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Sex - have a possible chance to find out tomorrow and don't know what to do?

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libranlady · 07/06/2011 15:25

I am pregnant with my third baby and have a scan tomorrow and can't decide whether or not to find out if I'm having a boy or girl. I have one of each already and found out on my first, but not my second....
In the long term I think it's more exciting not to know....but find it excruitiating to wait. Also much easier to prepare when you know.....What to do?

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nunnie · 07/06/2011 15:29

I had this too, I am currently pregnant with number 3 and have one of each flavour already and found out with both of those. Was going to do the suprise thing this time just to see what it was like, but when I led down I said we would like to know the sex if possible please. So I now know what I am having I have no self control!

sunface · 07/06/2011 15:35

well.... i've got 2 of the same flavour and this is no3. We found out with no2 but this time, i really didn't want to know (now regretting that mind you, having no space for anything and not sure whether to give old clothes away etc!!!!). Figured that as this would be our last, it would be good to have a surprise, but secretly wishing i'd found out now - don't tell my DH that though!!!

lovemybabyboy · 07/06/2011 15:43

I had my scan yesterday and didnt find out the sex, we found out with my ds, but DH would have preferred the suprise...so this time i let him have it his way and we are waiting for the suprise! I would love to know but will be nice having the suprise too. I have already convinced myself its another boy though! :)

KatieWatie · 07/06/2011 15:57

I had a similar dilemma OP, but in the end chose not to find out. I'm glad I didn't now, yes I'm itching to know but it's making this whole stage even more exciting :o

I just like surprises and I don't get many ('poor me' emoticon). I also can't wait to do the big 'reveal' to friends and family when baby finally arrives. Neutral babywear is easy enough to get hold of.

My poor niece chose to find out and has now ended up in a really quite bad position because they said they couldn't really tell but were 90% it was a girl. She might as well just not 'know'.

rubybambini · 07/06/2011 16:16

Ask the sonographer to write it down and put in a sealed envelope, then you can choose later. We did that. And didn't open it until we brought DD home =) (She was correct!)

clairefromsteps · 07/06/2011 17:22

Good idea rubybambini!

We have boy/girl twins and they were both DESPERATE for a baby sister as their friend at preschool has just had one. We found out so that we could prepare them in case it turned out they would be having a brother (they're not).

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libranlady · 08/06/2011 06:53

Thanks everyone for your comments. Still undecided but leaning more and more towards finding out....will let you know : )

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OrangeGloss · 08/06/2011 06:59

We had the same dilemma on Saturday, the sonographer wrote it down, and it's currently on the coffee table driving me mad. Hope you have better luck deciding :)

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libranlady · 08/06/2011 10:05

I just wouldn't have the will power for that. The envelope would be open before I get home from the clinic. I think that I really do want to know, but feel under pressure, strangely, not to find out because of others. I think other people like to have the surprise!

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KatieWatie · 08/06/2011 11:39

Maybe if you got it written down in an envelope and then stashed it away somewhere you'd be less tempted than if it was lying on a coffee table?

If you want to know then find out, don't worry about what others think or do. If you or DP have a slight gender preference then I would say find out so that you can get used to the idea.

Personally I'm glad I didn't find out because it suits me better and I love surprises (never been the sort to open presents early, DH struggles with this though :o), but I totally understand why people do find out and it's lovely when people go off for scans and find out what they're having.

Good luck with the scan today :)

suzisew · 08/06/2011 12:22

We're in the same position. Have our scan this afternoon and we still can't decide whether or not to find out! Good luck with yours :)

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libranlady · 08/06/2011 14:07

Ahhhhhh suzisew! Let me know what happened! Good luck with yours too!

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posypom · 08/06/2011 15:23

My DH really wanted to know but I didn't for the same reasons you've said libranlady, that other people like the surprise, but also because I was already sick of being given stupid advice (and this is my first!) and didn't want to add to it by giving people something else to meaninglessly comment on. So we did find out, but we haven't told anyone - not a single soul (and I'm not even going to tell you!). If you do this (and for us it was the best of both worlds - we knew and could bond/prepare but others will get a surprise at the birth), my advice would be to just tell everyone that you don't know, which I've done at work and it makes everything SOOOOOO much easier as you can smugly smile and nod along when they make comments about the shape of your bump meaning it's a girl/boy (v v fun when you know if they're right or wrong!) and no one cares if you call the baby he or she without thinking. I've told a few friends that we know and I've been disappointed by one or two of them (not my closest friends but people I trusted) trying to catch me out and guess the sex when they know my reasons for not telling anyone. If we do this for the next one then we'll just tell everyone that we don't know and save the hassle.

suzisew · 09/06/2011 07:36

How did it go libranlady ? Ours was wonderful although the legs were too close together do couldn't tell the sex anyway! We have to go back at 34 weeks to check one of the kidneys which was ever so slightly dilated, nothing to worry about but apparently it's quite common amongst boys so adds a new element to the guessing game :) Hope yours went well. posypom I think that's a great idea it must be so much fun!

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 09/06/2011 07:39

Libran, the solution to that is to find out but tell everyone you didn't.

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libranlady · 09/06/2011 11:46

In the end, we found out........it's a boy! Really pleased but totally surprised. Had completely convinced myself that he was a girl. Therefore, very glad that we know as I think I would have been properly shocked in the delivery room. It was completely obvious in the scan so we didn't even have to ask although the Dr. did confirm it 100% Now begins the name finding in earnest! Ernest??!! naaa

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libranlady · 09/06/2011 11:47

Oh and my two kiddies were with us and now know, so no chance of keeping it a secret.

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