anyone due June 2004?

[hana]

I thought for sure someone else would have posted this before me! I am 5 weeks along (sounds so insignificant.....) and am seeing my doctor tomorrow to get things going. Am really excited and am hoping that things go well! According to those pregnancy charts, my edd is June 12.
So come on mumsnetters, who else is joining me here?!

hana
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Had my 20 week scan on Monday & all was well...I always find it so nerve-wracking. She asked me if I wanted to know the sex, I said No, & she replied, Oh I'd better whizz past that bit then! Good job I wasn't really looking properly.
Am going back to the hospital this afternoon to see the consultant - ds was almost fatally ill with what his consultant told me to presume was strep B (he's fine now). Had completely unsympathetic midwife at booking-in (made me feel it was all a figment of my imagination) & wasn't due to see consultant until 28 wks (8 wks away!) so I just need to chat to find out what their treatment policy actually is in these cases. Feel like I'm banging my head on a brick wall. The neo-natal dept where ds spent 2.5 wks is the floor above antenatal, & yet (according to midwife) they can't access his notes!!
Will let you know how it goes (sorry this is long!)

Congratulations Cathncait and Scampadoodle on good scans - now I'm getting very nervous about mine (2 weeks to go). Sd - how old was ds when they thought he had strep b - must have been very scary.

Blimey Secur I don't know how you coped with that kind of schedule. Wouldn't want to go down that route I must admit.I feel guilty I guess cos I grew up never wanting to rely on someone else for my livelihood and I also worked (quite) hard to get qualifications and go to uni. As it happens I don't think it really helped me that much as I've kind of drifted through my so called career (s). But now I am having a crisis of identity and, as much as I love being a mum, that's not all I want to do. And my brain is going slightly mushy (but that's probably age and alcohol as well!). But saying that, being at home has made we wonder if I could actually ever work in an office again. It seems so unnatural now sitting in an enclosed space for 8 hours or more working a lot of the time for people I don't particularly respect. What I want best is to work from home or have my own business so it's just a case of finding something I love enough and am good at.

Excuse the maudlin' mood, must be the mixture of the rain and having had a major argument with dh last night.

Still, trying to end on a positive note I actually feel quite energetic at the moment and the weird rash I only get when pregnant on my neck seems to finally be going

Does anyone else's skin go completely bonkers when pregnant?

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Just back from the hospital... Doctor was v nice. Their policy is antibiotics in labour, not before, although obviously there needs to be some indication in your notes (I think they put a yellow sticker on the front) so I'm glad I stuck my neck out. Wouldn't have been necessary had the midwife taken the time to explain all this to me at my booking-in, instead of lecturing me on the evils of bananas... Anyway there was a med. student there - not a problem except that the doc took a vag. swab & i didn't have the heart to say he (the student) couldn't observe! After labour, I thought I had no pride left, but there are some remnants after all...

Anna: as soon as he was born (after normal pg & labour) he had breathing difficulties & was whisked to ITU, where he was for 7 days plus a further 10 in SCBU. However he's now a v v healthy & energetic(!) 2.4 yr old so I am v v lucky.

Bananas? What's wrong with bananas!?
Feta cheese is my craving... with German mustard and fruit-juice sweetned jam. Can anyone top that for weird?
So I won't give up dairy, just yet. I've been fine last few days with milder weather, just the cold wind that gives me headaches.
Being emotional wouldn't be so bad if, for instance, it gave me a monster sex drive, but no such luck (my poor DH....).
Guilty secret: I like groping other people's bumps. Have to restrain myself. Maybe I'm jealous... and it's a way of sharing the fun of it.
From nothing 3 weeks ago, this baby moves all the time nowadays, that's fun, too.

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Ah yes, bananas... The midwife was v dramatic (i think she was italian or spanish) & after listing all these foods I wasn't to touch (cakes, buns, biscuits) suddenly exclaimed "Oh, & bananas! You must be very careful of bananas!" I thought, my god, do bananas have some sort of parasite harmful to the foetus? No, it was because bananas have lots of calories... In case you wondering whether i am 2-ton Tessie, I am 5'8" & at the time was 67kg (about 10.5 stone).

