves to pretend he's Peter Pan and Daddy is Captain Hook.

congratulations! ive got 2 boys and a girl, love em all just the same cos they're all my tribe boys like rough and tumble, noise,throwing,climbing,and FIGHTING! they're just one big bundle of fun, enjoy! but they do like to snuggle down with mummys and enjoy reading books aswell.just put the cream on the sore bits and you can't go far wrong with that.

I have to agree about the clothes by the time he gets to two he'll be in beige and khaki camoflage - yuk I try to buy my ds lots of girls clothes in yellow orange and red minus the flowers and girlie things.

My son is aces he is a total loony but girls can be like that too, you may end up having the most chilled out little fella. my ds's fave thing is to read and be read to. Congratulations,what a lucky little lad, your little girls are going to spoil him rotten!

boys are just the best. you will adore having a different experience. Boys do love their mums incredibly.

You lucky thing!

Congrats, Ally!

Can't add any advice, I grew up w/only a sister, who has two girls and have a dd myself. .

I'm convinced DB is another girl. I'd be REALLY shocked if there were ever a boy in the family.

I'm sure you'll be fine.

Congratulations.
boys are lovely. I felt the same way but then I had one. He is gorgeous and definitely a mummy's boy - very affectionate. More boisterous than my daughter but hey!

True about treating them like puppies; feed them well, give them plenty of exercise and hugs and they thrive!

Lucky you

are they really that different? everything the mums of boys have said here could equally apply to one or more of my dds.

If this next baby is a boy I don't think I will go into it being freaked out - treat 'em ALL like puppies is my motto - food, exercise and hugs work brilliantly for all children, not just boys.

well I went off for my lunch break and came back and nearly cried. What lovely posts.

Still worried about to cream or not to cream though - with DDs I always just put it everywhere, every time....

And aren't the boy's bits REALLY BIG when they are born, or is that just something I've madre up?

Congratulations! Babies are such a blessing regardless of their gender. You will love having a son and your daughters will spoil him rotten!

As far as your questions go, I think that most people have already answered but I wanted to add that all children have their own little personalities. We have 2 really calm, book-loving boys and a fire-cracker of a little girl! I have far more trouble convincing DD (6) to do her homework than I do with DS1 (8). DS2(3) loves nothing more than to snuggle up with me, DH or his big brother and read books. Both boys will sit and colour endlessly as well.

I am expecting number 4 and while DD would love to have a sister, I am secretly hoping that if it is a girl that she is far more calm than her big sister! Another DS would suit me just fine! Feel compelled to add that if our 3 are every physically fighting it is either DD or DS2 (who is only 3) that instigates. Not all boys are physical/fighting types.

I have a friend who has 3 DSs and then a DD and it is her much longed for DD that keeps her running during the day and awake at night worrying.

I think the different thing about boys is that they just have so much energy and madness in the morning. my ds1 is like a huge testosterone fluff ball from about 7am. he just runs around crazily until worn out. from what I've seen of girls they are a little calmer and normal. having said that what do I know I am mother to 2 boys. my friend bought my sons an easter egg painting kit. she is mother to 2 girls.

Boys are great, I've got 2 already and people keep saying that they hope this one will be a girl...... Ii drives me mad, I'm quite happy with my boys and am not sure I'd know what to do with a girl! I didn't use cream so have no idea where to put it.

BossCat - calmer and normal don't come into it for my two youngest DDs!!!!

I would like a book-loving boy who sits on my knee and cuddles up. Bet I don't get that though (my DDs don't do it )

Congratulations

Cream goes all over - well I have always put it all over on ds and my boy mindees

When the surgeon told me "it's a boy" me and DH both said "a boy?" like he'd said "it's a giraffe". A boy? What, like, a boy? You mean, boy, as in B O Y? Took us ages to register the fact as I fully expected another girl.

He is a delight, cute as a button, huggable, funny. All the things DD was and is. (But there's a secret little scrumptiousness about a boy I never thought I'd feel until he arrived!).

Aw allyco - congratulations! I've just had a ds, after spending the last 6 years with two dds. I too was terrified at the thought of having a boy (didn't know until he was born) - but can honestly say that I am loving it! I haven't noticed any difference from having baby girls yet (apart from the obvious - I'll come back to that in a mo) - people keep saying "oh that's boys for you" but honestly, he is just like the girls so far!

(if you are anything like me you will find dealing with willies quite fascinating - never handled one so much in my life before)

I love ds just as much as the girls - remember he is your child first, and a boy second

Congratulations! Boys are great and very straightforward.

The best quote I ever heard about boys was from Twiglett who said,

'Having boys is like having a dog. They need at least 2 hours exercise a day!!'

And she is right. Boys do need lots of exercise even if it is just running round the park!

My ds is much easier to deal with, and always has been, than my dd.

She is hard work.

My ds loves books, doing his homework and seems very mature for his age.

Congratulations!