Beach holiday with friends at 29 weeks?

[TheBeachIsCalling]

Please can I have your advice? A few weeks ago I was feeling fab and booked a week's holiday in Spain with some friends in a few weeks' time-I'll be about 29 weeks when I'm due to go.

However, since then I've had a few infections and been feeling generally very run down and have been signed off work for a couple of weeks. I'll have only just gone back to work for a week or so by the time this holiday comes around.

I'm in 2 minds-part of me really wants to go. DH and I haven't had a holiday this year and some sun might do us good. I also feel that if I cancel I'm letting him down.

However, it's already 35 degrees there, the apartment isn't air-conditioned and doesn't have any fans, and I'm waking up in the night too hot here... I'm worried that if I don't get enough sleep I'm going to get ill again. Also I'm struggling with work and ideally I could do with adding that week's leave to my maternity leave so that I can finish earlier. I'm also v nervous that if I have a scare eg. Can't feel baby move or get another infection it's much harder to find help.

I'm tempted to convert flights to a long weekend in the UK with just DH. any thoughts? Am I being ridiculous?

I think that you should do what your body tells you to. It might be very difficult to cope in that kind of heat, but on the other hand a not of sunshine and Vit D may make you feel fabulous! Personally, I would probably opt for the holiday alone with DH as it will probably be the last time in years that you will be able to get away on your own.

I'd be worried about the heat. Is there any way you could transfer to an apartment with A/C? That way, you could get lots of daytime naps in. Another thing to be mindful of is just how hard it is to get comfy on a beach with a bump unless there's sun loungers. You can't lie on your back or front, so positions for sunbathing are seriously limited! Hope you feel better soon.

We're staying in a friend's apartment so no potential to stay somewhere else. DH is really pissed off with me because he says he "told me so" that I wouldn't want to go when I got closer even though he didn't . If I don't go I've lost £300 on flights but if we go it will cost more in car hire, food etc and if I'm really miserable and stressed that really is a waste

Oops didn't mean to post yet! Never mind, was near enough there!

Well, if you really don't want to go then write the £300 off to experience and tell DH to shut-up try to understand. Has he never changed his mind before? How could you (or he) have known how you would feel in the future?

These mistakes happen and if you've never been pregnant before you couldn't possibly have any idea how thing would be. Even if one had been pregnant in the past, each pregnancy is different anyway!

Recently come back from Florida and don't have problem with being to hot at all. I baked like you wouldn't believe! Nearly got heat stroke, got prickly heat and found myself just tipping bottles of water over me fully clothed to keep myself slightly cool! It was only 30 degs!! But, the sunshine was lovely and under a shaded brolly and lots of dips in the pool or sea was good for me! Men can be so thoughtless sometimes, I don't think they realise there doing it half the time! But only you can make that decision! Pregnancy is full of surprises and constantly keeps us on our toes!!

Thanks for the advice everyone. Still don't know what to do . MIL says that if I don't go I'll be caving in to my anxiety and next thing I know I'll have become agraphobic and never leave the house 'in case something happens' Urghghg holidays aren't supposed to be stressful!!

ooh, bit extreme of MIL!!

I know totally how you feel... when I was 8 wks preg we booked a holiday in spain to stay with friends in their apartment for when I was around 18wks preg.
From 15-18 weeks I had a terrible cold, my daughter was being a monkey in the night, I felt constantly nauseous, dizzy, dreadful & dreaded the holiday, wondering if I could make excuses & we could cancel the flights in any way. Even on the flight I felt awful & thought what on earth have I done, I feel awful & should be at home in bed.

However, once there, we had a TOTALLY fab time, weather was gorgeous, I got plenty of rest as our 2 kids were entertained by being somewhere different. Heat was not a problem (although our friends apartment is a bit luxurious, I have to admit!) & I really enjoyed being away.

I also dreaded going away to France during my first preg - I cried & cried beforehand, asked my husband to cancel it (we were going with his parents). He refused, we went, again, another fab hols. Sometimes the worry / dread gets on top of you. It may well do you good just to get away, get abit of sun & relax with friends....

ps spain is so full of english - we went to marbella to stay with spanish friends, but EVERYONE seemed to speak perfect english, saw several signs up for english speaking drs (if you did need one)- why dont you look up the local maternity hospital before you go, not that you'll need one, but just to reassure you that you could find one if need be....?

Does the apartment have a pool? I think that would be a major factor in my decision if it was me. I'm going to Morocco next week at 25wks and have similar fears to you. Luckily I haven't been unwell at all, so I might cope even worse if I became ill on holiday and not know what to do with myself (if that makes sense!). I am telling myself that all the vitamin D will be great for me and baby, and all the swimming I plan to do will be good for toning too.

Only you can make the decision for yourself though, and your DH will have to lump it, he's not the one growing a human being is he! Have a great time wherever you end up.

One question: why can you not lie on your back?