Unfortunately for my excitable midwife, my craving is for hot cross buns. But also stir fries - in fact any oriental food. & I am eating as many bananas as I want!!

Feta cheese, mustard and jam - yeuugh! I've never had weird cravings but have been overdosing on anything with pastry and Cadbury creme eggs - mind you that last one isn't unusual, it just means the shops are stacked with them again I'd like to know what's evil about bananas as well cos I love 'em!

I had a 'join the dots' face for the first 4 months but thank God they've just about gone. Now I've got the weird rashy thing on my neck and eczema on my hands which I never get apart from when I'm pregnant.

Just about the only thing my birth plan said last time was 'no students' but it was totally ignored and I seemed to have had about 3 of them over the course of my labour. It was more Piccadilly Circus than I'd planned but I guess once I'd started labour I could have been in Wembley Arena and wouldn't have cared! Dignity, what dignity??

She's worrying about calories in bananas?? Good job she's not mind MW then, she'd have a heart attack over my calorie consumption.

A colleague of mine is due end of July & her community midwife is already telling her she'll have to give up work soon!

Some mws are great and the one that delivered dd1 was the most fantastic one I've ever met but God some are weird aren't they. I'm on a 1-2-1 scheme here which means I keep the same mw who's supposed to come to my house for most of the check-ups. Communication so far has not been good - she's so far failed to get any appointments right so I've had to go to the hospital and I suspect she may be like Matron in the Carry On films. Hope I'm wrong...

My colleague's midwife sounds a bit like that.

I had absolutely no confidence in my community midwife when I met her in my last pregnancy. After my first appt with her I wangled it so I went to the hospital instead. This time though, the mad hospital m/w was adamant that I have most of my a/natal appts at my GP's - despite the fact that I work v near the hospital in central london & that to see the community m/w i have to take ds with me...

have just realised I sound v down on midwives! Don't mean to at all - the majority are great & do a fantastic job!

I had a homebirth last time and my community MW actually attended, and she was great. But she called out her good friend to help, and I didn't like good friend MW so much, but 1 out of 2 ain't bad.

Anomaly scan today... They didn't find any important anomalies, either. But it's a low-lying placenta so back to hospital around 33 weeks to check it's moved.

I know you guys said only it's only 90% certain, but there were example of female/male genitalia on the display board outside, and... my baby was textbook all boy!! Scan lady was giggling she couldn't believe it wasn't as obvious to us as it was to her.

DH and I were a bit disappointed, tbh. We have the only girl on both sides of the family (8 other boys), so would have been nice to add still more feminity -- still, healthy is all we want!

Now, if we can only agree on some names...

Great news about your scan Cavy. My friend had the same problem with her placenta but it moved right towards the end, so fingers crossed for you. Incidentally, she's 7 months' pregnant now and has the same condition - have you had it before?

Your dd will probably be spoilt rotten by all those boys and just think what a greater pool of potential boyfriends she'll have to chose from when she's older (if she's that way inclined of course!).

Have you any favourite boys names? I daren't start drawing up a list until after my anomaly scan but me and dh are already disagreeing. But personally I can think of less boys names that I actually like than girls so hopefully task won't be as arduous.

Take care.

Hi all

We have finaly settled in at my mams, (as much as we can!) Booked in with my new midwife last week she is alot nicer than my olld one, will have my 20 week scan in two weeks (when I will be 22wks) this is to be combined with my consultants appointment so they can check on my dopplers. i have been told that it will probably mean scans every 4-5wks after that, will just have to wait and see.

Hope everyone is ok and now i am settled i will be able to join in the conversations!!! more again.

MIL has started to annoy dh and I already re buying things for the baby with out consulting as some of it is not to our taste!!!. I have told DH to have a quiet word with her and advised that we say that is lovely but we will leave the things at her house for the baby to have when we go and visit to save us having to pack everything into the car. Hopefully this will not cause a problem as we already do this woth some of the things they have bought for DD. Am I being wicked!!.

take care all

My mother drives me mad, getting things for ds. I know she's probably just trying to save us hassle, but it doesn't seem to occur to her that we'd like to choose them ourselves. Now that he's 2.5, it's "Oh, he'll be needing a duvet... I'll make him a cover, there's some nice material in John Lewis..." I'd really rather dh & I took ds to the shop & let him choose his own - it's a fun thing amidst all the usual drudge stuff!

