would you ask for money?

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am 24 weeks with dc 1. very exciting. Been generously given more than enough clothes by a friend of DP. So kind of her. have been washing and drying, folding and stacking for days! Have filled the wardrobe and there's still a mountain on the floor of cute things. My question is... when i do the birth announcement (by email) do you think I can get away with saying something like - 'have more than enough baby clothes, so don't need any more, but cash for the baby's trust fund account would be most appreciated if you want to contribute something'. Could I get away with this - is there a better way to say it - or is asking for cash an issue?? Just don't know where I could put clothing and really don't need any more!!

Well I asked several of my close friends what they wanted - and fortunately they were kind enough to tell me! They were people who I wanted to spend £50-75 on so I wanted to make sure i bought something they really needed/wanted.

But for just friends rather than very close friends, sorry but i would buy them an outfit and small toy without asking.

I got a nappy cake from work - it was bizarre. But it came with a little fleece blanket that I used and used and used - so I have a high opinion of nappy cakes as a result!

I dont think in a birth announcement you should be inviting people to buy baby gifts...it should only be an announcement! Thats only my opinion of course..

God no way would I feel comfortable doing that. Maybe if asked by family, maybe at a push and still wouldnt like it. Maybe (if you are actually asked about gifts) a suggestion to put towards something like a big item that u need and maybe they could club together and get u. people will want to buy u gifts....we didn't want anyone to buy us stuff and made it clear that we didnt expect it. we set ourselves up for all newborn bits and don't know sex plus didn't want to be overloaded with neutral newborn stuff. For those that insisted that they had to buy something we left them to decide themselves saying not to worry we didn't expect them to buy anything.... We ended up being made things or being bought nappies for baby once bigger, house safety kits, clothes hangers etc nothing expensive but helpful. Keepsake books... Only a couple of people bought clothes so I wouldn't assume people will only buy clothes in fact most people don't want to buy clothes I've found. So far we have been bought great items, vouchers and neutral bits for later months that we never would have thought of. Great Lamaze toys, teething things, muslin cloths,

Never would I ask outright for cash or send something out which sounds like expecting gift especially cash. I don't think this is your intention to sound like demanding u r simply doing what people do at weddings however I am sure less people will find that acceptable for a baby....as this thread proves!

Do u have a nursery theme? Maybe ( if asked) .....suggest for items from that range or theme?