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Has anyone ever announced their pregnancy at or around 7 weeks?

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 12:02

Its becoming impossible for me to hide it any longer, I'm getting hounded by people wanting to have drinks as its the holidays - wanting to book holidays for the end of the summer etc... and I really just need to announce it this weekend.

Any stories?

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ItsallabouttheBunnyBunnyBunny · 22/04/2011 12:06

I announced almost straight away with dc4. I had a rubella scare, rang my dm in tears, thinking I would lose the baby, she ignored the scary part, told my sil, who announced it on fb [buhmm]
I was 4w 3days.

apricotears · 22/04/2011 12:13

OMG Bunny Bunny, that is so inconsiderate of your SIL [bushock] So much for your news to tell....

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 12:15

Im just worried to tell as this is my first :S

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randomimposter · 22/04/2011 12:17

You can announce it whenever you want.

Like any action, it has possible consequences.

In this case in the event of something going wrong with the pregnancy you would have to deal with the reactions of a larger group of people, which may or not be useful in the circumstances. Depends on you and them really.

Hopefully of course though that won't be an issue.

Good luck.

thenightsky · 22/04/2011 12:21

I did at about 6 weeks and miscarried at 9 weeks

BestNameEver · 22/04/2011 12:22

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Bumply · 22/04/2011 12:23

I announced ds1 at about that time as I was so excited I couldn't keep it to myself. I pissed off a couple of colleagues who were further along in pregnancy but hadn't said anything yet, as they felt I'd stolen their limelight!

SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 12:27

We announced at 8 weeks to family and lost that pregnancy at 9 weeks.
Maybe you could tell just very close friends and family - those you would want to know if it didn't work out.

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 12:31

You's have all scared me so I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut for another 5 weeks. I will most likely loose some friends along the way though as I have been avoiding them for 3 weeks already.

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BertieBotts · 22/04/2011 12:34

Why don't you just make excuses for the drinking/holiday thing? Say you're a bit skint this year and wanting to save so prob won't be going on holiday. And with the drinking, why not do something else like suggest a BBQ or something? Then you can pretend you are drinking with a stash of alcohol free wine hidden in a cupboard or something

SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 12:35

DOn't be silly, you don't have to avoid them. You can book holidays, go out for drinks etc. You don't have to drink alcohol. Or you could go get the drinks yourself and get just lemonade and say it's G and T.

You're being rather overdramatic about it all. You're not the first woman to be pregnant, you know

ChristinedePizan · 22/04/2011 12:37

I had a massive 40th birthday party (6 of us together - about 200 people there, vast quantities of booze laid on) when I was pregnant and wandered around with the same glass of champagne in my hand all night. Absolutely no one noticed. And you can go on holiday when you're pregnant can't you? Is there a law against it?

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 12:39

South I asked for stories of other people who had told early as I am worried to tell then something going wrong. I didnt ask for any smart arse unnecessary comments so please f*ck off and take it else where yeah?

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SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 12:40

You sound like a really nice person.

ChristinedePizan · 22/04/2011 12:40

Oh and I did tell some people shortly after that and I had a miscarriage. So the next one I kept totally under my hat until the 12 week scan

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 12:41

You dont.

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SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 12:42

It was sarcasm. Oh never mind.

BlooferLady · 22/04/2011 12:43

Are you sure you're showing ?! Seems very early. Anyway - sadly I think there's good reason why people don't announce owt until after the 12 week scan...

JaneS · 22/04/2011 12:46

South, I've no idea what your problem is but your comments are really unnecessary and unpleasant. The whole point of MN is that we talk about loads of stuff that's happened before (duh!), so so what if the OP's not the first woman ever to be pregnant? It's all new to her, isn't it?

lovetheway - isn't refusing a drink and smiling mysteriously all part of the fun? Congratulations btw.

lunafire · 22/04/2011 12:48

I've told my family as soon as I've had the +ve test (around 4/5 weeks) with all 4 of my pregnancies. 2 ended in early m/c's and whilst it was a awful having to tell them all about the losses, having their support and hugs really helped.

Badgerwife · 22/04/2011 12:52

I had to tell my boss around that time as I was getting signed off by the doctor with morning sickness and thought she'd be more understanding. Best decision I made, as the first thing she did was buy me a laptop so I could work from home whenever I felt too unwell or have midwife appointments. In the end I was off for 4 weeks and I know it was the right thing to have done.

I don't think there is anything right or wrong about telling early, especially if like me you just can't keep your mouth shut [bugrin]. But we didn't tell anyone else because of the risks of miscarriage before 12 weeks. However, people did suspect because I was so ill, and I lied a few times. If people guess, it can't be helped.

nickelbaalamb · 22/04/2011 12:53

I told everyone as soon as I found out, really - family first, then others a bit later.
Not an official announcement (apart from at Choir, but DH did that, and it more because I was knackered and starving, and couldn't stand for long!)

Not everyone knows, but those who knew we were trying do, I could never keep it in for 12 weeks! (still got 4 weeks to go till then)

SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 12:55

Hi LittleRed,

I don't have a problem at all. I gave OP a reasonable answer to her first question, she responded that she would "loose her friends" as she wouldn't be able to see them for a few weeks. I suggested she was making unnecessary fuss.

She told me to fuck off.

I know what MN is about. Yes pregnancy is new to her, but if she is making more fuss than is necessary, isn't it Ok to say so? Isn't she asking us for our experience?

I've been on MN for 2 years and never got into a spat like this before - I don't think it's me.

I think telling me to fuck off for a reasonable comment related to her OP is rather rude.

Sorry for the hijack.

In summary OP probably best to keep it to yourself for a while longer.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 12:57

Its hard isnt it?

I show early on, its mostly water and wind though so it will probably go down a bit, dont be alarmed. Dont forget that when you look down on your belly it looks MUCH bigger than from another person's veiw point

If you tell people it wont tempt fate. That is not how things work, it will perhaps make it more difficult if someone horrible happens.

Pesonally I would keep it quiet as long as possible or it will just go on and on and on and on......

But thats hard with your first. By the time you get to your 5th, never mind telling others, you forget yourself! [bugrin]

OMG so broody now.

youcangetpregnantstandingup · 22/04/2011 12:58

hi, congratulations on your pregnancy! I am 9 weeks with dc4 and trying to keep it secret. All I would say is, and I am sure this WON'T happen but it is just something to consider, I announced at about 6 weeks with previous pregnancy and I miscarried a week later.

Having to tell everyone or getting my dh to just added to the upset and made it harder to recover afterwards because people kept bringing it up and asking me if I was ok and looking at me as if I was about to burst into tears when someone else was pregnant (which I was!).

So that would be my only advice. I'm sure everything will be fine but that is the drawback of telling people early if something goes wrong.

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