BTW Cavy, congrats on the scan - & good luck Karen01.

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WE get stuff we don't need or like; a lot of generous relatives with variable taste, and their gifts have often gone straight into the charity shop bag.
Looks like I might try to sell some of it, instead. I'm not getting as much maternity pay as I thought I would get and I'm very unhappy about it. Things have been tight for us the last year so I was really hoping for more money on my leave.

I know plenty of people very much worse off than us, but I'm still upset about it. I think they deliberately didn't offer me more hours in the last few months because of having to pay me more maternity pay later (even though the government pays them most of it back!). Bummer, bummer, bummer.

Hello,
Hope you are all well. Sorry to hear about your probs with the scan Cavy - here's hoping it gets in position by 33 weeks! But congratulations on you 'boy'! I too am convinced ours will be a boy and am pleased to hear it is not just us who can't think of boy's names! Same last time as well but I was sure DD was a girl so wasn't too bothered.

Apologies for not joining in much over the last few days - just been busy finishing stuff for Uni, eventually getting my tax return done (yipee!) and as it was my birthday on Sunday (33 yrs young) having a nice relaxing day.

DH away again this week and feeling really guilty about DD this morning - the wee sweetie. She has got into a strange habit of wandering about upstairs in the middle of the night - says she is lonely and then jumps into our bed!
So said last night, now honey mummy is getting really tired with you getting up during the night and needs you to stay in your own bed, okay? Promise I will try my hardest mummy.
And as promised no small squeaky pink one sneaking about at 4am!
So this morning - Well done honey, that was really clever of you. Thank you very much for staying in bed last night.
Well mummy, when I woke up and was lonely I just got up and sat on the landing outside your bedroom for a wee while!

Aaahhhh - I know have this orphan Annie picture of small DD in nighty sitting on stairs, feeling sorry for herself and freezing her butt off. How bad do I feel! Although I am sure we will both cope with the trauma.

Feelin okay and at long last look a PG as opposed to fat! Sore hip/bum things is steadily getting worse - have a huge tubagrip to wear around my middle at the moment and will get v. sexy corset thing when bump gets a bit bigger. Seeing and osteopath and have an appointment for accupuncture next week so fingers crossed.

On the getting unwanted stuff - we have a big problem with MIL who buys all types of things for us and always has done so - from wallpaper for DDs bedroom (which we point blank refused to entertain), to side tables for our lounge (sent back), too many clothes to contemplate for DD (there are 3 wee girls fully dressed on the stuff DD has outgrown) - it just goes on and on. We just take what we want and say no thanks to the other stuff. I know what you mean about wanting to buy things for DD/DS thou - I felt all I ever bought was boring things like vests and socks!

This has turned into a marathon so I had best go and do some work now.

Take care.

Sounds terrible to moan about getting presents but both my MIL and mum seem to have found the only two shops in England that sell Victorian clothes for girls - they are bloody awful. My solution is to dress dd in it once, take a picture for MIL/mum and then stuff the clothes away! But I can get away with it cos both don't live too near and so we don't see them often enough for it to be an issue.

Do I have one of the only toddlers in the land who hates sleeping in her parent's bed??? We bring her in when she's ill but she cries to go back to her own room and cot! We can't be this lucky for ever...

Hi all. before i start sorry if this offends anyone

I need a bit of advise just been to the loo and had some green mucus(jelly like,) discharge on the knickers phoned up the hospital for some reassurance and they advised that i go to the doctors in the morning, or if i start getting pains to go the the delivery suite tonight to be checked out. Everything is flooding back from last time as i am about the stage everything went wrong then I just feel like crying !!!
I will let you all know the out come, it is probably an infection and i am panicing about nothing ( I hope so anyway)

Take care everyone.

Sorry to hear that, Karen. . Keep us posted?

Karen, I am thinking of you. Really hope everything works out ok. Let us know how it goes.

Oh Karen - my thoughts are with you. I hope things have gone well during the night. Good Luck at the Doctors this morning.
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