ok I admit it - I HATE being pregnant.

[helsi]

I hated it first time and was hoping that this one wuld be so different and I would enjoy every minute of it - but I'm not. Its worse and have become so down and fed up I just want to sleep through the next 5 months.
I am now about to start my third week of absencefrom work due to hyperemesis gravidarum and also I think I felt the first twinges of SPD returning today (although at only 15 weeks I hope it isn't). I had SPD with first baby but not until about 32 weeks.

Poor you.

I had sickness that was bad enough but to have Hyperemesis that must be awful.

I have no wise words I'm afraid apart from just look forward to your scan dates etc.

Hope you feel a bit better soon

scan is 13 December. am going to find out what the sex is firstly for aa who is adamant she wants a girl but also for me as I am sure its a boy as pg sooo different.

Boss is coming to see me tmorrow to do my 14 day visit and I'm dreading it as to look at me I don't look ill. I have done nothing but cry today.

I hate it, too. You have my sympathies, helsi.

Am 36 weeks on Wednesday. This is our second and last, so I have something to look forward to - like joints that don't ache everytime I move, being able to eat w/o feeling boaky, being able to walk and play w/my kids w/o swelling up like a balloon and feeling knackered after 5 minutes, and wearing something besides the same clothes over and over again.

Awww I want to hug you!

{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

Does Hyperemesis eventually stop like morning sickness? Is there light at the end of the tunnel, before the 9th month?

apparently it should get easier by at least week 16 so here's hoping. Mine has not get better though yet and GP concerned as I am losing weight! I also suffered with depression last year (well late onset of PND) so they are watching that too. Gosh I am falling to peices!!

I have had a lot of time off work this pregnancy too, about 4 weeks so far. Mostly due to ongoing sinus infections. Is boss a man or a woman? If a man, it might help to have a letter from GP?

You never know then, over the next few weeks things might start to change!

Sickness and possible SPD aside, how are you feeling?

Tell me about the bloody sinus infections, cori. I'm trying to stave off ANOTHER. Phoned GP on Friday, who allowed for some paracetomol + codeine if the headache gets too bad. Had to take one today.

I've turned off the heat - it just bungs me up even worse.

37 + 2 today and hate it too. Can't wait to be free of worry (get stressed with every twitch and pain) and able to sleep a whole night. Want to be able to pick things up, put on socks, walk without creaking and stay awake beyond 10pm.

Not long to go tho.

yes its pretty shite isnt it.

if its any consolation (hah!) I went for a walk today and half way round had a huge twinge through my hips and back - just what happened last time where my hips practically fell out and I ended up being strapped up by a physio for the last month - and I am only 16 weeks

I must admit I can't imagine the energy I am going to need to loook after 3 children and where the hell is it going to come from??!!

sympathies x E

i hated being pg too, i had hg, the tablets did the trick for me took 2weeks to kick in fully

Going to lay on my front. Do Pilates and step aerobics. Zip on my boots - my ankles and feet are too puffy to wear them. Do up my coat. Wear pretty lingerie and fashionable tights. Wake up in the night for some other reason than stomach acid choking me or having to use the loo . . . again.

My hair has become an oil producing plant.

boss is a man and although he has my sick note i eamiled him a link to a site about hg just so he knoew what it was. Apparently he still has to go through the procedures as with any sickness absence but when it comes to considering an oral warning it will be a no as he can't give one for legal purposes! what the hell is the point in coming out to see me then?
the questions he will ask is how am I feeling? any idea when I might be up to coming back to work? (as if I am psycic) will this happen again? (well not in the next 5 months and then only if i shag my husband without protection you idiot!!).

Expat, you can take the basic sinutab medicine. It is safe in pregnancy.

Helsi, when I went back to work my boss and the nerve to insuate that my sickness might have been related to not being happy in my job. I was insulted. (I am not happy in it, but can put up with it for three days a week, especially as maternity leave is imminent.) I know nothing about your condition, but I take it you dont know how long will last do you? How many times a day are you sick?

Tried sinutab. It did nothing . Had to break out my netti pot at 4AM this morning, was still unable to get back to sleep till 7 this morning. Wasn't able to fall asleep till 1AM b/c of being bunged up and having post nasal drip that would choke me.

you poor thing helsi - I was sick as a dog for the forst 18 weeks of my 2nd pregnancy, then just less sick for the rest, had backache and sciatica due to bad positioning of the baby, insomnia.....the whole thing was dreadful. DO NOT feel guilty about dislikeing pregnancy - a lot of us do!!!!

helsi, when you have HG being PG IS BLOODY AWFUL. Of course it is. I finish every PG begging Dh to remind me what it was like so I don't go back there again. I never listen, but I mean it at the time.

Hav eyou got any one with HG experience to chat to? I used to be a contact for Blooming Awful if you ever do want a chat, CAT me and I'll e-mail you my number. Always willing to listen.

My HG first time went at 20 weeks if that helps? I didn't help it though, I wouldn't stop until I was hospitalised on a drip. Then after being off sick for 7 weeks, I went back at 100% and guess what? Got ill again.

