3 Boys Already... Expecting our 4th In December..Should we find out what we are having ?

[lou071979]

I would love to know of anyone in a similar situation to us...We have 3 lovely boys aged 13, 11 & 5 , We are expecting our 4th child on the 3rd December and we just cant agree on whether to find out the sex of it. We didnt know with any of the other 3 ! Would love your views !

I'm expecting my 4th, but it's the 5th between dh & I. I have 2 x ds's with xh, dh has dd with his ex and we have a dd together..... Still with me?!

I don't mind what we have but I know dh would love a son, and we'll def be finding out. Didn't have the option with the boys, but found out with dd and loved knowing. Also, I think it's another girl so want dh prepared!!!

Having a girl after two boys was a shock..... you have to embrace the pink sparkliness ! Are you veering one way or another about finding out?

Congratulations, OP!

A friend of mine said that you have to ask yourself honestly if you have a preference. If you do, then find out, so you can give yourself time to come to terms with 'disappointment' (sounds dreadful, I don't know how else to put it though!)

If you really don't mind, then I say don't! Such a lovely surprise!

I would only find out if your boys are particularly bothered either way.

I have two girls and have just had a baby boy. All were surprises (gender-wise, not the "I popped to the loo with tummy pains and hey presto 'here's a baby'" type way :o

Congratulations by the way - am v. jealous of you having a fourth :)

I had 3 boys (and knew with each pregnancy) and so very much wanted to know with my 4th - partly because I had before and found it helpful and partly because I am fundamentally nosy. I was psyched up for another boy and finding the whole 4 boy concept quite exciting - my nhs m/w ranted at me for wanting to know and wouldn't tell but it would have been helpful for planning purposes. Was invited for a free 4D scan by dh's colleague and it's as well I was lying down when she announced that dc4 was actually dd1. Completely delighted and tbh I liked having 18 weeks to get used to the idea rather than thrown in at the deep end! She is completely delicious and leads all 3 boys a merry dance.

I agree with Hannah

I didn't find out with my two boys but decided to with DC3. I had a feeling it was a girl but wasnt sure if this was a 'wanting'. I thought if it was a boy i needed to know now to prepare and likewise i it was a girl. When the sonographer said it was a girl i burst out crying. She's lush as are the boys!