I don't know if it backs anything up BTW, but I think the PG's can be different with sickness; there's not a boys-you-sick-rule or anything, but in individuals: my Mum was never sick and had three girls, I had the HG (was medicated early on in pg's 2 and 3) with all three boys.

do you know how many people would love ur symptms??? i had 4 m/c and love to be in ur pos

poor you, helsi. Have just had a 2nd horrible pregnancy and am just starting to feel human again, so huge sympathies are due to you.

I had hg too with my 2nd preg, then spd and placanta praevia (had these with 1st preg as well) so I was off work for ages at a time and also on bed rest feeling pretty shite for what seemd like bloody AGES. The best advice I can give you is:
1)just accept the work situation. Alto you probably feel really awful and guilty there's absolutely NOTHING you can do about it so you just have to get over the guilt and concentrate on trying to rest. Hopefully you'll be over the worst of it soon. Mine went after about 15/16 weeks.
2) see an osteopath or a chiropractor about the spd, one that has experience of spd. in my 1st pg I just saw the hospital physio, who gave group sessions, which were useful in some ways but not very good at easing the pain. This time round as soon as I had the first twinges (about 18wks) I booked myself some sessions with an osteo who I'd seen between pregnancies about back pain and who was really good. I saw him then either weekly or fortnightly from 5 months til 8 and it REALLY helped. I only used my crutches twice this pregnancy whereas I'd been on them all the time with no.1. Yes, I had to pay but I figured that I could use the money I'd have been spending on going out and clothes, etc now I was a stay-at-home invalid! If you can aford just one session per month it'll be well worth it.

I know it's no good telling you it'll all be worth it as I got heartily sick of being told that when the whole miserable pregnancy was stretching out in front of me - but try to be positive if you can. Cathch up on reading if you feel well enough to read at the moment, and shitty daytime tv (what i don't know now about buying and selling houses and car boot sales, is no-ones' business!)

Good luck. X

regmum, I really sympathise but that's not really fair is it? HG is a severe illness. I ended up in a coma due to dehydration, if Dh hadn't come home from work early I believe I'd be dead (no relatuions nearbyu, no fluid for 2 days, Dh supposed to be working away). i know it's very rare and people don't now a lot about it but it is a horrible, traumatic experience. I have spoken to people (usually Americans) who have been forced into terminations by the condition, and I know one particular mother who ended up with puerparal (sp) psychosis that was attributed to the stress of the illness.

Obviously what has happened to you is awful and I am sorry for your losses.

regmum - sorry about your miscarriages. but HG and spd are bloody miserable whatever your situation and it won't be helpful for helsi making her feel guilty. I tried for 2 years for dd2 during which time I was v depressed but it didn't stop me feeling very low when I had HG and spd and placenta praevia. have a heart

I have been through two M/Cs but there is no way I would ever want HG.
I have heard stories of some women who have had
been hospitalised for there entire pregnancies, or have had to terminate because they are so ill they just waste away.

regmum - i really sympathise with you as last week i had my 6th m/c but i think what you said was out of order! my 2 succesful pregnacies were plagued with problems i had sickness till 5 months then choleastasis the last four months. And i can honestly say at times i hated being pregnant! Please think about your choice of words

I know a woman who lost 5 STONES! I only lost 2. Then I gained 1.5 with pre-eclampsia overnight! You should see (or maybe not) my stretchmarks.

Fortunately termination is rare, but it does happen. Sometimes it just has to if Mum cn't tolerate anything.

Helsi, have you tried Zofran? Never tried it myself but coied this from Blooming Awful:

Zofran
Zofran is not a universally effective drug for HG but it seems anecdotally to be successful in more cases than other, more widely used anti-emetics. Unfortunately for those who are keen to get hold of Zofran, the only official research on the drug's use for HG states that it is no more effective than promethazine (a conventional anti-emetic drug) and there is no research-based evidence that the drug is safe to use in human pregnancy, so many doctors are unwilling to prescribe it.

Added to that, its extremely high price means that the NHS is unwilling to prescribe it if there is another drug that might be good enough. In practice, this can mean that Zofran is not an option at all or is only available in hospital - once the vomiting is under control and the patient is allowed home, most hospitals refuse to continue the Zofran which almost invariably results in the patient returning to hospital dehydrated again. If you are trying to fight your case for taking Zofran home, it's worth mentioning that it would cost less to keep taking it and stay at home than to stop taking it and be hospitalised - hospital beds cost a lot of money. We know of one couple in the UK who have successfully made this argument to their hospital.

From our anecdotal information, it's important that the dosage is both high enough and taken regularly, and that the patient is weaned off them rather than stopping the drug suddenly. For more information, see the Anecdotal information on the Zofran page of this web site. It may also help your doctor to look at the Info for medics page which includes a link to current (ongoing) research on this drug.

I am told it is the best available (or was when the site was written a few years ago).

I did the same thing as you, copied a pge about HG for my boss with first HG. otherwise everyone says 'Oh, it's just morning sickness'.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thank regmum - you must be a really nice person to wish illness on people. I am sorry for your losses but the fact is that pregnancy does happen - life goes on and some people have it easy some not so.

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